Natural Miscarriage at 8wks. Experiences?

[TTCAbroad]

Hello all

I found out a week and a bit ago that the baby's (fetus? not sure the terms) heartbeat stopped at 8 weeks. I've opted for expectant management as I'm not massively keen on a surgery, even a fairly minor one. I started very light spotting two days ago and progressed to a medium amount of bleeding this morning.

I was wondering if anyone could share their experiences? How long did it take you to progress from normal 'period like' bleeding to heavier bleeding and cramps? I haven't had any cramps yet so I'm a little nervous sitting here waiting for the pain to hit.

I know everyone's experience is different but it would be nice to chat to someone.

Thank you!

I’m so sorry for your loss. I also had an MMC at 8 weeks, but ended up with the ERPC a few weeks later as had no natural loss. Sorry I can’t help with your specific question, but just wanted to say I’m thinking of you, it’s not an easy thing to go through and I hope you are able to take it easy for a week or so.

Hello lovely, I’m so sorry you are going through this. I had a natural miscarriage at 8.5 weeks last year, so thought I would share my experience with you 💐 . I started to feel very bloated and in bit of pain around lunchtime. I found it difficult to walk. Then the spotting started. This went on for a few hours (bleeding, not too much pain, more like manageable menstrual cramps) before I passed the foetus and placenta at 1am. This didn’t hurt, it was more shocking. The emotional side, too. Sorry, I don’t mean to be graphic, but as stupid as it sounds, I was a bit stunned, as no one tells you (that was my first mc). Had a scan the next morning and it was confirmed I had miscarried naturally, everything had gone. I was thankful that my body had been ‘so efficient’, if you like, as I wouldn’t require another procedure, but it’s still so upsetting. Look after yourself, mentally and physically. That night and the following night, the period like pains were bad, I’m not going to lie. Not loads of blood or anything, but bad cramps. I have endometriosis, so my periods are painful but this was ‘double strength’. Have ibuprofen to hand, and take time of work to recover if you can. I felt mentally and physically spent for at least a week afterward. I know this differs with everyone. Everyone says they are so common, it doesn’t stop you feeling alone. I’m so sorry you are experiencing this.

@daisydalrymple Thank you for responding. My husband has been really great, but we aren't sharing the news with anyone at the moment so it's really nice to hear kind words from someone who has been through it. I'm very sorry about your loss

@Marrowfatpeas Thank you so much for sharing your experience with me, though I'm sorry that you have an experience to share at all. It's a little bit of a relief to hear that your pain wasn't unbearable and your didn't bleed excessively. Unfortunately, the few stories I've read online usually involve both so I was starting to expect that it was always extremely painful. No need to apologise for being graphic - forwarned in forearmed I think. I'm hoping it resolves itself sooner rather than later .

@TTCAbroad try not to worry about the physical pain, you are stronger than you know. Condolences to you & your husband x

My 8 week miscarriage took 3 uncomfortable days before I passed it. My 11 week one was 1 day like a light period, then half a day of agony. So a mixed bag here. Take your paracetamol at set times, it helps to keep on top of it and not forget a dose. Be nice to yourself. It's totally normal to feel tired and a bit weak afterwards. Just sleep when you need it and have someone else make dinner or just order some. Don't be surprised if you vomit at one point, I vomited just before the end both times.

I was told yesterday that there was no heartbeat at our scan. We were 8 week + 3 and we got pregnant with IVF.
I had bad cramping, bleeding and clots through the night Tuesday but have only had cramps and bleeding since then. I guess I still need to pass the tissue but I’m so scared 🙁😢

Hi all - I passed the placenta and sac today. At least I think I did because it was very painful. I'm going to write a summary here just in case someone finds it helpful someday.

I had three days of spotting/blood beforehand. Starting off as just a pinkish colour every time I peed and progressing to a light/medium flow up until this morning. This morning I started to finally get some light cramping at about 7:30am progressing to heavier, intense period like cramps by about 9:30. I called my husband to come home around 10 as they were continuing to get more intense. By about 11am I was having cramping and pain beyond what I've ever felt before (keeping in mind I've always been lucky with mild/moderate and only occasionally heavy cramping during my periods). Around between about 11:10 and 11:45 I had near continuous intense pain. At some point I think I passed the placenta or a clot and the bleeding stopped. The pain got worse for about 10 minutes to the point where my hands where cramping and tingling. This freaked me out so my husband called my OBGYN (I'm very lucky to live in a country where I have my OBGYN's direct line for emergencies). She reassured my husband that this was OK and I needed to just try and keep calm. A few minutes later I think passed the gestational sac and the pain very quickly eased to intermittent heavy period cramps and the moderate bleeding returned. I took some paracetamol and ibuprofene and was able to go to bed. Worth noting that I was sitting on the toilet for about 40 minutes during the most intense pain. Fortunately I didn't feel ill or vomit. Unfortunately I didn't have a hot water bottle which I think would have been helpful for the period like cramps. The cramps have remained throughout the day and only really returned when I forgot to take the painkillers.

It wasn't pleasant but the intense pain didn't last very long for me and afterwards was made bearable by standard painkillers. I'm sorry if you're reading this because you have or might have to go through it. But, try to keep warm and breathe evenly. I found I felt more out of control when I wasn't focusing on my breath.

@KLA66 Are you sure you didn't already pass the tissue? Did you have any clots? I hope you're feeling OK right now

I started getting some red appear overnight Sunday, followed by red on the tissue whenever I went to the toilet during the day. Overnight Monday was when I had constant cramping, blood and clots. Went to the hosp on Tues where they confirmed they was no heartbeat.
I have had lots of cramping and bleeding since then but no signs of anything else.
I’m scared to pass the sac if I haven’t already 😔 I know it won’t hurt as such but I just feel so worried for when it happens?! If it will happen?!

I think it's really natural to feel worried - and remember there is always other options for management even if they aren't your first choice. Do you have any specific worries that you could discuss with a medical professional? Or is it the worry of the unknown?

3 days of light bleeding then everything really kicked off for me on the 4th day

I think I just want to be able to stay at home through this process. I have a follow up app in 2 weeks so I guess if my body hasn’t done what it needs to I’ll have to have a procedure anyway.
It’s just the unknown that scares me. Not knowing what I’ll see, when it’ll happen, how.
Just a lot to process.
We had been trying for 5 years and this was an IVF pregnancy, so it’s been a lot

so sorry to read everyones post on here :(
@KLA66 devastated for you hearing about your IVF pregnancy and now suffering a miscarriage - im so so sorry.
as OP said, do u think youve already passed the tissue? if you have had clots already?
im definitely no expert, but we found out fri we had a MMC and it all happened this week - i wasnt sure what to expect and whether wat was experienced was normal, so I rang the EPAU where i was seen over the weekend. she said clots for 24h or so was normal and then expected it to be normal bleeding. yesterday was horrific for me with pain and big clots but today its just more heavy bleeding and normal bad period pain. i dont know yet if this is it, or whether it's all gone but guess assuming so based on what the nurse told me to expect. I agree with u its the unknown thats scary but perhaps ...in terms of the physical process....maybe the worst is over? my thoughts are with u, they really are x

I am so sorry to read of everyone’s experiences on this thread. 😥 I thought I’d add my experience of a medically dealt with situation to help anyone who has googled this subject or just to give another angle. In June we discovered at a scan at 8 weeks that I had miscarried. The tissue did not pass on it’s own and so I had a medical management and as part of that they did a hysteroscopy to see what was going on and to check they got it all. This involves inserting a camera. I was asleep for this. Waking up, the physical pain hit me like a train wreck.
I’m glad in retrospect that they did this as they found a fairly large fibroid which they removed. This fibroid was not visible on the scan and would have also meant that any future pregnancies would likely end the same way. They also removed some endometriosis. Two months later I fell pregnant again and so I am so grateful to have gone through the surgery.
The emotional pain is huge ... hand holds for everyone and I pray that you all have your rainbow babies very soon xx

@KLA66 sending a hug and a prayer that it will soon be all over. I too waited for years. Don’t give up. Xx

Condolences @TTCAbroad and well done for sharing your painful story. Stories like this really helped me when I was going through it.

Miscarriage. At 8 weeks , 3rd pregnancy. I was out at the splash park with my children and had some cramping through the day but I was very busy and honestly didn't think about it. I think I brushed it off as pain from holding in a wee. So after some time I finally found a toilet and was shocked to find my pants , and shorts were soaked with blood. More blood came out when I went for a wee. Then i started to cramp more. I hadn't realized my pants were wet because I was also went from getting splashed by the kids lots. I phoned my husband to get off work and pick us up , I don't drive and was an hour away from home. Luckily close to his work. So I went and sat on the grass feeling quite spaced out. Very shocked and shooken up. Trying to explain to the kids I'm sorry we have to leave now suddenly mummy has an ouch. We went to the hospital as obviously I kind of knew what it was but I needed someone to tell me that to believe it. I also had rehsus negative blood so I needed the anti d injection straight away. Unfortunately the hospital didn't have it I had to go the next day and travel round asking pharmacies... Finally found one and took it to my gynaecologist to administer... It was expensive ... And depressing. Walking around like a normal person I felt like shouting at everyone " my baby just died move out the fuckinng way". It was a very strange week. Sometimes I felt just ditched from it all and sometimes just completely lost feeling , the plans I'd made , the excitement , I told all my family already they live in a different country so I just wanted to share with them. And the fact I live in a different country away from all family and Friends was the worst part. I was really lonely in my house of lovely children and lively husband. Sad. It is what it is. We will try again. My heart goes out to those who miscarriage in all situations it's difficult ❤️

Bleeding lasted 5 days and there were lots of clots. It wasn't too painful after the 2nd day , like a period . But first 2 days was like early labour pains.

Difficult to expect as I had a scan just days before and heard the heartbeat.

Hi,
I am sorry you had to go through that. I completely empathise with you and all others because I miscarried myself at 8 weeks, a day after we saw the heartbeat. It was a missed miscarriage, so didnt find out up until 10+1 when i went in for an emergency scan because I started spotting a little and freaked out. At the scan, the sonographer told me the baby (embryo) didnt grow past the last scan.
Shortly after the scan, i started cramping that kept getting stronger, I took paracetamol to ease my pain as ibuprofen may worsen the bleeding (doc said), i slept all night and passed the embryo the next morning (5 Aug). The bleeding continued like a heavy period for 1-2 days before stopping completely after a week (12 Aug). Went for a scan today and the doctor suspects that i may have RPOC, I have been cramping ever since the bleeding stopped, much like you do before your period. The doc wants me to wait and go for another scan in 5 days just to be certain. Does anyone have any idea why I'd need another scan? and is the cramping normal especially since the bleeding stopped?
I am looking to find some guidance on whether its crucial to get a D n C or if i should let my body do its thing.
PS: the doc has already put me on antibiotics just to be on the safe side.

I am so sorry to hear about your losses. But this thread (as many others on mumsnet) were a lifeline for me going throught he same experience. So I thought I would add my process here in case someone else googles this info as I did.

Day 1:
12 week scan - found out baby heart stopped at 8 weeks
Up to that point I was getting some light brown discharge, very minimal
I decided to do the Surgical management.
In that same evening, i started feeling cramps, like period

Day 2:
Hospital told me I had to be rebooked for the afternoon as emergency had other priorities. As my cramps were still happening, I decided to go home and see if everything happened naturally. Which it did.
8pm: Flush of transparent liquid came out
10pm - 6am: constant trips to toilet, with pads being filled every hour, then flushes of blood and sounds of clot being dropped in the toilet. At that point I was feeling very light headed, and having hot water bottle was really helping with the pain.
6am - 10am: cramps became contractions, still bleeding but pain was getting really hard to cope
10am - 6pm: cramps stopped. But I still had a feeling it wasn't over. Feeling very tired as well, but took time to rest.
6pm - 10pm: heavy contractions again, really painfull and almost constant. No bleeding. Then in the end very strong pain, went to toilet and pushed a bit. Something came out, I couldn't really see anything, but there was a relief feeling straight away. All pain was gone and I felt a bit shaky.

Hospital told me to go A&E if I was bleeding too much, which means feeling 1 pad per half an hour. So thought it was a good information to share as well.

I was glad everything happened at home, but I had the full suport of my husband.

Although it was super painful process, I do feel it helps to heal and recover from the trauma. As you feel it by every minute of the experience.