Struggling i think I need to speak to someone

[Cisco2]

I had a d&c back in May at 13 weeks. This pregnancy was after 3 rounds of ivf so we were beyond happy. But sadly at our 12 week scan several abnormalities were found and we had a d&c a week later. It was not an easy decision but looking back i think I rushed into it and I now deeply regret it.

I feel so sorrowful all the time and upset. I think I need to speak to someone or have counselling but not sure where to start. Any tips greatly appreciated.

TIA

So sorry for your loss the fertility unit should be able to offer you counselling so contact and ask them. Tommys do have midwives trained in bereavement support and the GP will be able to signpost you to some services but I doubt they would be as specialised as a counsellor attached to IVF clinic or MW. So sorry Cisco, I know the thrill of an IVF pregnancy and the devastation of loss. Take care of yourself.
www.tommys.org/pregnancy-information/pregnancy-complications/baby-loss/miscarriage/support-after-miscarriage/getting-more-support

Thank you so much I appreciate your suggestions

I have to specific advice but I just wanted to say I am so sorry for your loss xx

I’m so sorry for your loss. I had an ectopic pregnancy recently and found it so helpful to speak to a counsellor. I had several sessions, I found myself looking forward to them and banking my thoughts to speak through with her.

The hospital gave me a card for an NHS counsellor. I just googled local counsellors and went privately.

Your work might also be able to put you in touch? My boss signposted next to where I would find the contact details so I could have had counselling through work too.

I’m so sorry you’re going through all this.

@Cisco2 I saw a therapist through a charity after my miscarriage and it helped me massively id definetly recommend

@Cisco2 I am so very sorry for your loss.

I can’t recommend talking to someone enough. I’d hit rock bottom and someone on here kindly suggested contacting the charity Petals m. Honestly, it was the best thing I could’ve done. Having someone validate my feelings and teaching me to talk about my precious boy has been amazing.

Sending you strength and best wishes.

The Miscarriage Society are really helpful and provide an out of hours telephone service if you need to speak to someone at any time.