I wanted to post some things that helped me in case they help you op, or you @Scuttlingherbert
All these are so personal as to what will help different people
I should say that now I wish I had called Tommy’s the baby charity helpline. They will support women through miscarriage and I called them about something else years later and I found they were so good. I would really recommend trying to call them to see if the support there is helpful to you.
These things helped me:
Lots of time spent in bed or on the sofa with box sets and comforting food. I think I watched Friends plus Sex and the City from end to end. It basically anaesthetised me when I couldn’t function normally.
I watched a lot of old films - Harry Potter etc, again just to take my mind off things.
I had a thread on here and posted when I felt most bleak. People were so supportive and promised that this too will pass. This really helped because I was struggling to talk abut my mc in RL
I bought a book on mc and read it. I couldn’t make sense of why it had happened and even though I had no further certainty when I’d read it, for me getting to that point where I could accept I would never know was helpful.
I wanted to know what my chances were of another mc because I was feeling desperate and like I was bound to have another mc and would never carry a baby to term. I found reading the statistics helpful.
These things helped a friend who had mc:
Buying something to remember her babies. She got special bracelets and still wears them now 15 years on. I have spoken to other women who have done other things that helped mark their babies’ memory, like planting a tree or flowers for them.