8 weeks and think it's happening again

[charpley162]

Don't really know what I want from this...maybe just a bit of support. I had a MMC in feb at 11 weeks, baby stopped developing 6/7 weeks. Then another miscarriage in may 5/6 weeks. I currently 8 weeks pregnant. I've been bleeding/ spotting brown blood for a week mainly spotting but sometimes heavier, had this exact same with my MMC. Slight cramps. But I just know it's happened again. No help from EPU unless the bleeding is extremely heavy. I've ended up booking a private scan for tomorrow because I just want to have this sorted. My previous MMC was awful because my body thought I was further on than I was and ended up in hospital with bleeding and have to have it physically removed during an examination due to blockage. I told Epu all this and still just said to test a week after bleeding stops and if it's positive assume all is fine. Feel so dismissed and fed up 😞

I am so sorry you've been unsupported by the epu ❤️ I recently had my 4th miscarriage (my 3rd mmc) and felt similar about my epu - I'm actually drafting out a complaint. It's hard enough to go through the trauma of a miscarriage without the service that's supposed to help you adding more stress to the situation.

I managed to change to a different epu, is that an option for you? I hope that your scan brings clarity tomorrow, sending love xx

Thanks @VenusStarr for your reply. I don't think I could as I think it's the same trust for my next local one.

I totally agree, I think if it's something they normally do then they should. I hate being told "bleeding is very normal" when you've been through losses. Ive barely slept all week I feel awful. So sorry you have been through similar too.

I was also thinking of doing that, or didn't know if writing to my local mp would help as different hospitals in different areas have different rules?

It's awful how different trusts have different procedures @charpley162. Because I was known to my original epu, they saw me when I had a bleed but if it had been my first pregnancy I think they'd have said no. But as it happens they didn't offer any support beyond the scan and then basically left me to it, which is why I'm complaining - I needed this one testing, but they just offered nothing. I desperately wanted to avoid going there as they'd been awful on previous pregnancies.

You could go to an A&E at a different hospital and they'll refer you to their epu? Or explain that the pain or bleeding is worse? I feel awful for suggesting that, but it's terrible that they aren't offering basic care. I'm sorry this is happening xx

That's awful @VenusStarr it's just not good for your mental health either as well as physically. I know they can't always prevent things but they can sometimes stop it being as horrendous. I also feel the earlier I've found out the easier (as it can be)

I did consider that actually. And I still might. I'll see what happens at the scan tomorrow. But yeh I was going to lie and say the bleeding was really bad. I haven't even bothered booking in with midwife yet cos I don't want to bother for no reason!

Sorry that you are going through this difficult time. I get treated the same way with my miscarriages as well. I go to Epu Royal Berks and they have treated me very badly but some doctors in the EPU have been amazing. I have had two miscarriages and a few chemical miscarriages. I now go for private scans when I need more reassurance. Just before my second miscarrage I had a threatened miscarriage and I went to a private doctor who put me on progesterone. Last time when the EPU wouldn’t see me I called my GP and she got me in. I went to the emergency unit once but they didn’t help at all.

@Loveisallyaneed so sorry to hear what you have been through. In the past the Epu have been great, it's with covid they're being really really strict. It's just so stressful isn't it. I've been taking aspirin low dose this pregnancy after reading good things. Yeh I went to a&e the first time and they referred me. I've tried ringing Epu this time and my go tried ringing for me too and both were told there is nothing they can do. At least tomorrow I will have some closure and can move on

Good luck for tomorrow. You deserve to be help, make sure you get treated well and get the answers you need.

@Loveisallyaneed thanks xx

So good news and bad news today. Measuring 7+4 which is great and had a perfect heartbeat 😍. However the sac was measuring 1 week behind, baby looked squished. She said she wasn't sure if it mattered or not but to contact gp in the morning. When I've researched it, it seems that this pregnancy will end at some point. Feel no further forward because still in limbo 😞

I'm sorry you've had confusing news @charpley162. Good news that there is a heartbeat and baby is measuring similar to your dates.

Definitely speak to your GP and try and avoid Google. I've not been in this situation, but I've had many scans and I think when they are so small it can be difficult to get accurate details.

I hope you get some clarity soon, sending lots of love xx

@VenusStarr thanks you! Yes trying to be positive and need to stop looking on google as I've already made that mistake! The private scan referred me to Epu so I've just had a scan with them, still a heartbeat but agreed sac is very small, she said she has never seen it before. Waiting to speak to the nurse now, everyone seems very unsure! But at least getting some help now x

I'm so pleased you're being followed up today @charpley162 ❤️ it's a very anxious time. It might just mean you need more monitoring. Let me know what the nurse says xx

@VenusStarr so the nurse said that they don't really use that as a way of seeing if things are ok. So as far as they're concerned if there's a heartbeat everything's ok. So just going to have to wait now until my 12 weeks scan. Hopefully the spotting calms down too cos that's stressing me out as it's just constant. Thanks for the support! Xx

Sorry things have been so stressful for you OP. Have got everything crossed for a happy outcome for you this time. Let us know how you get on

It's really difficult but they see early pregnancies all the time, so the fact that they're not showing concern is a good sign. It's hard for you to trust this due to your history, but today you're pregnant. Try just to focus on each day, or even each hour xx

Meant to tag you @charpley162 x

@VenusStarr @ChelseaCat thanks to both of you. Completely right, I'm trying to be positive. There's nothing I can do besides eat right and drink as much water as I can and hope for the best. I'll keep you all updated. It's the furthest I've got with a pregnancy this year so that's a positive and the sac had grown 1mm from yesterday too xx

Good luck.op, I wish you Godspeed through this pregnancy

@joystir59 thank you so much. I will keep you updated x

Just thought I would update. Sadly I miscarried again yesterday, I knew it was coming. It was physically so awful that when it was finally over all I felt was an overwhelming sense of relief. I know the emotions will keep coming back. But right now we are ok, taking some time out until I get referred and the care in hospitals is a bit better. And of course time for a little self care, been a difficult year and my body is exhausted. Thanks for all the support 💓

So very sorry. Take good care of yourself. xx

I'm so sorry x take care x

I am so sorry @charpley162 ❤️😢 sending you love xx

Sorry to hear your sad news x