How will I know?

[Sparks2]

I've been told I'm having a miscarriage. I'm bleeding a lot and cramps have got incredibly painful. I'm nervous for when the sack eventually comes out of me. The baby is the size of a cherry. Will I know if it has come out, can you feel it or can you not know if it has etc.?

Oh you poor thing. Have you got someone with you?

My only experience of miscarriage was that I had spotting, then bleeding and then lots of cramping and I passed a lot of clots. I didn't look to be honest as I was in hospital and a nurse was helping me.
Sorry, that's not much help I know but I just wanted to wish you well x

Sometimes you know and sometimes you don’t I’m afraid. The clots can be so large that you may not know what is a clot and what is tissue, and if it is passed in the toilet you cannot see for the blood. Some people catch the clots etc to check but to be honest I couldn’t have faced it and by the time I went for my scan it had passed already. The second time I thought I had and actually hadn’t and needed further intervention.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this

I hope you’re doing ok @Sparks2

I have had two miscarriages. One at 7 weeks, unfortunately I don’t know what the embryo measured and they couldn’t see the foetal pole inside the sack when I had my scan.
I passed large clots, I had cramps for 3 weeks. I did try to look for the foetus every time but never found it. I did find the empty sack. I was scared every time I went to the loo but when I saw the sack I felt calm and was ok.
My second miscarriage was at 11 weeks, measuring 7 weeks. I had stopped taking progesterone and the cramps and bleeding started straight away. I was in bed with a lot of pain when I sneezed and the sack few out. I thought this would have been horrible but actually once again I felt calm and parental over it. I put it in the fridge in a container and took it to the EPU. I convinced them to test it, 9 weeks later I found out the baby had Trisomy 22. After 6 years for try for a baby, I had a reason it didn’t work out. I am so proud of myself that I was brave enough to do that. If I hadn’t I would have been any the wiser on why this happens to me. So I guess what I am saying, is if you can look it could be worth it. But I completely get it, it is a horrendous thing to go through.