Waiting to confirm miscarriage

[kittynoire]

Not sure what I'm hoping to get out of posting this to be honest - I have to wait a week for another scan to confirm the pregnancy hasn't developed and I think the wait is getting to me more than the prospect of miscarriage. I am confident that it is a miscarriage, although of course, success stories are always nice to read.

According to my LMP I should have been 10 weeks on Monday - although my average 36 day cycle length means I can knock a week off that straight away to make it 9.

As I can't take anyone with me for the 12 week scan booked for the end of the month, we booked a private one for yesterday. Now, all along we've been cautious of getting ahead of ourselves and whilst I've had some symptoms, I can't honestly say that I've ever felt overwhelmingly pregnant. I've had intermittent red bleeds and I have notified the midwife/GP surgery of these numerous times - all I've been told is that it's not bad enough for them to send me to the EPU as because of Covid they don't want to do as many scans. Whilst I understand it, it is annoying as presumably if this was any other time, they'd have sent me for scans weeks ago when I first presented with bleeding.

Anyway, the scan yesterday showed a gestational sac (and the report said the yolk sac was seen too but that didn't actually get pointed out to us in the appt) measuring 6+2 with no baby in sight. Either I'm too early to show, which would require my dates being out by quite a bit (maybe possible if I ovulated later than I thought?), or I've lost the baby early on and didn't realise.

They asked me to rebook for a weeks time to see if anything has changed but advised that I should speak to midwife first as she may want to refer me to EPU now. Midwife said she still won't refer me but if this second private scan comes back negative then she will. Booked in for next Monday and honestly the waiting is the hardest part.

Hi @kittynoire,

I'm currently going through the a similar thing. Thought I was 7 weeks but the private scan could only see a gestational sac and yolk sac but no baby and dated me 5-6.

I was told to go back for a rescan in 2 weeks.

Fortunately for me I rang the EPU and they seen me a couple of days later and they found a baby but the heartbeat was very slow and didn't look promising so asked me to come back in a week.

I'm due to go back tomorrow.

The only thing I can say is try and keep yourself busy, it's so hard waiting, especially if you think it's bad news. Fingers crossed you did just ovulate later than you thought.

I've taken some comfort in the fact that by tomorrow I'll know what's going on and can start to move on.

Hi @Rumples

Sending you lots of love and luck for today - I have everything crossed for you!

It's interesting to see that the EPU could see the baby but the private couldnt - did you notice anything different in the way they scanned etc?

We were surprised at how little scan time we actually got (it was about two mins in total) - it just seemed to be a quick look and then "I can't see a baby". I'm sure she knew what she was looking at etc but the swiftness of the whole experience took us by surprise. First pregnancy so I had no idea of what it would be like either.

I am going to take your advice and keep busy - even if it doesn't take my mind off it completely it will stop me from being able to constantly google!

Let me know how you get on today (if you want to, of course) xxx

@kittynoire

Unfortunately the baby hasn't grown from last week and the heartbeat was irregular so I'm going to miscarry.

As the heartbeat is still there they couldn't do anything but said I've got haemorrhaging in my gestational sac so hopefully it starts on it's own soon.

Sorry it's not a nice ending as I know reading them gave me hope but at least I have an answer.

With the scans, the private was was really thorough and then 3 days later at the EPU they seen a 3mm foetus so maybe it was just too small.

Let me know how you get on next week. Fingers crossed it's a positive outcome xx

Hi both of you. I am going through the same thing. I found out at 12 weeks that my baby died at 6 weeks - I’ve got to go back next Monday (a week later) for another scan and to discuss options. It’s such a horrible period of limbo. Feeling so confused at my body and how it can do such a cruel trick. Thinking about options of how to remove the baby as nothing is happening naturally so it will either be the medical management or operation for me. Do either of you know on here whether they insert the tablets there and then with the follow up scan a week later?
Hope you’re both okay. It’s just a nightmare isn’t it.

@Rumples I am really sorry to hear that. I know finally having an answer may bring some sort of closure but it's still a horrible position to be in. Sending you lots of love. Do they have to have you back in for another appt or anything?

@Littleonefirsttime So sorry to hear of your experience - it is such a hard thing to go through and all the waiting on top of it makes it unbearable. I'm not sure about the tablets - I would assume that it would be a separate appointment but that's just a guess.

I've been thinking that I might prefer to try and let nature take its course but the worry is how long that may take.... For now all I can do is concentrate on getting to Monday's scan and then after that I'll still need to be seen by hospital before I can decide anything anyway.

@kittynoire

They're giving me 2 weeks to see if it happens naturally. As there was a heartbeat they're not allowed to intervene which I understand.

I go back on 21st to either have a scan and see if I've passed it all or look at other options.

@Littleonefirsttime so sorry to read you're going through it too. It really is dreadful.

Sorry, I don't know if they give you them then and there. I've read some people are made to go back a few days later. They said to me to give it 2 weeks as a week might not be long enough for it all to pass...thats if it starts soon naturally.