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How to cope and remain positive

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MillieMoo23 · 01/10/2020 16:08

My husband and I started trying about a year ago, and I got a positive test in January this year and we were both incredibly excited. In March we went for our scan and I had suffered a missed miscarriage and we were devastated. I decided to proceed with surgical management. By April my periods had arrived, and I have been between 26 and 32 days each month. It's very frustrating, not having regular periods. I thought my periods were back to being regular as had three months of 26 days, but then it was 32 last month and I'm currently on day 30 at the moment. I've taken an early pregnancy test and it's negative. I'm finding it increasingly difficult to stay positive and focus on the here and now and try not to let it get to me, but it's proving difficult. I've recently turned 34 and have no children, and age is always on my mind. My sister is due next month and at the beginning of my pregnancy, we were planning on being on maternity leave together and how nice it would have been for the two to grow up so close in age. I have her baby shower this weekend and that is getting to me also. I know when the baby comes, it is going to be incredibly difficult, but I am genuinely happy for her, but can't help but think of what could have been. If it hasn't happened by March, I will be seeing my GP as it will have been another year of trying with nothing, I'm hoping that this won't be the case. I'm not really sure why I'm writing this, but it feels good to get it off my chest how I'm feeling, and after any advice or words of wisdom.
How long has it taken of trying before you had a baby?

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Northernsoul90 · 01/10/2020 22:35

Hi OP, I'm really sorry for your loss. I don't have any advice as such but just wanted to message to say you aren't alone. We seem to have quite similar situations - I started ttc baby number 1 in November last year. I fell pregnant in April and then mmc was diagnosed in June which I had an mva procedure for. My periods came back around 9 weeks later and we have been ttc again since then. My sister was also pregnant at the same time - she has just recently had her baby. It's all so hard isn't it, I really struggle with pregnancy announcements and thoughts of what should have been. If I'm not pregnant by Christmas I'm going to go to the GP to investigate but I'm hoping it doesn't get to that. There is a really supportive thread on here that I've been on for a couple of months with lots of ladies who are ttc after miscarriage - lots of advice, support and ttc tips, I'll link it below in case you are interested. I've been trying to take a more relaxed approach to ttc this month as it's all getting too much and a bit all consuming. I really hope you get your bfp soon xx

TTC after MC - September 2020 (Thread 13) www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/4022062-TTC-after-MC-September-2020-Thread-13

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