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pregnant after 3 miscarriages last year
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Guest1233 · 13/09/2020 08:16

i have children but seem to have forgotten the symptoms, i think more because of the 3 recent miscarriages.
So i am around 8 weeks i feel extremely tired, can be light headed and always hungry. I was sick at 7 weeks everyday, still feel a little sick now. My pelvis has started to weaken and sometimes clicks in the night, my boobs are sore
When i had my last 2 miscarriages i was really tired when i went for an early scan they said no heart beat and messauring weeks under what i should have been. So now im really worried. My 1st miscarriage was early at 6 weeks 2nd at 10 weeks (mesaured at 8 weeks) and 3rd at 9 weeks (mesaured 8 weeks). I think because im at 8 weeks im worrying more.

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Doughnut100 · 14/09/2020 17:49

Hi I am in a similar position. I'm 7 weeks, last year I had two mc and an ectopic that miscarried spontaneously at 6 weeks. Both mc measured 8 weeks and discovered at 12 weeks.

I am so very sick, constant nausea and exhaustion, never quite throwing up but constantly retching, I wanted to be healthy but all I can stomach is carbs. I feel depressed because I'm not even optimistic that this pregnancy will carry to term, my last pregnancy I felt this sick for ages and miscarried anyway.

Sorry you are worrying, I am too so I don't know what to suggest. I can't relate to women who just had one pregnancy loss, when it's multiple it's a next level of worry and pessimism.

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Guest1233 · 15/09/2020 07:24

it's very difficult isn't it, to keep your thoughts positive. I was hoping to try and get an early scan but i dont think i would be able to with everything going on with covid.
It is very much a waiting game. Fingers crossed everything is ok for you. Keep me posted

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Doughnut100 · 15/09/2020 07:41

Have you asked your EPU? You should be able to get an early reassurance scan with 3 mc.

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Doughnut100 · 15/09/2020 07:44

I had a scan last week because of ectopic history. Saw a heartbeat which I have never seen before so it was lovely. But they didn't measure the fetal heart rate which can be a strong predictor of viability or mc so I'm still just worried ha. Even with Covid you should still be able to get a reassurance scan I think? Likewise keep me posted I will have everything crossed for you.

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Guest1233 · 15/09/2020 09:37

The hospital i have chosen needed a doctor referral, he took all my information regarding past miscarriages etc but i dont think he worked along side the hospital i picked. He kept mentioning another hospital.

I didn't want to go back to the other hospital because when i went for an early scan they was extremely rough with me, and didnt consult with me properly. Just said no heart beat you will start bleeding soon. I was 10 weeks measured at 9 weeks when i went back because i bleeding really bad they didnt do any notes, backed tracked and said i was 6 weeks. I lost nearly 1 litre of blood that night, clots as big as my hand. The midwife said i wasnt far from my body going into shock. It was horrible the aftercare was much better then the ones who did the scan.

This hospital i have picked i had my 3rd miscarriage with them they did an early scan at 6 weeks where we seen a heart beat but there was also a small blood clot. We had a private scan at 9 weeks but no heart beat and measured at 8 weeks.

It all so scary. I was ment to be getting help from the reoccurring miscarriage clinic but because of covid it got pushed back and we found out we was pregnant just before they had an appointment for us. I am trying to be hopeful.

I did alot if reading and have been taking aspirin, folic acid and vitamin d. If they dont help i think we might give up, its sad to say. It takes alot of energy to get through a miscarriage.

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Doughnut100 · 15/09/2020 11:26

Surely the recurrent mc clinic should still see you even though you're pregnant? Did they cancel the appointment when you said you were pregnant? Can you try to fight to get them to give you some care? You still had 3 mc even if you're pregnant again, I don't understand.

I know what you mean about not wanting to go back to a hospital where you were treated so badly. I had a bad experience with my ectopic and honestly I'd rather not go to hospital at all than go back there, horrible place. I was crying and they didn't even notice and were so happy talking between themselves about the great quality image they had on screen, and asked me if they could bring a class of students in to look at my perfect example of an ectopic. I'll stop there, if I get started ranting about them I'll never stop!

You can also ask your GP for progesterone if you have done some reading about that. I hope you manage to find some peace. I know what you mean about giving up, it does take a lot of energy and the thought of going through it all again is too much to bear. I am a right downer at the moment but I don't want to encourage you to feel bad about it even though I feel similarly myself. I have everything crossed that this time will be different for both of us xxx

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KLB989 · 17/09/2020 10:38

Hello,

Sorry to jump on your post but I feel like I can relate and needed someone to talk to.

I had my first successful pregnancy in 2009 no problems, I then went on to have 3 miscarriages, each one a different type, I was tested and all was fine, therefore the doctors said I was just extremely unlucky) then 2012 I fell pregnant again and another successful pregnancy.

We recently decided to try for another baby and I fell pregnant my first cycle, I was so excited that I didn’t think a miscarriage would happen again, however, at 4 weeks and 4 days I started bleeding which was a chemical miscarriage (another type again) this one hit me hard as it was so unexpected!

5 months later, I have just done a test on Tuesday and I am 4 weeks on Saturday! I haven’t even told my partner yet as I am so scared and anxious that I am going to miscarry again! How do you cope with the anxiety? I’m not usually an anxious person but I’ve found myself lying awake at night watching the hours go by till I can do another test and hopefully see a darker line! I’ve lost my appetite because I constantly have a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach, an I’m worried even more that the stress itself will bring on a miscarriage, I just can’t stop worrying! Will it ever get better 😩😩

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Guest1233 · 17/09/2020 11:22

@KLB989 Hello firstly sorry for your previous losses and congratulations on this pregnancy.
To cope with the anxiety I find i Try not to think about being pregnant, which is sad because it's ment to bw such a happy time. I feel if i don't get excited and i miscarry i wont be as upset, it doesn't work though ha. Please tell your partner if he is anything like mine he will be positive for you. Fingers crossed everything works out for you.

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Guest1233 · 17/09/2020 11:30

@Doughnut100 sorry for the late reply it was my birthday on the 15th and dragged it out over 2days ha.
The miscarriage clinic cancelled my appointment in july, they rang me a couple of weeks ago to rebook. I told them i was already pregnant 4 weeks and said ohh congratulations and good luck and put the phone down.

I have my booking appointment for the end of this month. When the midwife rang i explained everything to her, and she said she wants to get me booked in and we can go from there i will be about 10 weeks i think.

Sorry to hear you had such a bad experience too, its horrible to think some go into such a caring position but don't actually care.

I had some mucus type thing this morning which has worried me abit but my partner says it's normal and I shouldn't worry. Easily said than done though.

How are you getting on?

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KLB989 · 17/09/2020 11:37

I’m trying not to think about being pregnant but it’s so hard! Even when I’m actively doing something else I’m subconsciously thinking about it every minute!

My partner will be positive! Which is the issue 😂 he will be beyond excited again which in turn then gets me excited too, but then it means if we lose again it hurts more! It really shouldn’t be this stressful 😩

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Starlight39 · 17/09/2020 12:57

So sorry for your losses. Your symptoms sound positive this time around. Sending you and your baby loads of positive vibes Flowers.

I also had 3 miscarriages last year / early this year and had an appointment at the recurrent miscarriage clinic in April but that didn't happen due to Covid. I ended up getting pregnant during lockdown and am now 22 weeks and all looking great. Just to give you some hope it can all be OK even after 3 mc.

The only thing I did differently this time around was take 150 mg a day of aspirin which I'm still taking. I had a phone appointment with a consultant (about my previous mc, my age and the fact I've had treatment for an abnormal smear) around 20 weeks and he said that the NHS guidelines are that I should stop taking the aspirin as I haven't officially been diagnosed with a blood clotting issue. However, I'm 41 and if I just had one more risk factor of preeclampsia, I'd be advised to take it anyway. And if I'd had the recurrent miscarriage testing, I may have been diagnosed with a blood clotting issue. So, I'm carrying on with it up to 37 weeks which is the recommended time to stop (as it's not ideal to have thinned blood when you are giving birth). It's might be worth you looking into it if you aren't already taking it.

The consultant I spoke to at 20 weeks also said that I could have gone to the GP and asked for progesterone to take up to 12 weeks so that might be something to look into. I think it's now recommended by the NHS.

I also got an early scan by calling the GP. I found out about my previous MMC at private scans (booked because I knew something wasn't right) and that added to the stress as they then had to book me into the EPU and go through it all again. It helped a lot to know that I was at least in the right place if things weren't OK. I think there are some self referral EPUs - I googled and found one in my area that I planned to go to if my GP wasn't helpful with the early scan.

Finally (sorry, this is so long!) the midwives have been great. Even though they are meant to do fewer face to face appointments due to Covid, they've been so reassuring and said to just ring and come in any time that I'm even slightly worried and they will listen to the heartbeat for me. I haven't really taken them up on it as I can feel kicks now but it has massively helped to know that I could. Having 3 mc on my notes has made such a difference to how I've been treated. I know it's different in different areas but hopefully it'll be the same for you.

I did exactly the same with trying not to think too much about being pregnant and just get through the time. I have even had the odd 1/2 glass of wine and bit of blue cheese which I hadn't done with the previous 3 as I just felt like I needed to remember there's life beyond getting and staying pregnant and it couldn't be the 100% focus of my life otherwise I'd drive myself crazy if I had another mc.

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Doughnut100 · 18/09/2020 11:25

@Guest1233 that's so weird that the recurrent mc clinic closed the book on you just cos you're pregnant. Surely the obvious issue with women like us is not getting pregnant but staying pregnant? Can you chase them up maybe and get them to explain? The fertility unit did exactly the same thing to me in my last pregnancy (it was comical, she literally slammed her file shut and stood up pushing us out of the room) but I understand that because fertility units are about getting pregnant, not staying pregnant. I was referred back to them when I miscarried again and this time they prescribed me progesterone, but as @Starlight39 says you might also be able to get it from a GP.

Glad to hear you had some extended birthday celebrations! Hope it took your mind off things.

I have been so sick, I need to constantly eat to stop the nausea so I'm piling on the pounds already which is depressing but I can't stop. When furlough finishes in 6 weeks I've been put on sabbatical as an alternative to redundancy which means I need to find a job. I found out yesterday I have an interview next week which is really great but the whole thing is incredibly stressful, I mean you couldn't make up this timing! I've also started worrying about prenatal testing and tomorrow I'm 8 weeks which is when both of my mmcs stopped growing. I think at 10 weeks we will have a private scan and maybe the harmony test. Everything feels like such an enormous effort and while on the one hand I know I am very fortunate, so many people have been really screwed by Covid, on the other hand I just feel very low and stressed and scared.

@Starlight39 congratulations on getting to 22 weeks that's wonderful and very encouraging to hear. May I ask what your experience of prenatal testing was? I'm 36 and scared of getting a potentially inaccurate high risk score on the combined test if I get that far.

@KLB989 congratulations for your pregnancy and sorry for your losses, unfortunately I am a ball of anxiety myself and don't feel able to be positive so I don't have any helpful suggestions, just that you're not alone and I wish you all the best x

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Starlight39 · 18/09/2020 11:58

@Doughnut100 the sickness sounds a very good sign, even though it's awful. Having a private scan and the harmony test at 10 weeks sounds a good plan. I found I just wasn't able to think straight about whether to book an early harmony test and felt really anxious about what would happen if we booked it all then there was no heartbeat at the scan. So I ended up just having a 9 week scan at the hospital to reassure me that there was a heartbeat and then the standard combined test at the 12 w scan. I thought I could get a harmony test at that point if the results came back high risk.

It was all OK in the end and I think I was on a bit of a high just knowing that baby had made it to 12 weeks. I knew at the scan that the baby's nuchal fold measurement was 1.6 mm which was not high risk so that was a little reassuring. Then the letter after gave me a 1 in 8500 ish and 1 in 3500 ish result for Downs and Edwards syndrome. I can't remember the exact figures or which way around they were but it was low enough risk. So try not to worry about getting super high risk results if you're older (and at 36 you're a spring chicken compared to me Grin).

Wishing you and baby lots of luck and strength Flowers.

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Guest1233 · 21/09/2020 08:11

@Doughnut100 I don't have the energy to chase them, i am trying to stay stress free this time round.
Oh gosh that's no good about your job, it's definitely hard especially when pregnant but do try to keep positive about it all.

I know what you mean about the food I normally would have 1.5 meals a day now im on 4 plus snacks. My partner said yesterday oh i think I have your symptoms too. Food is so nice it's like I have never teasted it before haha.

Where are you getting these tests from? Are they private?

Im extremely tired all the time i have to keep myself awake to put the kids to bed. I could easily go to bed at 7. Iv been sick alot twice a day some days which is quite worrying. I had some more mucus this morning which also worries me. I am thinking about seeing if i can get an early scan but I'm actually unsure how i go about it. I am 9 weeks 2 days today, and in a sense want to know if everything is still ok.

@Starlight39 the aspirin i have been taking is 75mg. How did you come to find the information on taking 150mg? I am unsure whether to get a higher dose.

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Starlight39 · 21/09/2020 09:54

@Guest1233 glad your symptoms are continuing (as awful as they sound with being sick and so tired).

150 mg aspirin is now the recommended dose for preeclampsia prevention and recurrent miscarriage. A lot of articles online still recommend the 75 mg dose though. A friend went to the recurrent miscarriage clinic and I don't think they actually found blood clotting issues but recommended she take 150 mg a day up until 37 weeks (in the end her baby was early and she only stopped taking it a couple of days before he was born).

This is some info on taking 150 mg for preeclampsia prevention or similar just to reassure you it's safe: www.uhs.nhs.uk/Media/UHS-website-2019/Patientinformation/Pregnancyandbirth/Low-dose-aspirin-in-pregnancy-maternity-information.pdf

Of course, 75 mg may well be enough to make the difference so don't feel you have to up it if you feel more comfortable at 75 mg. If you want to take 150 mg, you just take 2 of the 75 mg per day before bed.

Good luck with everything. In terms of getting an early scan, I googled "self referral to EPU" and found one in my area that accepted walk ins. In the end, I didn't go to that one as the GP referred me but if made me feel better to know I could.

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Guest1233 · 23/09/2020 07:50

Iv been sick some blood this morning also yesterday i thought i brought my coffee back up. But this morning i didn't have one but had some brown bits in my sick.

Gonna ring doctors and see what they say. As you can imagine im bricking it.
Wish i could turn my mind off sometimes

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Doughnut100 · 24/09/2020 20:57

@Guest1233 I understand if you don't want to chase them, sorry for being pushy - absolutely if that's the right approach for you you just do what you need to do.

Yes the tests would be private. We can't afford it right now but equally I just think I'd pay anything for peace of mind.

You say you're unsure about how to get an early scan - usually you can self refer to your EPU and as you've had 3 mc they should / might give you one. Otherwise private scans are about £90.

Sorry to hear you were sick some blood but surely it's unlikely to be to do with the pregnancy? As you've been being sick a lot it's more likely to do with that. I hope you got through to your GP.

I just had a major scare, I cut my finger but hadn't realised I had done it. Then I saw blood on the sheets and was so confused I didn't understand where it had come from. I reached down to touch my vulva and my finger was red. My heart sank and I felt so foolish for imagining getting an early scan and seeing a heartbeat. Took me a very confused minute to realise it was my finger that was bleeding. Now I'm feeling really shaken, I know what you mean about wishing you could turn your mind off.

@Starlight39 thank you for sharing your experience with the combined test. I am still on the fence. I think I had convinced myself I would definitely get a high risk result but I'm probably just catastrophising. Glad to hear you had a positive and reassuring experience.

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Guest1233 · 24/09/2020 21:05

@Doughnut100
Oh gosh i bet that was very scary. Glad your are ok though.

I went to the doctors about being sick and got some anti sickness tablets. They seem to be working well.

I managed to get a scan. Now i know why i have been so ill with sickness. We are having twins.

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Doughnut100 · 24/09/2020 21:18

Omg that is so exciting! What lovely news! I hope the scan was a reassuring experience for you. Maybe your mind will switch off a little now Smile

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Guest1233 · 24/09/2020 21:21

Thank you. I hope so I'm on rest until 12 weeks scan my partner said. I could get used to this ha.

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Lozz22 · 24/09/2020 22:11

@Doughnut100 The recurrent miscarriage clinic won't see you if you are Pregnant. I was told that by the EPAU. Something to do with certain tests can come back inconclusive if you are

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Doughnut100 · 25/09/2020 08:34

@Guest1233 make the most of it! Put those feet up.

@Lozz22 thanks for the info, that does make sense I suppose if it's to do with tests.

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Doughnut100 · 28/09/2020 18:47

I had a private ultrasound today at 9w2d. Wanted it this week as in two of my miscarriages the baby stopped growing at 8 weeks. Baby wriggled and waved at us, little heart beating away, measuring bang on the date as per ovulation. No guarantee of anything of course but I feel so uplifted! So happy to see that little heart. £70 and worth every penny.

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Guest1233 · 28/09/2020 19:19

@Doughnut100
That's brilliant news, made up for you. Fingers crossed everything stays that way xx

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Doughnut100 · 28/09/2020 19:38

Thank you. Hope your other half is sticking to his promise that you can rest! Xx

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