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This is a miscarrige isn't it? *Warning Picture Included*

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ThoughtThisOneWouldStick · 04/09/2020 10:30

My last period was 26th July. I found out in was pregnant on the 28th August. Yesterday I started spotting pink when I wiped and throughout the day it turned brown so I was hoping it was just old blood or implantation bleeding

Put a pad on before I went to sleep last night, woke up and the pad was fairly full of brown blood. Went to the toilet not long ago and this was there when I wiped

I've got slight twinges in my back but that's it. With my other miscarriages ( all around 6 weeks ) they started with severe pain in one of my sides, that eventually moved towards the middle of my stomach and shooting pains up my bum. They were all very painful.

Part of me is hoping it's not another miscarrige but it is isnt it. Just doesnt seem to be as painful as my previous ones

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ThoughtThisOneWouldStick · 07/09/2020 16:25

They couldn't fit me in for a scan today so I'm booked in for a scan at 8:45am tomorrow. They said everything is looking good and at the moment it's a threatened miscarrige

I asked the nurse what she thought and she said she couldn't say for 100% but with my cervix being closed and my HCG levels being normal she thinks the pregnancy is still viable

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Northernsoul90 · 07/09/2020 17:47

@ThoughtThisOneWouldStick Fingers crossed for you, I really hope all is well. 🤞🏼

whiskersonkittenss · 07/09/2020 17:52

Hi OP
This time last year I had a huge bleed and clots at 13 weeks. It didn't result in a miscarriage and the doctors had no idea what caused it. I hope this helps you in some way. I'm really hoping for the best for you Smile

Mysa74 · 07/09/2020 18:00

Fingers crossed for you OP.
I've had bleeds with 2 pregnancies, the little bleed that I thought could be spotting turned out to be a MMC. The scarey massive bleed that terrified me happened at roughly the same gestation but was a SCH, the relief on seeing the heartbeat was massive, she's now nearly 4...
I hope you get that same surge of joy and relief tomorrow OP. unmumsnetty ((hugs))

marplemead · 07/09/2020 18:03

Fingers crossed for you OP 🤞🏽

Sexnotgender · 07/09/2020 18:08

Fingers crossed for you. The waiting is so hard Flowers

Caaarrrl · 07/09/2020 18:10

Good luck. Hope everything works out for you.

Bexily · 07/09/2020 18:23

Fingers crossed for you 🤞

Pieceofpurplesky · 07/09/2020 18:41

Fingers crossed

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ThoughtThisOneWouldStick · 07/09/2020 18:45

Thank you everyone Flowers

I just need to know now. My DP and my friend feel very positive about tomorrow and I just feel stunned. I can tell I'm getting hopeful because I keep arguing with myself reasons why theres no baby and reasons why there is

It doesn't help that every experience is different. If all miscarriages were exactly the same then i think it would a lot easier

I had a heavy bleed at 17 weeks with DS and they said it was down to blood being trapped behind the baby or the placenta and when baby moved it moved the blood. Any other bleed I had in pregnancy was a miscarrige.

I'll be 6.2 tomorrow ( or should be ) so there should be a heartbeat at this point shouldn't there?

I know positive tests arnt something to go off at this point but I took another test today ( maybe my 20th in the whole 10 days I've known ( feels so much longer) and the positive was instant again

The signs are all good but at this point I just cant tell. Thankfully the scan is early in the morning so wont have to wait all day

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RedPandaFluff · 07/09/2020 19:25

I just wanted to send you some , @ThoughtThisOneWouldStick - it's agony. I've been there - at 5.5 weeks, on our 4th IVF attempt, I had a bleed very similar to yours. I thought it was game over. I cried my eyes out at work, all the way to the EPAU, all the way during the examination while they told me my cervix was still closed, and all night and for the best part of the following three days until I had a scan.

But, I've just put my nine-month-old DD to bed. She was absolutely fine. To this day I have no idea why I had such a bleed; but when they told me they could see a sac and foetal pole, it gave me hope . . . and then at 7 weeks I had a scan at the IVF clinic where I could see the heartbeat. I have never been so grateful to the universe. It felt like winning the lottery!

I will be thinking of you tonight and tomorrow x

RedPandaFluff · 07/09/2020 19:25

PS - I was trying to send you some flowers but the little graphic doesn't seem to be showing . . .

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ThoughtThisOneWouldStick · 08/09/2020 12:31

RedPandaFluff Your post has given me a bit of hope. Its been a very emotional past few days

They couldn't see a fetal pole or anything today but I am measuring at 5.2 weeks so they said theres still time for something to develop and I might of just ovulated later than I thought

They took my blood today and I'm to go back in 2 days for them to take my blood again

I was expecting either nothing on the scan or a little bean. So to be told there is something but we cant see much didnt fill me with hope

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RedPandaFluff · 08/09/2020 13:57

More waiting Sad

Will they tell you what your hcg levels are, from your blood test today?

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ThoughtThisOneWouldStick · 08/09/2020 15:57

I know. I just want a definite answer so I can move on. They said they would ring me at some point today

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RedPandaFluff · 10/09/2020 20:44

How are you, @ThoughtThisOneWouldStick? Did you hear anything from the hospital?

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ThoughtThisOneWouldStick · 11/09/2020 12:05

RedPandaFluff

I have a scan on tuesday so hopefully will have some answers then. All they can tell me at the minute is that I'm at risk for an ectopic pregnancy

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ThoughtThisOneWouldStick · 11/09/2020 12:08

The bleeding has continued and the pregnancy tests I've took have been getting lighter- although I'm not 100% their the best batch as I put 2 in the same wee and one was positive and one was negative- but I dont know if in just trying to keep my Hope's up

But I dont believe this is a viable pregnancy

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RedPandaFluff · 11/09/2020 12:19

Ahhh no . . . I'm so sorry to read this. I was so hoping you would have a happy outcome. How are you feeling emotionally? I know you've had previous miscarriages, but it never gets easier, does it? Sad

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ThoughtThisOneWouldStick · 11/09/2020 13:56

RedPandaFluff No it really doesnt. I'm 28 now and have 2 children, i dont know how I coped with the losses in the past being so young. I was 21 when my first baby passed. I'm in awe of my past self for being so strong

I just want it all to be over now

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Mysa74 · 15/09/2020 07:11

Good luck for today @ThoughtThisOneWouldStick, are you allowed to take anyone to the appointment? I'll be thinking of you.

RedPandaFluff · 15/09/2020 11:46

I hope you're okay, @ThoughtThisOneWouldStick . . .

GazingAndGrazing · 15/09/2020 11:51

Good luck for today

MissyBate · 15/09/2020 15:40

Hope today went ok OP. Flowers

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ThoughtThisOneWouldStick · 15/09/2020 20:58

Thank you everyone

Went back for the scan today and it showed nothing in my womb. Last week we saw the gestational sac which measured at 5.2 weeks. Nothing there today

It's odd as I havnt passed any more clots since the one in the picture. This miscarrige has been no where near as physically awful as some I've had in the past

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