Mc after IVF

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know my story is probably a common one but honestly I just don’t know how to deal with it. We’ve been TTC for years eventually had to start IVF after found out we both have issues. First round failed (Only got 3 eggs) then lockdown started and we had to pause. They ramped up all the fertility drugs when my second round started - I was like a zombie and barely keeping it together at work but it worked and I had a positive pregnancy test in July.

I’m now having a miscarriage - 6 week scan today showed no development. I’m in pain and bleeding a lot but worse is that I just don’t know where to go from here. I feel like I can’t keep doing more ivf but we can’t wait to think about it as my fertility issues are such that we’ll need to try again as soon as we can. To top it off I’ve just started a new job and had to tell my new boss that I wouldn’t be in because I was having a miscarriage. Don’t know how to pick myself up from this .

Anyone have advice?

I had an mc from my first ivf round. I went on to have a successful pregnancy from a later round with a much lower grade embryo. For me the only thing that helped me was trying again - it gave me something to focus on. But on reflection my second round was probably too soon for my body (although at the right time for my mind). Take care of your body, let it heal, and then try again.

Thanks hopefully our next round will work. We've got one more nhs funded one anyway so I suppose if nothing else we should at least do that.

I'm sorry you are going through this

I've had 5 miscarriages 2 ruptured ectopics and had to go through 5 rounds of IVF but now pregnant with twins. At times I felt like I couldn't do it anymore but agree with previous poster that focussing on the next cycle/trying again did help me get through it albeit it does take over your life. When I was discussing more IVF with my doctor he asked if I could cope with getting pregnant again but having another loss? I spent some time thinking about that and came to the conclusion that I could. I would do whatever it took to have a healthy baby. As it was I ended up naturally coming to the realisation I didn't want to do any more IVF and this was going to be my final round.

I think you need to ask yourself could you go through this again? And also how many rounds of IVF do you have in you (try not to think about the financial side of it at this point) and go from there x

@ivfbeenbusy oh my word. I can't believe what you've been through. I'm so sorry and really hope all goes well with your current pregnancy.

Thanks so much for the advice.

I desperately want a child (as does my DH) but another part of me is not sure how much of this I can keep doing (even though I've only had two rounds). My reaction to the fertility drugs last time was off the scale. I'd go between sobbing uncontrollably and then going out and doing PBs on 5km. It was just bonkers.