How best to support a family going through miscarriage?

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My db and his dw have sadly lost their baby in second trimester. Our whole family is devastated, but please any advice on how best to support them? Feel so sad that they live abroad, and we can not physically be there because of covid. Any advice please. Thanks.

Hi there -
I had a second trimester loss recently and I think it's so great that you're reaching out to try and help your family members.
One of the most important things you can do is listen. Allow them to talk if they want to. It's not a situation anyone can fix, so you can say that to them - that you know nothing you can say is going to help them feel better, but you want to let them always know they have a safe space to talk about their baby, use the baby's name, and don't be afraid to say it out loud.
As weeks go by don't disappear into silence. Don't assume they're fine. Keep checking in by sending a text saying 'thinking of you' every now and then. You won't be reminding them of their pain by bringing it up - they're already hurting and silence is often the worst thing so don't stop making them feel able to speak.
Sending a keepsake gift like a frame with name or a necklace for mum/ key ring for dad with initials is lovely.
Just listen - allow them to feel all the emotions and don't go silent on them. Wish my family could do this for me