Possible missed miscarriage, now waiting for rescan

[neb91]

Hi,
I found out I was pregnant for the first time on 22nd June, my clear blue test suggested I was 1-2 weeks pregnant.

I wasn't entirely sure on dates as i didn't know my cycle and when I ovulated. I came off the pill, had one period then fell pregnant so cycle is up in the air.
Going off my LMP, I booked a private scan for some reassurance when I thought I was 7+4. This went fine and a heartbeat was detected, although I was surprised as I was told I wasn't actually 7+4. I was measuring at 5+5 and was surprised a heartbeat could be detected this early. This was a transvaginal scan.

So going off the new dates I was given, I then booked a further scan at what would have been 7+6. This was an abdominal scan and was told they couldn't find a heartbeat.
I was shocked and in disbelief really because I have had no symptoms of a miscarriage, no bleeding no cramps and still have pregnancy symptoms.

Yesterday I had an appointment at EPU they did both transvaginal and abdominal scans and I was informed they couldn't find a heartbeat. This was just the most traumatic thing to hear again without my partner this time due to unfortunate covid restrictions in hospitals. I was told the embryo was measuring at 6wks and the sac was measuring 7wks. They said i have to go back in a week, so next Wednesday for a rescan to assess if there's been any growth.

I feel drained already and its only been one day. How have others coped when trying to get through to the rescan? Has anyone experienced something similar to me and what was the outcome?

I also feel confused about dates because I'm not 100% sure on my cycle and when I ovulated. I feel like im clinging on to anything, like could my dates be wrong? Maybe it was just too early to hear a hearbeat?
But I feel deep down i know im going to have to sit there alone again to be told there's no heartbeat.

This is so hard. Sorry for the essay. Just feel like getting everything that is going on in my head out!
x

Hi neb91 really sorry to hear you’re going through this. I too had a missed miscarriage in March, went for an early scan thinking I was around 9wks but was only showing as 6wks with no heartbeat.

It was just before lockdown so my husband was able to be with me in the room, they told me to come back the next week to check for growth as by then there should be a heartbeat but we both just knew that it wasn’t right from my dates of my last period.

Not going to lie, it was the hardest news to hear and the week in between scans was really difficult, but it gave us time to come to terms with the news and grieve.

However, you say you may not have your dates right so it could just be too early? It’s difficult not being able to have your partner with you, can they at least come to the hospital and sit in the waiting room with you or at a cafe nearby so they can travel home with you? Hope you’re able to have the support you need at this time, thinking of you xx

Sorry you are going through this. I have had 3 mmc so I completely understand what it's like.
I dont want this to sound harsh but if they found a heartbeat the first time and now there isn't then it is definitely a mmc. I don't think there is any other outcome in that situation. The second scan will just be for the hospital policy of checking twice. They will scan again and then talk you through your options.
Maybe talk through this with your husband before the appointment so you feel more prepared when you are there on your own, and you will be able to ask anything he might want to know.
If you have any questions I will be happy to answer x

@plixy @Luc2 thanks for replying ladies and sorry to hear of your losses too. Its such a surreal experience and so hard.
I went back to the hospital today and my MMC was confirmed, baby stopped growing at 6 weeks. I opted for the medical management as i can't handle the anxiety of waiting for things to happen naturally. I was given misoprostol orally at the hospital this morning at 10:45am. Around an hour after, I had slight cramps, but since then I haven't really felt anything and had no bleeding. Do you know if it usually takes a while or should the 'process' have started by now?
I haven't bled at all since finding out I was pregnant, wondering if that could have something to do with why it could take a little longer for me?

Hi @neb91 so sorry to hear your news. I had a similar experience last week - was told at my 12 week scan there was no heartbeat and baby had stopped growing at 9 weeks. I also had medical management and I was bleeding before I'd even left the hospital. I passed it all before I went to bed (my scan was at 12pm). Did the hospital say they'd call you? I had a doctor call me the next morning to ask how it had progressed etc.

@neb91 I am sorry that you are going through this. I had medical management for a 9 week anembryonic pregnancy a few years back and had a similar experience with misoprostel on my first dose - some cramps immediately followed by light bleeding and then nothing (this was a Wednesday). I returned to the EPU on the Sunday for my second dose and had passed almost everything by 5pm that day. This was my first medical management, I have had 2 other miscarriages but they were both natural. I had some complications following medical management and ended up admitted to hospital that evening but they confirmed on the Monday that everything had passed much to my relief.

Be kind to yourself and take it easy. You may need another dose of drugs or could opt for surgery if that is an option. The waiting is really difficult, I found it extremely hard just waiting for it to happen and it took me a long time to get over it.

They normally give you some advice to call them back within 24/48 hours (sorry forgotten which) if nothing has happened. Medical management didn’t work for me unfortunately. I had a one off episode of sharp pain but then nothing.

Thata what im a bit worried about the possibility that its not going to work, it sounds awful but I just want it over with. The nurse said if nothing at all happens within 72 hours then I need to call them. They didn't say they would call me until 3 weeks have passed to check what the pregnancy test i have to take says to ensure its negative. Reading the depressing miscarriage leaflet I was given it states if you have had no symptoms before taking the tablets, should expect bleeding to start within 48 hours. If nothing has happened in 48 hours I will call the EPU, its so hard waiting for it to happen. Just feel anxious and on edge, thank you for replying and sharing your experiences it does help xx

I was the same in that I had no symptoms prior to taking the drugs (no bleeding or pain). I remember being surprised at how quickly the cramps came after taking the first lot of tablets and then it all just faded to nothing. I was desperately waiting for it all to be over. It was such a difficult few days. After my second dose the cramps and bleeding took about 6 hours to start but it was all very fast after that. I remember as the EPU had closed at 3pm as it was a Sunday. The nurse had phoned me just before closing and nothing had happened yet and then literally as soon as I got off the phone everything happened very quickly. The nurse had already booked me in for a D&C for the following week as she said if the second dose didn't work quickly it was likely I would need surgery (although I think anembryonic pregnancy's are a bit more stubborn and quite often need surgery). Hopefully it is all over soon for you.

So nothing happened with the first lot of medical management. Just come from the hospital and they said i have to try it again before considering other options. Is it likely to happen with a second dose? Anyone had it where it hasn't worked first time or second and then had to opt for surgical management?