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ZigZagPlant · 27/07/2020 10:01

I started bleeding over two weeks ago. At 4wks 5 days.

Still bleeding at 6 weeks so went to EPU for a scan. There they saw no evidence of pregnant and said I’d miscarried. Took my bloods and gave me a leaflet.

Repeated bloods 48 hours later (Thursday).

Friday I get a call - you’re still pregnant, your levels have doubled. Nurse even said she hoped my tears were “happy tears”. I didn’t feel comfortable that all was ok given the background.

Repeat bloods Saturday. Nurse suggested I must have gotten my dates wrong. Sure I haven’t as got a positive test at 3wk 5 days and so can’t possibly have been over a week out and felt confident all wasn’t ok.

This morning I’m told my levels have risen but not enough for a viable pregnancy.

I am waiting for a call re a treatment plan and am having my second Monday off work.

I just feel really, really cross. Cross at the insensitivity of the nurse on Friday who was so encouraging when I was doubtful. Cross it’s still going on. Cross my Mum has asked me 3x what the plan is and started rabbiting about having an unhealthy baby and how that was a concern (clearly me carrying to term is NOT a concern here!!!!).

I just need to let that all out. Wtf is going on?

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Northernsoul90 · 27/07/2020 22:35

Hello, I'm really sorry I can't offer you any advice on the situation but just wanted to say I'm sorry you're going through this! I'm quite shocked at the nurse being so confident given the situation and making comments like she did, it seems very unprofessional and also insensitive to do so. Will they do further bloods or scans just to double check before going ahead with any treatment? I would maybe push for them to do so as your levels seem to have been erratic. I had a missed miscarriage last month so if it does turn out to be a loss I'm here if you need to talk. I hope you get some answers and/or closure at your next appointment x

50shadesofgreige · 27/07/2020 22:54

Really sorry you're going through this and I think you're completely justified in how you feel! I hope you've got someone you trust who you can talk to in person x

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ZigZagPlant · 28/07/2020 06:03

I have another scan today to see if they can see anymore. I don’t think they’ll be able to.

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Mishmased · 28/07/2020 06:15

Hi sorry to hear about your situation. I'm supposed to be 6+2 days today but started bleeding on Sunday. Called Dr on Monday for referral to epu and was told she will send a letter but will not be called until Thursday so I booked a private one. Got a call 2 hours later from epu to come in on Tuesday. Went ahead to private scan and no sign of baby just corpus lutuem. Sonographer could not rule out ectopic. I'm going to epu today and I'm still bleeding, supposed to be back at work tomorrow but I don't think I can face it.
Take it easy you are not alone.x

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ZigZagPlant · 28/07/2020 06:18

@Mishmased I’m so sorry. I’ll be thinking if you today. It’s such a lonely experience atm as you can’t take anyone into the scan with you. So my husband had to wait in the corridor (he shouldn’t even be in the hospital but he stayed close).

I had last Monday off because I was bleeding and v uncomfortable, yesterday I didn’t work the morning because I just couldn’t concentrate. It’s really disruptive and I’ve already been a crap employee because of no childcare and Covid.

I hope everything goes as well as it can for you and likewise am here to talk and listen.

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Mishmased · 28/07/2020 22:25

@ZigZagPlant thanks so much you're very kind. Went to epu and confirmed loss. I gave them the notes from yesterday's scan and today's was pretty similar.
Took bloods to measure hcg levels and I have to go back Thursday morning for repeat bloods.
Spent the afternoon with a friend and she cheered me up a bit. I'm not sure what to feel really, had a little cry in the car yesterday apart from that nothing. I'm off work until next Thursday (I work shift) and hope the bleeding will be gone by then.
How are you feeling today?

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ZigZagPlant · 29/07/2020 07:17

I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope you’re doing ok. I find the grief comes in waves.

I’ve got a little plaque for the garden and am going to have a little baby bench. I wanted to mark this pregnancy. I’m someone who sees the baby as a baby early on. I understand not everyone does.

I had a second scan yesterday and still no sign of pregnancy, technically now I have a “pregnancy of unknown location” because my bloods have been rising still. I’m not glad this pregnancy was a loss but sort of relieved it isn’t progressing. I don’t believe there was any prospect of a healthy pregnancy.

I had more bloods. I’m really hoping they have started to drop. I want to get back to normal and atm am still feeling the hormones and tired etc. Am also struggling with work and childcare having to go to the hospital every two days!

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Mishmased · 05/08/2020 06:48

Hi @ZigZagPlant how're you keeping?

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ZigZagPlant · 05/08/2020 07:27

Hi Mish it was ectopic that had been missed. I had emergency surgery on Friday to remove the pregnancy and tube.

Are you doing ok?

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Mishmased · 05/08/2020 08:30

Oh no I'm so sorry to hear that. How are you coping now? Hope you're getting help around the house and resting?

I'm as good as can be, had bloods in hospital last week Tuesday and went back for repeat on Thursday. Hcg levels on Tuesday was 14 and down to 6 on Thursday. Was told to take a pregnancy test in two weeks and call if it is not negative. Bleeding stopped last Friday so I took test on Monday and it was negative. I'm back to my GP this morning for full blood count as I've been so tired and dizzy. Supposed to be back st with tomorrow but I doubt that will happen.

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ZigZagPlant · 05/08/2020 08:38

I’m doing really well physically. My family, husband and friends have been amazing. Emotionally I’m up and down. But that’s to be expected. I have a counselling session arranged for Thursday which I think will help.

How are you? I’m so sorry for your news and your loss.

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Mishmased · 05/08/2020 12:06

I'm a bit up and down, off work now until aug 14. It's funny now with the bank holiday weekend (Rep of Ireland) I've had so many phone calls and no one actually knew I was pregnant and I didn't want to say.
My GP was on holidays for the past two weeks and back today when I went for bloods. He hadn't read my notes fully so assumed I was there to check platelets. He was mortified when I had to tell him the full story. Even my 7 asked this morning how many blood tests have I had and why 😳

I hope you feel better soon and counseling helps. Do you have any kids? I find my two (4&7) help keep me distracted and drag me out of bed even when I don't feel like getting up.

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ZigZagPlant · 05/08/2020 13:03

I’m glad to hear you’ve had some time off work. Me too - two weeks. Definitely needed.

I have a 16 month old. He’s a total terror and a welcome distraction Grin

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Mishmased · 18/08/2020 01:10

@ZigZagPlant
How are you feeling? Hope the days are beginning to look and feel brighter and better for you? And physically hope you're on the mend? Just want to say hello Thanks

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ZigZagPlant · 18/08/2020 08:58

Thanks so much @Mishmased. I am doing loads better. Physically fine. Had a couple of counselling sessions which have really helped. Back at work and glad to be.

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Mishmased · 18/08/2020 20:50

That's good to hear, look after yourself.x

Mishmased · 22/10/2020 16:18

Hi@ZigZagPlant just want to check to see how you're doing. Hope all is well.

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ZigZagPlant · 22/10/2020 20:02

Thanks so much for checking it, I’m doing really well and back to normal life. I still think about my baby everyday and feel sadness when I think about how far along I would be. It doesn’t help that there would have only been a few days between my sons birthday and the babies so when I see memories of my successful pregnancy it’s also a reminder of exactly how far along I would be with the baby I lost. Counselling has helped a great deal.

How are you doing?

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Mishmased · 24/10/2020 03:00

Hi@ZigZagPlant I'm glad to hear you're (relatively) ok. Hopefully setting up the remembrance bench may help with the healing process.

We're good, decided to try again immediately for a number of reasons and I'm currently 8 weeks pregnant. Not an easy pregnancy as I was in hospital most of yesterday due to constant pain. I had a hematoma which showed up at 6 week scan (bleed so went to epu for scan). So mixed feelings at the moment.

Do you think you'll try again soon? Apologies if it is too personal to ask.

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ZigZagPlant · 24/10/2020 07:16

Congratulations on your pregnancy, I’m sorry to hear you’ve had a bleed that must have been so traumatic but doesn’t sound like it’s anything to worry about. I hope everything continues smoothly and you get to enjoy this pregnancy.

We’re trying again now, I was told to wait 2m after surgery. Currently on the TWW after the first month of being able to try. I’ve fallen pregnant straight away with my two pregnancies and nervous of the impact of having one tube, but realistically should be fine.

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Mishmased · 24/10/2020 10:43

@ZigZagPlant I'm glad to hear that you are trying again. Hoping you get a positive result.

Mishmased · 18/12/2020 16:51

Hi @ZigZagPlant hope all Is going well with you! Just want to wish you and yours a very happy Christmas and a happy new year ❤️

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