TTC/luteal phase after pregnancy loss at 22weeks

[Cocomambo123]

Hi all.
In April we lost our beautiful baby boy at 22weeks. We had a TFMR as was incompatible with life, one week later I then had an operation for retained pregnancy products. After I bled for round about 6 weeks straight. Anyways I was happy to find out I was ovulating recently (used OPK’s). Then of course the dreaded tww, my AF showed 10 DPO! Which I was of course devastated about. Is it common to have a short luteal phase after loss? I have read and it says having a short luteal phase could mean low progesterone..has anybody had any experience with this? I am aware I have only had one cycle but nervous this could affect me falling pregnant again in the future. Any advice would really help x

Following because I'm brown spotting at 9 DPO after a miscarriage and normally my luteal phase is quite long (20-25) so I'm concerned my cycle is gonna be messed up 😣 hopefully it's just a blip from trauma and will get back to normal. I'm so sorry for the loss of your baby boy 💐

Hey @Stabal thanks for responding to my post!
I am so sorry about your miscarriage, it’s such a horrible thing. We sound like our cycles are currently at a similar time, today i should have been 13 DPO but as I said I’m currently on my period. I hope yours was just spotting..and if not fingers crossed it’s just our bodies getting back to normal. I have read some posts and some people say it can take 3 cycle to normalise? I’m hoping it’s faster than that! X

@Cocomambo123 it's disheartening when you've been in a regular rhythm to have it knocked. I'm not spotting today so not sure what's happening. Trying not to let myself get carried away in thinking it could possibly be implantation.. I know it's very unlikely to be that but you let your mind go everywhere!

@Stabal it absolutely could be implantation as that happens around 7-12 dpo I think! You’re not out the running till AF arrives remember! Wait another two days and take a test? I will cross everything for you x

Hi,

First of all I am so so sorry for your loss. Be kind to yourself. It is an absolutely shitty time.

When it comes to cycles returning back to normal after loss, I think really it's a case of anything goes, for a good few months.

My experience is different to yours - I had a much earlier loss, and according to OPKs I only ovulated a week later than usual afterwards, which I had read was very common. I got pregnant straight away afterwards, which unfortunately did end in loss again. Then my cycles didn't return again for nearly 4 months, apart from a few days of bleeding 7 weeks or so after. I think you really do just have to let your body do it's thing and take its time to recover, particularly given it was 22 weeks.

Take time for yourself to grieve properly. It sounds like you are TTC again already, which if you feel ready to and there's no medical reason why you can't, then why not. But really make sure you give yourself that time. I remember saying to my DH that we should maybe not keep trying that month because I didn't feel quite ready, and it was too late.

Sorry this feels like a bit of a messy response, and I'm not sure it's actually much help but didn't want to read and run

Hey @Daffodil21
Thank you so much for your response, it means a lot to have support.
I am so sorry for both your losses, no matter how early or late they are they all hurt the same. I hope you’re recovering okay as best you can.

I totally agree that cycles can take awhile to get back on track and especially after 22 weeks. I sometimes need to remind myself that their is no rush. I am just impatient and always thought that if I was pregnant by my due date (20th aug) it may ease the pain from my loss. I guess I need to just relax and keep reminding myself that these things take time! X

@Daffodil21 sorry for your losses 💐

@Cocomambo123 I guess I'm wary because it took just over 2 years to conceive for the first time so it seems unlikely I would be successful straight away again. I think I'll wait a week or even until I should be due my period before I test. Going by my usual luteal phase length I'd be due on the 30th/1st

@Cocomambo123 yeah that makes complete sense. I thought the same. I didn't have actual due dates confirmed because the first was 6 weeks and the second was 7, but one of the due dates has definitely already passed and the other would have been about now. Be kind to yourself and don't put too mush pressure on yourself

@Stabal it's not impossible. I've read you're more fertile straight after a loss, and I did get pregnant straight away. It didn't last, but that's not the same for everyone. Good luck, but again, be kind to yourself