Telling friends/family about early miscarriage

[Waitingforourtime]

After TTC for almost 9 months, was delighted to get a positive HPT a few weeks ago. Unfortunately at approx 6 weeks, I experienced spotting that got worse over a few days, and I have since lost the pregnancy. Feeling very confused but also quite numb. Even though the miscarriage happened so early, it is something that I want to discuss with close family - I don’t want to pretend it hasn’t happened and that we’re not both struggling.
So far we have told one family member and the reaction surprised me...questioning if the pregnancy had been confirmed by a doctor before the miscarriage happened. Maybe I’m just feeling too fragile at the moment, but I find this so upsetting, like the miscarriage has been dismissed because the pregnancy was so early, or even questioning if it was a miscarriage at all.
I’m wondering have others shared news of an early miscarriage with a close friend or family? Or is this something that people keep to themselves?
I know it was very early days, but we are both devastated.

@Waitingforourtime I'm so sorry for your loss and how that person reacted. I would be absolutely devastated if someone has responded that way to me. For us we were TTC for a little over 2 years so when I discovered I was pregnant we told immediate family members as in my head if anything went wrong I wanted them to have known about it. Unfortunately things did go wrong and I had a missed miscarriage and baby stopped growing at 7 weeks. I was so thankful that these people knew so in my opinion, tell whoever you need to tell. You need support. The reaction of the person you told won't be the norm, I promise. You and your partner created a little bean, don't let anyone take that feeling away from you. I had a scan at around 6+2 and seen the flickering heartbeat, to me my baby was very much alive whether it was only 6 weeks or 36 weeks. Stay strong 💜

I had an early miscarriage too which devastated me for a long time and made me really depressed. I am so sorry OP for your loss.
My experience has been like yours and I now only tell other women who also had a miscarriage. Maybe this is not what you want to hear but I didn’t get the support I needed from most family and friends.

My dad referred to one of my miscarraiges as 'probably wind!' So be prepared for alot of random comments maybe. Sorry for your loss x

Thank you so much ladies for replying and sharing your stories. It just caught me off guard, and made me think twice about telling others.
So sorry for your losses and so grateful for the support x