Still bleeding- Don’t Understand Why

[Dru2330]

Hi guys, I had a miscarriage last Monday, this is first pregnancy and first miscarriage, I should have been 6+4 but never got a scan to confirm with the current climate, the bleeding started on the Saturday was there on tissue but nothing to warrant wearing a pad, Monday it was slightly heavier and I passed numerous small clots and one big one, I’ve passed clots since then and taken 2 pregnancy test which have gotten lighter in colour, the last one was barely visible as a positive. I’ve had no real cramps to speak of and I’m still bleeding, again the bleeding is not heavy its more on tissue than a pad, kind of like a tail off of a normal period for me but it’s bright red and I’m starting to get frustrated. I feel emotionally I’m back on track, my fiancé and I want to try again but I miss him too, the closeness the intimacy, I really miss it all. The only problem now is I’ve bleeding for 11days and it’s showing no signs of slowing and the longer it goes on the more anxious I’m getting about sex, I’m spoken to him about him and he’s been amazing and understanding but it’s starting to eat away at me. I’m ready but my body isn’t and I’m stuck in a hole, the EPU, midwife or GP won’t touch me until I’ve been bleeding for 3 weeks at least but I don’t know how much more I can take, any ladies on here been through similar, how long did the bleeding last and when did you resume sex?

@Dru2330 I bled for 3 weeks (started May 5th). I had medical management on the 11th and another dose on the 13th and passed the pregnancy over those days and then the bleeding became light and just generally annoying for the next couple of weeks like you say. I too became anxious about having sex again after missing intimacy, I actually posted a similar thread in here about it! The day I stopped bleeding (may 29th) I woke up and felt something pass. It was a large piece of tissue which EPU have since told me was decidual cast/netting but within an hour of it passing bleeding stopped completely and resumed sex the next day. I think the mistake people make around miscarriages is that it happens and that's it. Your body has gone through a trauma, it's normal to bleed for a while. However if you haven't had a scan it's possible there's still retained product that's causing it to keep going. Fingers crossed for you that they'll get you checked out and you can start to get back to normal again. So sorry for your loss 💜

I’m sorry for your loss. Sadly you can’t rush these things, your body has been through a lot and is healing. 11 days isn’t very long, it can take up to 3-4 weeks for bleeding to stop completely and may not if you have retained tissue. I totally understand the need to start trying again and feeling intimacy but it’s too soon IMO. When I lost my first pregnancy I stopped bleeding before we started having sex but would bleed during and after every time until I had a period. I’m not sure why but it wasn’t a great time as felt like I was back at square one every time.

Your body needs a chance to heal and so do you. It’s a tough time but you will get through it.

My miscarage at 12 weeks, I bled for just over two weeks, you body needs to get rid of everything that was in there. You should be offered a scan to confirm the pregnancy has passed and you have no remaining tissue from your pregnancy left in your uterus about 10 days after they have confirmed your having or have had a miscarage.

I'm sorry you are going through this.

I've had a few miscarriages and always have a long bleed unfortunately.

Fingers crossed it doesn't last too much longer.

Did you save what you passed or did you dispose of it?

Sorry you are going through this, I'm now 35 days post surgical management and I've had continuous bleeding since then, passing clots often smaller but on occasions fairly big. Last night, I had 2 very large with extremely heavy bleeding to the point it was through my pad underwear and clothes. Gyny told me change my pad and if I bled through that to come in otherwise be in the following day (today) at 11 to be checked over AGAIN! I have also had x2 rounds of antibiotics for infection which I don't believe has cleared. I have had x2 internal scans no tissue left and had negative test on 29th September. I was told to wait until 3 weeks before taking a test. Its extremely distressing after everything you go through to still be suffering physically, to the point where its been so long I'm now anxious about sex, how this may impact future fertility so I totally understand how you feel. It's difficult because a large proportion of woman heal quickly few days or couple of weeks and I expected to be the same and honestly it's been hard for me trying to find similar situations for advice online. Try to rest as much as you can keep on at them if you feel something is wrong x

Hi ladies - I'm sorry to see so many whovr had losses. I was wondering can I pop on? I'm experiencing something similar and seeing this thread just made me want to reach out.

I was diagnosed with a missed miscarriage on 28th September at my 11 weeks scan (baby passed away at 9+1) so after the 2nd scan on October 5th I went into hospital for medical management on 6th October. I passed the baby on the 6th and most of the placenta overnight with LOADS of clots (in hospital). They did a scan on the 7th (Wednesday) to see if anything was left and I had a small piece of placenta remaining so we decided to have another dose of the medication and I was sent home to complete the miscarriage at home. I was fairly heavy for a few days with cramps and on the Friday 9th I had really painful cramps and passed a larger clot. After that the bleeding eased & cramps stopped. The nurse from EPU called on the Monday after she said it sounds like the placenta has passed and the bleeding should slow to a stop now.

It's now the 21st of October (well technically 22nd as it's late) and it's been 16 days since the medical management started and 12-13 days since I think I passed the placenta.

The bleeding has slowed to the point I just need 1 pad a day but when I wipe I get much more. Sorry if this is tmi but the blood is red to dark red and more like strechy discharge texture, and some small clots. Kinda stringy. And just more volume when I wipe both before & after I've been to the toilet. I don't have any bad smells but I have had some uterine tenderness this evening so I'm starting to worry that this is something to worry about.

I will call the EPU in the morning for some advice and maybe ask for some more antibiotics just incase (I had some at discharge as a precaution) but my question is... Is this type of bleeding normal? My pregancy test is still positive at the moment but has been getting fainter & I'm not due to officially test until next Friday so there's time. But I don't know if the type of blood I'm passing is still normal.

I'm sorry for the long message. This is my 1st pregnancy and my 1st experience of miscarriage. Ive been trawling the Internet to find out if this type of bleeding is normal or not and not found anything helpful. I can see @RAYH25 you had the same issues with not being able to find out what's normal online. It's really hard isn't it.

Any advice would be very much appreciated xx

@sausage1990 sorry you are still going through this. Its not easy and not easy to find scenarios to relate to either. From reading your post it seems you are having some of the same symptoms I was (discharge clear and bloody no smell, tender uterus, clots). I went back into Gyny the morning of my previous post and they did another scan and would you believe it... She found retained tissue that still had a blood supply to it which was likely the cause of my continued symptoms. I did already have a negative pregnancy test so no idea what was going on there. I was offered choice to return home be checked again in 2 weeks to see if it would pass naturally or have another surgical procedure MVA under local anesthetic. I explained that the last doctor told me if it didn't clear with second round of antibiotics then I would require MVA. She let me make the choice myself and I chose to go for the MVA. I can honestly say I'm glad I did. I had that last Thursday on 15th. Bleeding stopped completely on 19th and still that way (fingers crossed) no more pain and no more tenderness of uterus. I had two previous internal scans and both times was told there was nothing 'sinister' so just goes to show. I never went through the EPU when I had issues I just called the Gyny ward directly and was able to go in and wait to be seen (so you have their number?). You might possibly have an infection? I would definitely phone the EPU and see what they say, they might give you antibiotics for a week and tell you to wait until you do your pregnancy test and it's negative. If you are still having issues I would call them and ask to be scanned again. I felt guilty for phoning but I knew deep down there was something not right, please please keep on at them if your not getting any better. This journey is stressful and heartbreaking enough without having to suffer for weeks on end. Keep in touch, hopefully the EPU will give you some answers today xx