Yup, in the same situation, and was thinking about posting the same question as you!
Found out mid April at 16 weeks that baby had died at 9 weeks. Didn't want to go down lines of expectant management, since all those 7 weeks did was a fortnight of mild bleeding.
Had the medical management twice, one day after the other. Second was horrendous and caused full blown labour, with awful contractions that they wouldn't give any more for than gas and air x 2 canisters - complaint currently with health board about this.
Finally did surgical under spinal anaesthetic after I refused point blank to do the medical again. Told me after things were 'stuck' inside. Had almost 5 weeks of bleeding before clots and gushes of bleeding showed up last bank hol weekend, followed by mild pain.
Had a scan at end of this month - pelvic showed nothing, but internal showed 'products' left behind. Went back in on 1 June for surgery again, but under general this time fortunately.
Explained to surgeon beforehand that given half of women miscarry naturally, medical has 85-90% success rate, and surgery should be 99% effective, i would have the surgery again, but wanted to be brought back in for another scan afterwards and if still retained products, there must be something going on cos I can't keep being on the wrong side of the odds and there has to be an underlying issue.
Spoke to surgeon again after and he said suction didn't work and as things adhered to womb, had to use curette again, and prob wouldn't repeat surgery again, as it couldn't be done any more aggressively without causing damage. He said consultant next steps would be methotrexate, which they use as a chemo treatment I found out when I did more research. Was less freaked out when I googled again the next day and saw they use it as a stage 1 drug for abortion too. He did warn there were side effects, but not as severe as when used for chemo I gather.
Have had virtually no blood loss this time, but a lot more pain. Have you? I'm a week on now, and whereas after 4 days I could sit outside on a sun lounger, now I still can't lift anything heavy, or bend down too far, and still have swollen stomach and mild pain.
I'm just hoping that when I go back a week tomorrow that it's good news and it's all gone, don't know if I've been that focused on having lost my baby as it's used far too much energy trying to get body fixed after.
And it's shit it's all during corona, did have husband when I took the tabs in hospital tho he was with my daughter and missed the worst of the round 2 as they said that he couldn't come back if he left, but then changed their minds... it was to my benefit, but found they did this a lot throughout the first hospital stay and was really stressful.
People can't believe what a shit show it has been, when I told the theatre nurse that I had had medical x 2, and was on the second surgery, she was like, on previous pregnancies, and I said, ummm no, just this one. Everyone I have spoken to thinks it's awful to have been on own for scans and at hospital when I was, and I'm just like yeh, that's the way it has to be, bigger fish to fry than that at the moment really.
Sorry you are going through this too, how far along were u? X x