Successive miscarriage

[Diorissimo1985]

I am currently experiencing another miscarriage, which will be my second in just over two months. I fell pregnant straightaway following my miscarriage in April (5w) and I am now miscarrying again at 6+4.
I am so angry and upset. It feels so unfair. I also feel completely foolish at how happy I was for falling pregnant again so quickly - I naively though I deserved it for my previous loss but clearly that was wrong.
The doctors I’ve seen the last few days say things like ‘it’s positive that you can fall pregnant’ but if I can’t keep the babies then it doesn’t mean anything.
Just wanted to see if other people have gone through consecutive losses and what was your outcome? I already have one DD who is 2.

I’m so sorry to be posting in this section again, so soon.

I am so sorry for your loss. I had two DDs and then 11 losses. I finally had DS.

It’s nothing to do with what you deserve, please don’t think that.

@DustyMaiden I am so sorry for your losses too 11 losses sounds heartbreaking, I’m so sorry. Were they consecutive or over a longer period? Was a cause identified?

My friend took aspirin for this and it worked. I’m so sorry for what you have been through

Thanks for replying @Calledyoulastnightfromglasgow - why was your friend told aspirin was a good idea? Do you know the underlying cause?

It's shit. Knowing you can get pregnant is no help if pregnancy doesn't result in a baby. I'm so sorry for your loss

I had 3 MCs and took asprin with my 4th pregnancy and it worked. Although I'd been losing pregnancies by 5wks and I only found out at 4wks 4d so I think DD just might have been determined.

Cause established or not, the overwhelming majority women who miscarry go on to have a live birth, even the 1% of us with 3+ MCs who are in the 'recurrent' group. You've won a shitty lottery, I'm sorry, but it really is going to be ok.

Do you know the underlying cause?

There are several clotting disorders that can result in MC. If you have a 3rd miscarriage you can be referred to the Recurrent Miscarriage Clinic who take a raft of bloods to investigate for this and other causes. Not much is known about MC though and only 50% of us get a reason.

You can ask your GP about going on 75/150mg of asprin. It's low risk (this is the dose used to stave off a heart attack/stroke) and there is some evidence behind it, although it's iffy.

FWIW, what is shown to help is frequent early scans in the 1st trimester.

I am sorry for your losses. By the time I had reached my first baby's due date I had lost another 2. It was heartbreaking and I could cheerfully have thumped all the people who told me at least I could get pregnant. I had tests on the NHS for clotting problems (no), thyroid (iffy) and some diseases like lupus but no cause was found. They wouldn't do karyotyping on myself and my husband, telling me to bring the next miscarriage to them and they would test that!!!!! By then I was losing them earlier and earlier - the day after the positive test - and I had to learn how to use a mooncup in the hope of having something to give them. At that point I either stopped getting pregnant or was losing them too early to even test. A year later I went to a couple of private clinics, got a diagnosis and medication and now have my beautiful DD who is 2. At the NK cells clinic they told me that the levels can fluctuate and even without treatment a lot of women will eventually manage to have a child, it just could have taken a lot more pregnancies first. So there is hope even for difficult cases.

Hi OP, my story is scarily similar time yours I had a miscarriage in March, fell pregnant again two weeks later and am sure I'm currently miscarrying again. I'm heartbroken and completely understand how you feel. The first one I accepted, thinking it was really common to lose a first pregnancy but two in a row feel so cruel. I can't believe it is happening to us and don't know when I will want to try again. Not for a while.

My friend went to the recurrent miscarriage clinic. They could find nothing wrong. She had eight miscarriages. They said “we don’t really know why this works but it seems to”. She was pregnant and carried her next to full term

It seems to be to do with blood clotting factors

Thanks all. I am so sorry for your losses too

I will look in to aspirin and perhaps to GP. I am scared to TTC again. I am so angry/jealous/sad at the moment ... I am grieving again. I want to scream in the street about how sad I am. Took it out on DH this morning which was horrible of me

Hi, I’m so sorry for your losses. Just to let you know that despite the official criteria being that you need to have had 3 losses before being referred for further tests, if you are over 35 you can sometimes be referred after 2. I was 38 at my second loss and both the epu midwife and my GP offered to refer me without me even asking. Just be aware the tests may not tell you anything and as a previous poster said the NHS don’t test for NK cells. Hope that helps

This happened to me. Miscarried at about 5.5 weeks last November. Conceived in the next cycle and then miscarried at 8 weeks in January. I don't have any answers but I know how you feel, the foolishness, I thought that baby was my miracle and then I felt like the most stupid stupid fool for even thinking it might be ok. Unfortunately I have subsequently miscarried again at the beginning of May and I was taking aspirin that time so that wasn't the answer. So I've had three miscarriages in six months which I didn't think was even possible. That said there are lots of stories of women having many miscarriages and still going on to have healthy babies even without a cure or tests results that show anything. I am 40 so its very likely my age, therefore it's not my fault, but also all my fault at the same time. Best of luck OP, all I can do is carry on in hope.

Thanks both - I am 32 and have a 2yr old DD already. I feel that I should be able to carry a baby to term but clearly there must be something wrong now

@Diorissimo1985. Thank you
Yes consecutive. No reason ever found but I I later became very unwell with B12 deficiency. There may be a link

So sorry to hear what you are going through OP.

I’ve just had my 5th miscarriage in a year, the first 4 were chemicals, the most recent last month was a mmc at 11+2, empty sac.

I’ve got 2 older kids 10+ so didn’t think I would have an issue. I’ve now been referred to the recurrent miscarriage clinic.

I think I’ll try aspirin when I get pregnant again.

waiting for my cycle to come back and then will start on the Ubiquinol again and maybe agnus castus. My most recent pregnancy I had been taking Ubiquinol for 4 weeks.

You’ll get there, i still think I’ll have a lovely fresh baby soon, I don’t think I’ll give up until I’m at least 40, maybe older! Xx

So sorry for your MC, I have recently just had my third consecutive now DC up to now.

We are being referred to Tommy's for tests

1 MC 8 weeks no fetus
1 MC just after I found out (about 5 weeks)
1 MMC at 12 weeks baby had stopped at 8

Just so unfair 😭