Support following a miscarriage

[Crazywithworry]

Hi ladies, I am looking for some support and success stories anyone can share following a miscarriage. I recently had a miscarriage and even though I want to start trying again, I can’t help but think what did I do wrong to have caused this.

Please don't think it was anything you did wrong. It is such a hard time to go through. I had a MMC in December, I started to miscarry naturally at 9 weeks and 4 days but was measuring 7 weeks and 2 days. Luckily my period returned a few weeks after my negative pregnancy test (about 4 weeks after the miscarriage) and I managed to fall pregnant again that cycle. I was shocked as I didn't expect it to happen again that quickly because it took 6 months the first time. I am now over 17 weeks pregnant. I won't lie, the first trimester seemed to go really slowly and I was worried about it happening again. I did end up having extra scans so I knew everything was alright. Keep in mind that every pregnancy is different, because it happened once doesn't mean the next one will be the same.

Hey, I’m really sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I had one too last month and it’s a really horrible thing to go through. I think given that 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage and it’s not spoken about perhaps as much as it does effect people, it’s best to just see it as very unlucky, but statistically not very unlikely. It doesn’t mean you won’t have a pregnancy to term at all (assuming it was your first). I also tried to think of how good it is to know that I can get pregnant, as I know for some people even getting to that stage is a struggle. I too wondered if I’d done anything wrong but it’s really out of our hands. My advice would be to trust and listen to how you’re feeling. I’m sure you want to try again but equally you don’t have to rush into it. It’s a tough thing to process and of course there’s a fear it might happen again because that’s a natural reaction! It doesn’t mean it will though. I think just be kind to yourself. It’s not your fault.

I'm very sorry to hear of your mc. Please don't blame yourself, you've done nothing wrong.

I had a mmc last April and I fell pregnant again in December. I'm now 22+4 with my rainbow. Wishing you peace.

Hi, OP. We hope you don't mind, but we are going to move this thread over to the Miscarriage topic now, where you'll hopefully find the support you need.
All the best,
Kim
MNHQ

Thank you all for the kind words. We got to know about the pregnancy at 4 weeks as we were trying for sometime now. We were so excited that we told our parents straightaway. Then I started spotting at 7+4 weeks and had an early scan the same day. The nurse said that the foetus was measuring 6 weeks but it could be due to me having my dates mixed up (I was sure about my dates though). Then about 5 days later I started bleeding heavily with huge clots (sorry for TMI), but the hospital refused to do a scan, and the nurse sent me home after a pelvic exam saying it’s 50-50 at this point. Anyway we got a private scan done to confirm the miscarriage. I am so paranoid now because of the whole experience, as though I have lost trust in the process. But hearing your stories has given me hope.
LorennaS I hope everything goes well for you
Sending loads of best wishes to all the ladies