Blighted ovum

[addictedtotheflats]

Hi, just after some advice. I went for an early scan last Friday at 7+6 due to slight cramping, nothing I was too worried about and unfortunately told there was no baby just a gestational sac 😔. I need to go back for another scan this week to confirm the miscarriage as the sac didnt measure 25mm and they cant officially confirm it before then.

The midwife at the last scan explained that I would only have 2 options - wait it out or take a pill. A D&C isnt an option due to covid. So what im wondering is how long do these things take to pass on their own? I know people dont get diagnosed until 12/13 week scans so in theory i could be "pregnant" for another 4-5 weeks, which to me just seems torturous which is why I think id rather get it over and done with with the pill... Does anyone have experience with either of these options?
Thanks

I opted for the pills vaginally. I had a blighted ovum at 12 weeks.

@addictedtotheflats same options for me and I decided I couldn't fathom going about life as normal potentially waiting for weeks to pass the pregnancy so I got booked in for yesterday for medical management. Although I had actually started bleeding and clotting on Saturday so I thought I'm going to be lucky and not need the medication in the end.. No such luck. Not to scare you off this option but yesterday was brutal, for me anyway. I know a lot of people say the medication route was fine and not much difference to a bad period but I have endo and PCOS so my periods are awful but this was a whole other level. Took the medication at 12.30 and by 4ish it had all kicked off. For about 2 hours I thought I was going to die and if I had been able to get up off the toilet and my head out of the sink from vomiting my fiancé would have had me in hospital. I'm still in pain and bleeding heavy today but absolutely nothing like yesterday however if I'm faced with this again, I'm not sure if opt for this route. That's my personal experience as I said there's so many that it's not been so traumatic for so it's impossible to judge how you'll react. I hope you can find the right answer for you, I'm sorry you're going through this 💕

Sorry to hear this. I have this at the moment.

Have to go back in 9 days for another scan as doesn’t measure as a blighted ovum and the sac has irregularities so might be breaking down.

Such a torturous wait.

@Stabal sorry you had such a bad experience. Its so difficult to decide, passing it naturally in 4/5 weeks might be as bad as the pill now because of all the extra womb lining that will have built up in that time...

It is very sad, I just have to tell myself there was never a baby and unfortunately its just one of those things which an answer cannot be given.

@addictedfoflats that's very true but then going naturally might not be as sudden and as abrupt as the medicated route and it may pass continuously over a longer time and not be so aggressive. It really is hard to know what to do. While it wasn't a blighted ovum for me, I can understand how upsetting it is for you. You still managed to conceive and that is a huge positive, be kind to yourself. Sending you love ❤️

@addictedtotheflats wow not sure how I managed such a big typo with your name in the last post, apologies 😂 x

I can understand how you feel. There was still the hope and expectation of a baby, so despite nothing being there, it does hurt :-(

@Stabal I think I can forgive the typo 😂 this pregnancy was unplanned (although definitely not unwanted) after having my DS a year ago. My DS was actually a twin but the other baby was found to not have a heart beat at 12 weeks.

@anon0704 I know, for 4 weeks (after the initial shock) I had imagined how life was going to be with 2 under 2 and was so excited to have a sibling for my DS. Life is cruel

Sorry this has happened to you. Was MVA not offered? This would be suited to you really. Wonder if you could try another hospital and find out if it could be done? If you have a one year old it would be well tolerated.

@Chopsuey1 the midwife briefly went through my oprions last week but im assuming that they will go into more details on friday when its officially confirmed. She definitely said that surgical management was not an option because of coronavirus although she never mentioned MVA. Not sure how i feel about being awake during that though.

@addictedtotheflats sure I completely understand. I was the same. But the only other option was to face having the miscarriage at home (natural or medical) whilst looking after my other children. I had read of failed medical miscarriages too so that worried me as I just wanted it all to 'be over' . Having had 2 children meant my cervix had dilated in the past and hence made the MVA technically easier (which it was). It was over in less than 5mins (less than duration of song playing on the radio) and I was back having dinner with kids within 2 hours. Minimal bleeding afterwards.

Obviously the nicest option would to not be in this situation but really the MVA is a good alternative to ERPC. Hope that helps x