Recurrent miscarriage - hopes, fears and more hopes

[karma]

Hi there.
Have been asked to start a new thread for those of us who have unfortunately experienced several miscarriages and need some mumsnet support, whether that be for some good old TLC or to share experiences (hopes and fears) of going for further investigations.
My story for those that don't know - I am 38 and have two ds (5 and 2). Starting trying for a third beg of this year and have just had my third misc (had others in Feb and May). Am due to go to recurrent misc clinic in Nov for investigations.
It's a hard place to be. Do we call it a day, grateful for what we have (which we are), or carry on, hoping that our luck will change? Don't expect to make any decisions until after the appt. but emotionally it is getting harder (maybe because this misc wasn't picked up until booking scan and my others had been early at 5 weeks). Really thought this time it would be alright. Feeling so empty and worried about the future. I know many others of you are feeling the same. Hope we all get some support here (sorry for rambling).

hi ladies im marie 24 new to these boards i had my ds in 2004 then had a mc in 2006 followed by an ectopic pregnancy in oct 2006 then i ahd my daughter in nov last year but im to scared to think about more children i thorghti couldnt carry girls but then had my daughter i hope u all get the babies u so want soon xx

Hi LL, know what you mean about needing a break from ttc, good luck at appointment, let us know how it goes.
Thanks Marie for sharing your story with us, sorry for your losses but how lovely you now have a dd.
Takecare everyone.
XXX.

HI everyone - Wow your knowledge on this is amazing, this site is amazing, you're all amazing! Your stories have kept my hopes & strength up at a scary lonely time.. Had to post - I'm off to recurrent MC clinic in an hour at St Georges after 3rd MC in 10 months, MC1 Sept 07 at 9 weeks, MC2 Feb at 9 weeks, and MC3 in July at 13 weeks. All MMC & found at scans, 2 D&Cs, last D&C left 'retained product' and have bled every day for 5 weeks since, think it all passed in my period last week but hopin to get a scan to be sure today. Hubby been amazing, only married a year, what a crash back to earth after best day of our lives. Desperate to be parents, I'm 34 next march so starting to worry whether it will happen... Prayin for answers and pos results from clinic, gonna try aspirin whatever as all these threads sound well positive.. I'm clingin on to hope & wont give up even if end up like poor dannyb who has had 7! You must be so strong but if like me you want kids so bad then I guess thats what drives you. When discovered no HB at last scan, I thought 'cant go thru this again'.. now i'm desperate to stop bloody bleeding so i can ttc again asap! (although dont know if all tests will make us have to wait - nightmare!) Not good with patience and spent last year counting weeks til ovulation, weeks til period (or lack of) weeks til 1st scan, week by week for growth, for 12 weeks to pass, weeks for recovery from MC, and so it goes on... Anyway girls sorry to ramble on, slightly anxious - can you tell? Prayers and good wishes to all of you! xx I'll be back on here with updates and to vent, and to gain strength & hope from the rest of you! xx