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2020wish · 26/04/2020 09:39

I’m 31. I should be 7 weeks pregnant this Tuesday going by lmp.i had sex for then first time since finding out i was pregnant on Tuesday night and I believe I started miscarrying on Thursday morning when I woke up to a small gush of bright red blood, not clots. Rang early pregnancy unit (epu) they won’t see me unless I’m bleeding out (filling pads every 20 mins) , not much pain other than mild cramping and stretching which was my normal pregnancy symptom. But I noticed my breasts where no longer sore to touch that morning (the only other pregnancy symptom I had along with cramping). My hcg levels had been raising via clear blue the few days before when it went from 1-2 weeks til 2-3 weeks. They said it could of been from having sex and irritation.

Friday I continued to bleed, not enough to fill a pad over the day but still coming out like a light period and also loads when I wiped including small string like clots. Ring epu again and they didn’t want to see me. Said it doesn’t sound like a miscarriage and to sit it out and re test in two weeks. I explained being in isolation and anxious and upset that two weeks was a long time and could they scan me or check my blood hcg over 24 hours, they refused and told me to monitor bleeding and only come down if it gets heavier and soaking through pads accompanied by pain. On further talking they also advised leaving a urine sample to my GP for uti testing as I notice that day that I had this awful feeling of constantly needing to urinate all day and sore full bladder that was only relieved when I went to the loo but was back again before I even left the bathroom

I took a urine sample and tested it myself on a clear blue and it came up positive straight away(I just needed to see for myself as I’ve been testing everyday I’m bleeding ). Gp rang me back saying no infection but blood present in urine and asked for background info, I explained what was going on. She then advised me that she had tested my urine and it was negative for pregnancy and she was sorry and formally diagnosing a MC. Upset i queried how could my hcg fall that quickly as that same sample tested positive for me, to which she replied “well yea this sample tested faint positive but that accompanied with bleeding is taken as a negative and MC.

Saturday (yesterday) bleeding picked up a bit more, had to change pad twice over 18houra. Clots were slightly bigger and meatier feeling when wiping (not on pad) but no discomfort or cramps and urination feeling died down . Two pregnancy tests on clear blue showing clear positives.

Today bleeding calmed down barely none over night and minimal when wiping and no clots. Pregnancy test this morning faint positive on pink dye( I don’t know if pink dye means anything but I noticed pink dye tests didn’t pick up my pregnancy for ages even on frers even tho any blue dye test i did was picking up from before I had missed my af )

So I’ve ended up booking my own private scan on Tuesday to clarify my MC for me. I feel so down and depressed trying to cope with this stuck at home in isolation with no suppport from any midwife. I’m also off work shielding due to pregancy and to being an icu nurse in covid wards so the thought of returning to work feeling like this has me swamped with emotions I can’t shift through .

Has anyone else had a mc like this? Should i still be expecting a sac to come or heavier bleeding on so anxious every day going to the loo expecting the worst. I’ve settled myself that I have indeed mc and expecting the worse come Tuesday so just unclear on things

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mlax · 26/04/2020 12:07

So sorry lovely, sending you hugs your way.

I'm not too sure whether this will help you, but I had a MC in November last year and it wasn't anything quite like I was expecting. I had minimum bleeding for a few days (almost like spotting) and then on one of the nights I woke up in the middle of the night with the worst back ache I've ever had which was followed by a clot. When I woke up in the morning I clotted again and by this point I knew I was miscarrying. After the clots I barely filled a pad, went to the hospital (I was abroad and flying home on this day) and confirmed pregnancy test and had a scan booked on the Sunday (I had to wait 2 days) and confirmed that there was no sac. I had actually clotted again on the Sunday morning but again, barely any bleeding.

I'd always imagined MC's to be heavy bleeding, but in my case there was barely anything.

I know that bleeding doesn't always mean negative things. One of my friends suffered a hematoma during her pregnancy and is now almost 16 weeks. I hope this is the case for you lovely and not bad news xx

2020wish · 26/04/2020 12:10

Thank you for replying. The more the days go on with the bleeding I just have it in my gut it’s bad news. Just feel like a burden being so down on my partner and angry at the world and a few on friends are pregnant so I don’t want to be a Debbie downer to them so any helpful chat/advice is useful. Sorry for ur loss. Did u try again after

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Rupertpenrysmistress · 26/04/2020 15:53

That's horrible op O am sorry you are going through this. You will get a variety of stories positive and negative. The waiting is horrible.
My miscarriage was at about the same gestation as you, not much blood at first just a pink tinge, then fresh blood on wiping. I had a scan and was told a sac was visible but no heartbeat so had to wait a week for a rescan. It was so horrible waiting all I did was cry, I felt so guilty. Second scan confirmed no progress and an empty gestational sac ☹️. Bleeding had not really progressed but I opted for a natural miscarriage. The next day the bleeding increased a bit and then I had a bit of pain and rushed to the toilet where I passed the sac. It was a tough time but I was lucky to get pregnant again within 2 months this time it was successful but, I had continuous bleeding from about 8 weeks all the way through it was so stressful.

Sadly it sounds like a miscarriage but impossible to say without blood tests or scans, I am just sorry you are going through this. Can you take some time off work I did I had to (frontline nurse too) no way could I face the emotional nature of our job with that as well. I am sure you manager will understand. Get a sick note if needed. Take care and be kind to yourself. I wish you the best.

2020wish · 26/04/2020 16:24

Thank for you replying. I am currently off on shielding on full pay as I’m an icu covid ward nurse and they could not minimise my risk. So I’m
Not stuck on how I go about ringing them up to explain I’ve lost the baby and can I go off on sick instead :( so stressful

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mlax · 26/04/2020 16:39

Your friends will be understanding don't worry, you won't be putting any emotional stress on them you just want them to be there for you. People don't understand unless they've been through it but of course I wouldn't wish this on anybody.

Unfortunately, I've not caught pregnant since xx

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