89 days since miscarriage still no period

[WantToBeAMum41]

Name changed as it may be outing.

WARNING - Very long. Please bear with me

I miscarried twins in January 2020. Started bleeding on 25th and passed first baby on 27th and second on 28th January. Everything passed easily (physically at least) and all bleeding stopped within a week with a negative pregnancy test 2 weeks later.

I saw my wonderful recurrent miscarriage consultant at the beginning of March and she was surprised but not overly concerned that I hadn’t started a period yet. It’s now been 89 days and we are so desperate for my cycles to resume as we really want another baby and my age (early 40’s) is giving me limited time to try.

Sadly I have had a lot of miscarriages over the past 15 years but my period usually returns within 3-4 weeks so I’m getting worried now. I’m thinking of calling my consultant’s secretary next week if there's still no sign of a period but haven’t wanted to call before with everything that’s happening at the moment and the pressure on the NHS.

Has anyone been through similar? Please share your stories/experiences as I’m feeling so low right now. Low because of all of my previous miscarriages, low because my body is failing DH and I, low because I struggle to get pregnant in the first place and then my stupid body can’t stay pregnant.....oh heck I just feel so sh!tty about everything right now and everyone around me seems to be pregnant! I know that it’s not true and that it’s only because I’m sensitive to it but I’m finding it hard that people are moaning about being pregnant when I would love to be pregnant still and feeling my two beautiful babies wriggling inside of me Sorry for my rant. I’m normally such a positive person but I’m really struggling right now and feel like I’ve failed my DH and our dream family (I know that’s my feelings 100% because he’s been/is so supportive and loves me unconditionally. I am so very lucky to have him). Please help me to snap out of this.

If you read to the end then take these to say thank you.

[anon0704]

You definitely should call. I know it’s hard but something could be wrong. The NHS is urging people not to avoid medical treatment for other things. Good luck.

[WantToBeAMum41]

Thank you anon. I will definitely call my consultant's secretary in the morning. I think I just needed to get it off my chest and for someone to say it's ok to call her given the current lockdown and how busy the NHS is. Hopefully everything will be ok and I'll get pregnant with a healthy baby (or two) this year.

[Bells993]

Hi @WantToBeAMum41 sorry for your loss. I also had a MMC At 8.5 weeks, I’ve had no period yet but I’m day 52 since D&C so not as far as you. Have you got any updates you could share please? Hope everything’s got back to normal for you. Thank you xx