Friends pregnancy announcement

[33Carr]

Name changed just Incase.

My best friend told me this morning that she is pregnant! I'm so so happy for her and her husband; genuinely so chuffed and excited for them.
But as soon as she told me I just went straight to the toilet and bawled my eyes out. I'd been so excited to be able to tell my friends about our pregnancy and never got the opportunity to do so!
Thought I was coping with our MMC well untill today (has a MVA 3 weeks ago). Hopefully I will just have this one day of feeling sorry myself and then can move forward with it better tomorrow!
Think I just needed to get this out into the void sorry!

I am so sorry @33Carr its really hard. I have never got to announce any of my pregnancies either.

I will say that just because you cried doesn't mean you aren't coping. You are grieving and I've found since my first loss anything can set me off, but definitely finding out about someone's pregnancy is a big trigger.

Be kind to yourself xx ❤️

@VenusStarr Thank you for your reply and kind words. Sorry to hear about your losses too x

I’m so sorry for your MMC. It’s ok to be sad and it doesn’t mean you’re not coping.
For what it’s worth, I found telling a couple of close friends about my MMC really helpful in terms of grieving and recovery, I told them a few weeks after it had happened. Understand this might not be for everyone though.

I totally understand how you are feeling, allow yourself time to be sad and think about if it’s helpful to share with anyone else (perhaps not your pregnant friend)? I didn’t tell anyone about my pregnancy but after miscarriage last week I have found it helpful to talk to a close friend about it and i think having someone else acknowledge what we’ve lost is helpful in the process, for me, but everyone is different. Take care of yourself x

Thanks @Poppy10121 and @Rhubarbe for your replies. My closest friends know about the MMC, including pregnant friend. Haven't spoken much to them about it and the MVA though. They didn't really know what to say when I first told them (which is understandable as it was out of the blue and they've not been in the same situation to my knowledge) but I just feel they can't relate and I don't want their false sympathies. I know it's not false though. I have a colleague whose partner had a MC a few months ago so having him to talk to has been nice, or knowing I can vent to him if needed!

I'm also worried that as we are TTC again, if I do fall pregnant again, I don't want people to think I just got pregnant because my friend did.

I just need time I think! As they say, time is the greatest healer.

@33Carr I really don’t think that anyone would assume you are trying to get pregnant because your friend is - and if they do they should grow up! It’s such a massive decision to start a family. I know it is hard to think clearly at the moment though so just try not to think too much about anyone else right now and concentrate on what you need to do to feel better in yourself.