Having medical management tomorrow, brain keeps worrying about what if embryo really ok? Talk me down

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I think it's because I was meant to have it today but got sent home due to staff shortage because of cv.
Having it tomorrow now. Given my brain time to torture me.
This is my third consecutive mc, and this one was ivf so a lot gone into it.

Heartbeat at 6 weeks, 8 weeks now and they couldn't find hb, hadn't grown as expected.
I keep thinking 'but what if... it had a growth spurt, it was hiding' , ridiculous things.

I'll obviously get reassurance from dr tomorrow but now my mind is playing these cruel tricks on me. 😞

Hi, am so sorry for your loss, I went for my dating scan yesterday I should of been 12weeks and 6days. But they couldn't find a heartbeat and baby had stopped growing at 8weeks and 3days. Tomorrow I have to go into have surgery. What makes it worse as I get married on Tuesday.
I think it normal to think what if they are wrong. I really don't know what to say as this is the first time this has happened to me. But I just want you to know am sending you massive love for tomorrow xx

I'm so sorry to hear this. You are making the best choice with the information you have available right now. That is all we can do as humans. Be kind to yourself.

I had medical management with my first MMC and had a second confirmation scan. There was still no heartbeat and I was between 8 and 9 weeks, heartbeat would be visible at this stage

Thankyou. Feeling antsy and restless, wish I could've got it over with today. So sorry for your losses. It is so bloody rubbish x

I am so sorry for your loss. Did you go in today? You must be feeling devastated. I hope the physical side of things is not too painful and you can be at home recovering and being taken care of. I just wanted to say that it isn’t ridiculous to feel as you do and worry that a mistake has been made. You are in shock and grieving and I think is natural to feel that way. I had a bleed at about 6 weeks and went for an early scan 3 days later. They couldn’t see anything on the scan even though my hcg level was 22,000 so they were concerned I had a molar pregnancy (I didn’t in the end). I had to have surgical management and I was convinced the scan was wrong and really worried the baby was ok really and surgery was a terrible mistake. Looking back I can see now that with hcg that high they would have seen something if the baby was ok but I so wanted to still be pregnant and didn’t want to believe I had miscarried. Thinking of you at this hard time x

@Cityzen74 Thankyou, and so sorry you've gone through this too.
Back home now, the procedure went well and I'm recovering physically. Having little spasms of realisation- that it's all over. That I may not get another chance because of the Coronavirus ( the clinics are closed and all treatment is cancelled). And my age.

Sore, a bit tender and swollen-bellied. I usually run to lift my spirits.
I'm lying on my bed in a pool of sunshine, with the cat at my feet noisily licking himself.

It hit me because my ndn has just announced she's unexpectedly pregnant again, having just had an accidental baby after thinking they'd completed their family. They are so excited but I felt utter devastation, not because I resent her, but I am in so much pain and sadness, it will all happen right next to me whilst I'm producing milk for a child that doesn't exist. I'm just crying and sleeping and crying.

That must be so hard with your neighbour. Sending flowers and strength.

I hope that you begin to feel a bit better soon. I found that physically I recovered fairly quickly but it took longer to recover emotionally so try not to expect too much of yourself. Take care of yourself as best you can xx