Surgery or medicine, How did you decide?

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After 3 rounds of ivf we fell pregnant but at 6 weeks 3 scan no fetal pole or heartbeat was found.

I know need to decide whether to have surgery or medicine. How did you make the decision? I don’t want to prolong this any longer and thinking of surgery option but after reading what is involved feel a little scared (I know sounds stupid!) Would love to hear what other people did?

So sorry for your loss.

I waited 3 weeks to see if I would miscarry naturally. After a lot of indecision, I wanted to move things along, but the decision was made for me as the drugs used in the medical route could’ve caused a flare up of a condition I have.

So I was sort of forced into surgery, or just waiting even longer. But each day that passed was sending me stir crazy.

I was scared too but the surgery was straight forward, general anaesthetic was fine and only some cramps when I came round.
It was a horrible time, but I was glad it was over.

I conceived my DD 2 months later. It all feels like ages ago now, all the pain from our loss was healed when we had our DD, but I remember the feelings well.

I hope you get your rainbow baby soon xx

I'm so sorry, that is a rotten loss after a long hard road.

I chose surgical, I wanted it over and done with as quickly and painlessly as possible on the physical side at least.

As I came around I had a little discomfort, but then the painkillers (just paracetamol I think) kicked in and I was fine. I didn't even take any further paracetamol at home.

I had very little bleeding, less than a period.

Had the surgery on the Wednesday, went on holiday (by car) on the Monday and was in the pool with absolutely no concerns about bleeding on the Tuesday.

Obviously, with the coronavirus crisis you may feel differently about being in a hospital at the minute. But under normal circumstances the surgery was a breeze for me and definitely the right decision (for me).

Thank you @Lozsmith and @MindyStClaire
for sharing both your experiences. You’ve both helped me make my decision and I will go for the surgical route. I’m not sure why but feeling quite emotional today (I was fine yesterday when I found out) perhaps it’s hit me more thinking about having to have the procedure. Thanks again it’s made me feel better knowing that other women have been through this.

I've had both and would recommend surgical as it's over with faster. Medical usually means more pain, passing and can go wrong as it did for me (retained product/ haemorrhage) . Unfortunately not everyone is being offered surgical at the moment due to the pressure in hospitals.