12 week scan after 2 miscarriages

[Ek3009]

I have my 12 week scan on March 20th and I am so worried. We have had 2 previous miscarriages in the last year.

This is the furthest I have gotten in my pregnancy and I am currently 9.5 weeks with no pain or bleeding so far however I have no symptoms apart from sore boobs which was the same with my miscarriages.

I’m terrified we go for the scan and it’s a MMC.

Has anyone fell pregnant after 2 losses and had no symptoms and went on to have a healthy pregnancy?

Thanks

Hey OP

I can sympathise as I'm in the same boat. Had two miscarriages last year, now pregnant again, and just had my 12 week scan Monday. Been a bag of nerves throughout and anxious but so far all seems ok. I've also never had any particular bad symptoms and I don't think they can necessarily always take to mean something anyway.

Good luck and I know it's hard when you're waiting for good news. Seeing as you've had no bleeding, that's a good sign!

Hi,

I had two miscarriages before my daughter was born in December.
My first was a missed miscarriage, I skipped into my 12 week scan all happy and was told there was no heartbeat. Baby had died 9+3. My second miscarriage I was also 12 weeks but 2 days away from my 12 week scan so will never know how far I got that time.
I fell pregnant again in March last year. Didn’t even get excited like most people would it was just dread. With my previous two pregnancies I did everything to the book. Quit smoking as soon as I found out, took my vitamins religiously and had an amazing diet. This time I didn’t take any vitamins, carried on smoking and ate everything I shouldn’t have. I didn’t mentally have the energy to get excited or even think about it as I didn’t want to get my hopes up. I just pretend I wasn’t pregnant. This carried on until I was 30 weeks !! I finally quit smoking at 25 weeks and actually started buying things and started getting excited at 30 weeks.

Good luck to you. Hopefully you are third time lucky like me xxxx

Thankyou so much ladies that’s made me feel a bit more at ease! Good luck to you both and let’s hope we can start enjoying these pregnancies :) xx

If it's really stressing you could you book a private scan nearby for sooner? Just a thought! Congratulations and wishing you a very healthy pregnancy :)

Hi

We have thought about it but it was a private scan the last time we got the bad news so my husband isn’t too keen as he just associates it with bad news and would rather keep with the NHS which I understand. Our 12 week scan is also on our 1 year wedding anniversary so we are hoping that’s a good omen and trying to keep as positive as we can :). Thank you very much x

Hi there, sorry for the long post.. I am 22 and have just experienced 3 miscarriages since October, all ending at 5-6 weeks, haven't been able to detect a heartbeat.. I always miscarry before. They were unplanned, but I was so happy to be pregnant all times and was devastated when they resulted in losses... I am a healthy weight, no health problems that I’m aware of. My GP has been very unhelpful and isn’t really taking me seriously due to my age, therefore I’m not being able to get tests for anything. I am feeling really lost and depressed over this. Has anyone experienced 3/+ miscarriages and gone on to have a healthy pregnancy? I am deeply concerned as I have always wanted kids and now fear I won’t be able to. Is anyone able to advise? I also empathize and wish every woman the best who is experiencing this. Xx

Hi

I’m so sorry to hear this. It’s just a horrible time isn’t it but please don’t give up hope.

You should definitely have been referred for investigation after 3 concurrent miscarriages, not that there is going to be something wrong but it just gives you that reassurance going forward. I would definitely keep fighting with the GP until this is done for you so you can get some answers.

I know how hard it is to stay positive but the odds are still on your side xx

@Ek3009 Thank you very much for the support, I really appreciate it. I know such an awful time, do think theres anyway I still have a chance? Feeling so lost. I wish you the best with your scan xxx

I had two miscarriages (13 weeks, then 7 weeks) before having a very healthy (and long!) pregnancy with my son who's now almost 6. The 12 week scan was terrifying and I cried as soon as they put the roller on my skin but the sonography team understood and were very reassuring. Wishing you so much luck - let us know when you can. X

EK, ask your GP for a referral to a recurrent miscarriage clinic. If s/he says no, ask them to put their decision and their reasons in writing. There are things they can do to help, in lots of cases. Your age is a big benefit though - I was 37 in your shoes and knew my eggs probably weren't at their best. Good luck.

Sorry, that last post was meant for N222. X

Hi all,

Sorry for your losses. I had a missed miscarriage last year and now pregnant. 9 weeks today. I found out about my missed miscarriage through a private scan that said by growth heartbeat stopped at 9w1d. I don't know if it's because I'm not close to that point but I just feel numb. I can't stop crying and feel I can't bond with this pregnancy. I don't know what to do. OH doesn't want another private scan either but we had an early NHS one due to one sided pain and saw a heartbeat at 6 weeks. I just can't shake this feeling. How do we get over this anxiety?

Hi

I’m sorry for your loss. I know exactly how you are feeling. I honestly don’t think that anxious feeling will go until that baby is placed in your arms but I’m sure as time goes on it will start to get easier and we will start to enjoy it more. I just keep telling myself that the odds are still on our side and so many women go through this and then go on to have a healthy pregnancy.

I ended up going for an early scan on Sunday as I couldn’t wait. Baby was measuring correctly and there was a nice healthy heart beat so it is possible to go on after a miscarriage and have a healthy pregnancy. Although, the scan reassured me for about 10 minutes then I was just back to worrying about my next scan but if you feel it will help you settle then sit and talk to your OH. I said to mine the only reason I wasn’t going for a scan was to keep him happy and I didn’t feel that was right and he was with me 100% so hopefully your partner can come around too.

My advice would be to try and keep yourself busy so you’re not able to overthink everything and you will have your 12 week scan soon that will give you that reassurance you need. It is so difficult but you will get there. Please let me know how you get on at your scan :) xx

Thanks @Ek3009
My 12 weeks scan is on the 30th. I'm counting down the days. I get why my OH doesn't want the scan. Like you he said it would only give reassurance while we are in there. I'm glad you had an early scan and saw everything was as it should be.
I don't know anyone personally who has been through this, just some lovely ladies on MN who are still TTC. Think it helps to have someone to bounce these feelings off who understand xx

Hi op. I read your first post and then immediately checked my calendar and was like ‘the 20th is sooo far away’ and I’m not even in your shoes. Big congratulations. Great to read your update!!

@N222
So sorry to hear about what you have been through.
You should have been offered testing. We’re you offered anything? Did you ask?

@rainbowbaby2020
Congratulations. It’s great that you saw the heartbeat at the early scan. That’s an excellent start.
The 30th must feel so far away!
I had a missed miscarriage 2 weeks ago. Very similar situation to yours in terms of where I was along the pregnancy etc .
I have had one healthy pregnancy before this and it came as a big shock. I can only imagine what it’s like being pregnant after a loss. Of course you are anxious.

After your missed miscarriage how long did it take you to get pregnant again, if you don’t mind me asking?

Anyway. I wanted to share what I did in my first pregnancy that helped with my anxiety. It might be totally unhelpful or sound stupid but I’ll share on the off chance it helps.
I had bad anxiety in my pregnancy and I just couldn’t relax. I did a bit of reading about the effects of stress on the body. I knew I wouldn’t be able to relax for myself but I made myself think about my body as the space, bedroom, hotel my baby was living in. I wanted my baby to feel cosy, warm, safe, loved. I wanted the hotel to smell nice, look pretty, be really calm etc. I didn’t want my baby to pick up on any adrenaline in my system. Every morning I told myself ‘today, I am pregnant’. And I told myself I would make my baby’s space as lovely as possible for them. Thinking about doing it for them worked better for me than anything else. I did some meditation every morning on this and it helped me get through it.

If you are crying all the time and really struggling is it worth speaking to your GP to get some counselling?

@Mutedgrey so sorry for your loss. I conceived the first cycle after my missed miscarriage. But I had to go through two rounds of medical management and then surgery before the miscarriage was complete. And then my first period came 5 and a half weeks after the surgery. So although we were lucky enough to conceive first cycle, it felt like we had to wait so long before trying again.

To be honest so far I've been ok. A few little bumps where I've been worried, but nothing like this morning. I've got better as the day as gone on. I had a really shit night and didn't sleep much so I think the tiredness and hormones hit me. I've never tried meditation but I might give your idea a go. Thank you xx