Early Miscarriage - Aftercare / Support ?

[Rasberrypavlova]

So I miscarried, painfully, over the weekend at exactly 5 weeks, after spending well over a year TTC it’s fair to say we are pretty devastated. Reading through some of the stories on here has helped over what has been a dark couple of days but I’ve been pretty shocked at the lack of care / after-support / interest whatsoever in what’s been going on from GP or midwives. I’ve not seen anyone, had a telephone consult with both GP & midwife who’ve both pretty much told me to stay at home & the bleeding & pains should subside soon & I can’t get any sort of scan or anything as I wasn’t far enough along. (GP was VERY dismissive!). It just doesn’t feel right & I can’t help thinking what IF something else is still inside me (I’m very aware I’ve miscarried but I mean what if it doesn’t totally clear). I’m having nightmares about it & I feel like I just want some sort of scan / examination / medical professional to give me some clarity that it’s all over & it’s all gone & I can start to move on. Wondering if anyone with any experience at the 5 week mark can advise? Are there options to go and see someone here in the UK privately that I could do ? I know it was only 5 weeks but I’m very in tune with my body, I’ve known for a while & I just don’t feel right.

I dont know about any scan or examination but I had a early miscarriage in November and felt the same I had my bloods done was told it was a miscarriage and then just sent away they never even bothered to ring me with my blood results I had to chase them, maybe you could go see your GP for some advice x

I’ve had 3, all before 12 weeks gestation. I didn’t get a scan with the first only blood tests that showed the hcg had dropped as it was 6 weeks when it happened. Other 2 were over 7 weeks so had a scan. Trusts generally won’t scan until 7 weeks. Further tests aren’t recommended until you’ve had 3. Imagine even private sector will be the same. Unless you have other preceding symptoms that need checked up!
Your body is confused and the hormones mess you up. I was grappling for information to tell me why and there wasn’t an answer. It comes down to medically there is nothing they can do and it’s just a waiting game. I was just advised to wait for a negative test and start trying again. Your support network is important though at this stage and always recommend counselling if you want to discuss it.
It’s crap but I hope you and your partner are supporting each other. Hopefully we all get that rainbow.

That sucks. Ive had similar experience today. I'm 4.5 weeks and woke up this morning in agony with sharp cramping and heavy bleeding. 111 said I need to see my gp and then gp put me through a triage phone call and just said I need bed rest.
They said I'm probably experiencing possible miscarriage or threatened miscarroage and to lie down.
When I asked how long for or what I should do it was like he couldn't understand why I had questions. Now lying here wondering what on earth I'm supposed to do... Like how long do I stay lying down? When should I test to check I've miscarried. There doesn't seem to be any aftercare 😞

@LouLeo I’m so sorry to hear you are going through this. I’ve had a couple of serious operations in adulthood & this by far was the most traumatic experience of all of them in my life. And painful too! For what it’s worth I never did get seen (or heard really ! 🙁) by anyone, two weeks tomorrow since mine “started” & I’m feeling okay now (still not exactly the happiest girl in the room but I’ve stopped wallowing in self pity which is a start!).
For me, the first 48 hours were PAINFUL and a LOT of blood. I couldn’t leave the house. The blood continued for a total 7 days becoming much more manageable to the end of it. I took an entire week sick off work which is extremely unlike me but I couldn’t cope, was absolutely distraught and didn’t want to have to be dealing with such things in a work toilet. This meant telling my boss what was going on, also not ideal but she has been fantastic about the whole thing and really caring and respectful.
My GP told me it was “ just like a heavy period” and also that I was “one of the lucky ones” because my body was doing it naturally. I actually feel like minimising someone’s experience who is having a miscarriage is the worst possible thing a GP can do and say & almost hurt the most!
If it’s a threatened miscarriage, I’m no expert but I feel like you will know - after a day of bleeding I just knew - any pregnancy symptoms had just gone, i felt empty and not pregnant anymore. I waited 5 x days after it started (when I was still bleeding) to do a pregnancy test which was immediately negative. It still blows my mind how you can just go from being pregnant to not pregnant, just like that!!
It will be okay and you will recover from this. You just need to get through the next few days. Let us know how you get on - crossing my fingers for you that it’s only threatened & you have a sticky little bean, wouldnt wish this on anyone xxx