Blighted ovum miscarriage - how long of work?

[Kyrie6]

Hello,

I went for my 12 week dating scan last Friday to discover that I had a blighted ovum with a 6week embryo. I started spotting later that afternoon and ended up in hospital the following day and endured a very traumatic and painful miscarriage. (But I guess they all are)

I was just wondering how long people took off work for similar situations ? I feel silly as I know people go through worse and there wasn't a 12 week fetus there but my body and mind were three month pregnant. I'm
Also a teacher at a special needs school and worry about the effect of my absence will have on the students as they struggle with change and who would be covering my lessons. Family tell me to be selfish and look after myself to recover but I just don't know how long it takes. Any advice welcome :)

I was signed off for two weeks in total (one week from the hospital after having medication as things weren't moving along quickly enough, and then my GP signed me off for another week as I was still bleeding and not emotionally ready). I have no shame in that whatsoever, better to go back when I was capable of focusing on work.

I nearly always took 2 weeks. As a teacher you won't be able to to off for a cry or have an easier day if you're feeling bad.

I went back to work the next day after finding out and then two days after having the miscarriage medically managed as my body hadn't realised it should miscarry.

For me I didn't want to dwell I just wanted to get rid and move on. The fact there was no foetus made it easier for me to cope.

I read posts on here where women are signed off for weeks with the grief and shock and I think that's fine too, everyone copes differently.

Sorry for your loss.

No time only for apoointments, but then if I was in pain or bled a lot I moight have done.

Yeah I'm still in pain and bleeding and very very pale! I know been in work will keep my mind off what's happened but I guess I need to be 100% body and mind and like you say everyone is different! How did everyone partners cope because my husband has been very quiet and doesn't really want to talk about it? I've obviously just left it and don't want to push him. We have discussed trying to conceive as soon as possible , how long did people wait?

Partner wanted to wait I wanted to try again right away so we compromised and waited 6 months and booked a lovely holiday in between. We got pregnant first month of trying and now have a healthy baby.

Again it depends on your partners personality, we had a little cry together the evening we found out and then didn't discuss it much after.

I never think about it now at all.

Hi, sorry to hear what you're going through. I started miscarrying at 9 weeks (although baby only 6 weeks) on Sunday. I'm a year 6 teacher so feeling the guilt with SATs coming up. I've decided to take 2 weeks off school. It's such a hard job to keep up appearances in. I'm going to continue planning for my class from home to give me something to do but there's no way I could face the kids yet. I'm waiting for them to start spreading rumours that I've got corona virus!

I feel like a lot of teachers are always so reluctant to take time off. I know I've probably only had about 2 days off in 6 years! But I feel like I need to really take care of myself and process things and for once put work second or it could do a lot of damage in the long run.

V sorry about your mc.

Much depends on how you are physically and in yourself.

I took no time off , physical symptoms had stopped apart from light bleeding, and I disliked my line manager at the time and didn’t want her to know anything or have any reason to argue that I was unreliable or whatever. I also found work a good distraction, BUT had a desk job where could keep my head down if feeling low.

Sometimes I miscarried on the Friday and went back to work on the Monday, other times (when I didn’t know what to expect) I took 2-3 weeks off.

To be honest, all of my blighted ovum miscarriages were extremely painful and pretty much a blood bath and I usually ended up in hospital because I needed gas & air and morphine for the pain.
It was only the hang over effects of these drugs that kept me off work a day or so longer than i would have liked.
I got used to having them and always went for the medical management route just because the miscarriage for me could last 7 weeks or more to end fully and I just didn’t have the time to hang around for that long.
I had lots of other commitments so needed it over and done with.

Bloody horrific time, feel for you op, I do.

crosser62 I just want to say thank you for your comment. My miscarriage was blighted ovum (I think; the sac was empty) and I felt like I was being ridiculous as it wasn't a "real" pregnancy, but I had contractions and it dragged on for (literally) bloody weeks. You've made me feel better about it.

I took only the days of surgery each time (I had surgical management). It felt easier to get back to work than stay at home feeling sad. But everyone copes differently. I'm sorry you're going through this :(

Oh gosh I can't believe you have you been through this multiple times :( I'm so sorry!

I was just starting to worry about my pain . I had severe cramps and gas and air also whilst at hospital and although my bleeding is less now I have no cramps but it's like my whole inside is sore? Like my uterus. Has anyone else had this?

First and third one I was straight back, but my second one I was hospitalised and I was traumatised so ended up having 2 weeks off (student nurse/ carer). I’ll be honest that one still haunts me 4 months later but I did feel totally out of control.
Mindframe and how you feel all make a difference as others have said. But I wouldn’t rush back and being ‘selfish’ isn’t always a negative but self protection in these circumstances.

I likened it to labour pains which it was.
Severe, minutes apart then seconds apart until the products passed.
Awful.

@Kyrie6 hi, i have just come across your thread as i am goimg through the exact same you did right now. I was just wondering if you had an problems conceiving after, if so did you wait a cycle? Im just waiting now for my body to misscarry. Its been horrendous the past week x

I took three weeks off (the first one was the week of waiting for a rescan) , then the week after medical management (which took three days and nights to finish anyway) , then another week as I just didn’t feel ready emotionally at all.

I also work from home most of the time but still just couldn’t do it, even the thought of online meetings and having to be all upbeat and involved.

I’m sorry for your loss

@Goatscheesewithhoney im just deciding whether to go in on Monday. So far no cramping or bleeding. Did you ttc after? Xx