Miscarriage

[Mammy2twoxox]

I had a miscarriage last week, it’s still so very raw. My heart is absolutely broke. I was 14 weeks and it was very much planned and so much planned for our baby we loved the baby from the minute we knew. The baby was my 2nd pregnancy and my first pregnancy was all healthy. They announced my baby had no heart beat and from that minute my whole world fell apart. Questioning if it was my fault even though I did everything by the book. I know miscarriage are very common please can I have advice on how you came to terms with the loss of your babies. I can’t describe the heart ache people are just telling us to move on and try again yet it’s been a week it’s the last thing on my mind, it’s not what you want to hear right now. I’m grieving bad I cry all the time I lock myself away I can’t sleep, I took really poorly within the miscarriage I was in hospital I just can’t come to terms with what has happened. I’m sorry if none of this makes sense my head is literally scrambled and all over. Also another question if me and my partner did ever try again when’s the best time as I’ve seen loads of different posts on it. Any successful healthy pregnancies after miscarriage?
Thank you so much and I’m so sorry to anyone who has experienced a miscarriage my heart honestly breaks for everyone.

Hi lovely, so so sorry for your loss! It’s so awful and nobody understands unless they’re been through it themselves (I’ve had 3 last year and trying to come to terms still). I would say try and give yourself all the time you need to grieve and talk to your partner/close friends as much as possible. I’ve heard lots of wonderful stories where people go on to have healthy pregnancies the next time and the fact you already have a child is really positive. As for trying again I’ve heard lots of people try straight away but my doctor said give it a couple of months for your body to heal and take folic acid and a multivitamin to prepare yourself.
You could ask your doctor if they can do any tests/blood work to put your mind at rest but sadly they don’t refer you to a specialist unless you have 3 or more which is awful!

Fingers crossed for you next time, take care of yourself xx

I had a miscarriage a year ago and still not full at terms with it. I have a son now but it still hurts like crazy.
When i miscarried i came home and locked my self in my room with my fiancee for the entire weekend.
I have somewhat come term to the fact that maybe life/god choose right then and there was not a good time for me. I dont think it ever full healths. i believe at one point we learn to live through the pain.