How to cope with the waiting

[mamadoit]

Hello all, just read through many of the recent threads and am sad so many of us are going through these uneasy times.

I am 6 weeks pregnant and have been bleeding brown blood with clots for over a week. Went for a scan a few days ago and there was an empty gestation sac, but urine test showed ‘strongly positive’, in doctor’s words. Did another test yesterday and it still says ‘pregnant 3+ weeks’.

They’re giving it a week to see if anything develops inside the sack, but have said it probably won’t. I agree because I am not having very strong symptoms, nothing like I did with my DD a couple of years ago.

The trouble is that I am still nauseous, and occasionally my breasts feel very sore. This makes it very hard not to feel pregnant and to start moving on! I know my body is confused because the sack is still there and that’s what’s keeping the HCG levels up despite the bleeding.

It feels like the pregnancy is leaving veeeeeeery slowly, in tiiiiiny little clots I keep passing.

Is there anyone around here at the moment who’s had to deal with this going on for weeks? Just want to hear how you’ve coped and how it ended.

Hugs to all.

I’m sorry to hear you’re going through this, I have recently had the same experience, we had to keep going back for scans 1 week apart, so in the end I had 3 scans over 3 weeks to confirm nothing has grown. Due to me having a missed miscarriage I opted for the surgery which I had at the weekend. It’s a very emotional time and the waiting is the hardest bit of it all.

That sounds awful, Kyoko. Why did they have you go back three times??

Hi.
Unfortunately for me pregnancy tests showed positive for up to 3 weeks AFTER the whole sac had passed and the bleeding had stopped. Pregnancy hormones hang around for a very long time. There is very little point in wasting your money on these tests.
For me, with an empty sac, it took for 2 to 7 weeks after scan diagnosis to completely miscarry the empty sac.
All the time with very strong pregnancy symptoms and continuous bleeding.
For this reason I opted for medical management which is tablets to bring the process to an end quicker.
Life had to carry on, I had another child and work to consider but ultimately couldn’t stand the torture of waiting and waiting week after week knowing it was going to happen anyway.
Sympathies, it’s an awful process but there are options to lessen the distress.
All the best.

Thanks, crosser62. I’m definitely going to ask for medical management because I see no point in going on like this, feeling nauseous and sorry for myself. Can’t wait for the scan (not in the usual ‘can’t wait’ sense!) and for the whole thing to be over.

My first scan they confirmed it wasn’t a viable pregnancy, then they wanted us to wait a week to see if anything grows, then it did slightly so I had to wait another week to check again and that’s when they confirmed it was a missed miscarriage. It’s been a horrible few weeks

So sorry, Kyoyo! That sounds very intense. Nature can be cruel in exquisite ways. At least now it’s done and you can focus on recovering and moving on.