Miscarriage at 5-6 weeks

[savethewales]

Hi all,

I'm currently going through a miscarriage I think, bleeding bright red blood for the last 24 hours, some small clots but no pain or cramping as such.

My sore breasts have gone and I've resigned myself to losing this baby. The doctor and EPU can't do anything, they've told me to wait two weeks and test, if I'm still pregnant I should get back in touch.

I am so sad about the whole thing, it seems silly as it was early but feel like so much love, hope and plans have gone down the drain. We fell quickly after marrying in December and I'm sure something isn't quite right with this baby, but the thought of trying to get back to understanding my ovulation etc makes me feel awful.

I feel sad and like I've let people down; I know this is ridiculous and I haven't but it's just something I can't shake.

Would love to hear your experiences if you've suffered similarly to me and hopefully you've had a successful second go :)

Sorry to hear you are miscarrying wales it is a horrible thing to go through, no matter how early on. I'm sure for the majority of couples as soon as they get a positive test they have lots of hopes and plans for the future - you need to allow yourself time and space to grieve for all of that. Try to be open and talk about it - you'll be surprised how many women have been through a similar experience - it's just not talked about much. If that doesn't feel possible then "talk" to people here - you need an outlet for those feelings and to be able to work through them in your own time.

Sorry you’re going through this. I miscarried on Friday at 6weeks. My bleeding was heavy though with clots and period pain.
They took a test at the epu and already it was negative. That was quite a shock.
Allow yourself time to grieve, any loss is still a loss no matter how early.
Like you, I too am now having to go back to tracking ovulation etc after falling pregnant very quickly. From the start I just knew it was too good to be true.

Statistically though we are more likely to have a successful pregnancy next time rather than miscarry again, which is kind of hopeful.
Sending you hugs

Thank you both for your replies, it really means a lot.

I'm sorry you've been through this @Chwil20; the epu don't really want to know with me not reaching 6 weeks just yet which is awful. I'll try and test tonight maybe to see.

I've got to be honest I was worried with this one from the beginning, kept thinking the line wasn't as dark as I'd like etc. Having to go back to the drawing board as any pattern I had has gone :(

Yeah, it's definitely hopeful. Will light a candle tonight for what could have been and start to think about what can be, hopefully in the near future.

I'm currently going through similar motions. Although our baby was a wee surprise and turned out to be extremely wanted. As soon as we got our heads around the situation it all has come falling down.

I was 5/6 weeks and last Tuesday started bleeding like a slow tap from evening to lunchtime on Wednesday with really bad cramps. I have prior spotting and was referred for an early scan the week before, was pretty much just told to come back in two weeks. So when this happened I called them again and they told me to keep the appointment and take a test before coming in... the appointment is tomorrow!

After the bleeding stopped last wednesday I had nothing until the Thursday when cramps came back and dark brown spotting - a bit more gloomy (sorry) than the red blood on Tuesday night which was just watery blood, enough to fill part of the pad every hour. I had been spotting really lightly until yesterday. Now I just have a bit creamy yellow discharge 😔

My pregnancy symptoms completely disappeared a couple of days before - I actually posted about it here!

I can really relate to what you're feeling though, I am still trying to come to terms with everything and I feel silly and guilty that I'm so upset after only 5/6 weeks when there are people here who have been actively trying for years, or have miscarried much later on, or had operations and worse.

But it is traumatic and an emotional and physical rollercoaster. The only thing that's getting me through this is that my partner and I now know we're ready and this is something we really want.

It's okay not to be okay right now, give it time and wait it out. Prepare for the worst but hope for the best, lots of stories of hope on here to help you sleep at night.

I hope it's not bad news for you ❤

@raachelmorrow I am keeping everything crossed for your appointment tomorrow; I'm the same as you in that my sore boobs have gone which has pretty much convinced me.

I feel so lucky that we fell so quickly and know we can; but seeing my husband's reaction and my parents being so overly made up for us, has just made me feel worse taking it away. I am glad I told close family, as I'm so upset I don't think it would have gone unnoticed and their love is really helping. Although a text from my dad saying 'love you' tipped me over the edge a bit! I'm hoping we fall quickly and successfully soon as I don't know if I could cope with months of negative tests.

Thank you and good luck to you and your partner.

I’ve lost 2 at 5-6 weeks in the last year, please take care of yourself

Don’t minimise your loss because it’s early. Is this your first pregnancy?

Be prepared, even though you can rationalise the loss and day to day you’ll be functional very soon, you probably won’t be able To talk about it for a a bit. I found the emotional pain of it to be bone deep and almost primal, and that took me by surprise. If you want to talk, do, but if you don’t that’s ok too.

Take some time off and properly self care. Don’t do a single thing you don’t want to and indulge in things that give you comfort take all the care and time in the world.

Thanks for reaching out @teapotdespot, I am so sorry for your loss. Have they looked into anything to determine why you've lost twice?

It is my first pregnancy, we were lucky to fall so quickly but now we are back to square one, in a worse position than before if anything as I'm a bit scarred by the whole thing and know next time I'll be skitzy and terrified.

I wish you so much luck in your pregnancies going forward x

@savethewales the NHS won’t class it as recurrent miscarriage until you have 3 or more in my area.

I have PCOS and insulin resistance which correlates to early miscarriage, so I’m addressing that currently. It makes it an even tougher pill to swallow, because I ovulated about twice a year until I started eating low carb. 2 cycles in 2 months since low carb though so fingers crossed we’ll fall again before too long I’m overweight largely due to the PCOS, so I’m working on that along side it. Hard not to blame yourself when it happens when you’re overweight, but I’m trying to work through that.

You were very lucky to fall quickly and the likelihood is you’ll fall again and next time you’ll be lucky

You’re more fertile in your first few cycles after a loss, so the odds are with you.

Gentle unmumsnetty hugs for you

I’m so sorry for your loss, to lose a baby at any stage in pregnancy is just devastating. I miscarried at just over 7 weeks in November and only a few days after seeing a heartbeat. As I had surgical management they were able to test the tissue and confirmed no abnormalities were found, which should make me feel better as far as future pregnancy is concerned, but has just left me wondering why it happened. We struggled to conceive our daughter and ended up having IVF, but the baby we lost was an unplanned miracle conceived naturally 💔

Please be kind to yourself and allow yourself time to grieve. Hopefully you will conceive again soon and will be lucky next time 💐

Thank you both for your replies. I'm still bleeding, again not heavy and in no pain but have had a negative clear blue pregnancy test.

Totally coming to terms with it now and looking forward to trying to be positive and try again.

We're all still learning things about ourselves and our bodies so fingers crossed we are lucky soon xx

Hi everyone, just an update on the above. I had my scan today and it wasn't good news but we're okay.

My body has completely looked after itself which I suppose is good, and my ovaries look healthy. Spotting completely stopped 2 days ago and I've got a negative on the pregnancy test I took this morning.

My partner and I had a great discussion this morning before the scan and it's really helped. We had a 3 week holiday booked to explore Bali and the surrounding islands before we found out about our surprise, and we're also looking at buying a house together.

Everything happens for a reason; now we can plan to do this properly and make the most of our immediate plans. Feeling closer than ever as a couple after this whole experience, and now we know we're ready and want to start a family!

No doubt the grief will come in waves but we are in it together, for now, I'm feeling okay.

Thank you for all of the support and best wishes for the future to you all, I really hope things work out for you I'll be back at the end of the year - fingers crossed x

@RaachelMorrow I'm sorry for your loss, glad you've managed to find the positives in it and it's put everything in perspective for you both.
We're in a similar boat with a honeymoon to look forward to; I'm eager to try again, hopefully while fertile after this sadness but we will just have to wait and see.

Good luck with everything x