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hopeseeker · 08/02/2020 21:14

Hi all!
At the beginning of June 2019 I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks. The summer before I moved to a new country (where I still live) to be with my boyfriend, and we had been together about a year and a half when I miscarried. The pregnancy was a surprise, especially since I still didn't have a job, and trying to get comfortable with my new living situation, but we were all excited. After the miscarriage we were devastated, but I wanted to try again right away. My boyfriend then promised that once I had a job, we could try again, but once I had found a job (a cleaning job, so of course I didn't want to stay there forever) he changed his mind. He made two or three more of these promises, but again changed his mind. These months have been harder than I could have ever imagined, especially since I don't feel at home here yet, no friends really, and not a lot of money, which makes everything a lot harder. My boyfriend has a group of friends, where their girlfriends are all either pregnant or just had a baby, and I made it pretty clear to him, that it was too hard for me to hang out with them, especially since I don't know if we will ever have a baby again. The one person here that I've gotten very close to is my boyfriend's sister, and tonight he told me that she is pregnant again.. I just finished my crying, and am dreading the next months, since she lives across the street. I feel like this relationship has gone through so much already, but I don't know how to keep staying strong. Any advice?
Thank you

OP posts:
Mollie3 · 09/02/2020 22:11

Hi, sorry for your loss 💐
I was in a similar situation doing a similar job. I know how hard it is to try and be friends with people who all have babies or are expecting when you yourself are not in this situation. Could you have a serious chat with your DP explaining how you feel? Sounds like he’s undecided and might need a little gentle persuasion.

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