8th miscarriage, ERPC tomorrow :(

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I really don't know where to go from here.

It's our 8th miscarriage before 9 weeks and I'm so so tired of it mentally and physically.

Tomorrow will be my 2nd ERPC and today I feel so angry and like I've lost all hope.

We are only 26 and 27, I feel like the odds are well and truly against us and don't know where to turn.

I have an appointment with fertility specialist in February, can anyone tell me what to expect?

This pregnancy we tried clexane, progesterone, steroids, aspirin and I'm just absolutely exhausted and I'm so close to just chucking the towel in and accepting I'm never meant to be a mum.

I feel life is so unfair, we are good people with a great marriage and it's all we want.

I don't know why I'm posting just hoping to hear maybe some advice or opinions on what you'd do next in my situation.

I can't help with the fertility expert but I know how you feel and I want you to know my heart goes out to you

I'm hoping this will also help bump your post so someone can offer you the advice you are wanting, stay strong and I really hope you get your happy ending x

Thank you so much @Maxamill I'm sorry for your losses too 💕

Sorry for your loss.

I'm not an expert, but spent 4 years, and had 5 losses, trying to conceive. It's all encompassing and exhausting. Do you manage to fall pregnant quickly? Is it possible to have genetic testing on this one?

In my experience and from years reading the fertility boards here, your meds seem the standard cocktail offered to women who mc. A fertility expert may have views on when you start each med and the dose.

Hope all goes well tomorrow.

It may also be worthwhile getting referred to Prof Quenby at Coventry. She does a lot of work on recurring mc. There is a webchat with her on mumsnet from many years ago where she talked about her research into multiple mcs.

I'm so sorry.

Please read my friends blog on multiple miscarriages. It's called Try Try Again and it might help with treatment to prevent further mcs.

Sending you lots of love 💐

I'm so, so sorry. Like I said in the previous post, I can empathise and it is crap.

None of those treatments worked for me, despite it being the standard cocktail they give to women who find themselves in our shoes.
If you can get in touch with Professor Quenby, I would second that, she really is a pioneer in the recurrent miscarriage field.
All our tests were normal too, including on the baby and I definitely would've got in touch with Professor Quenby if the 6th pregnancy hadn't worked out.
I hope you've got good support around you and just have someone to be with you during this horrible time. I'm so, so sorry. xx

Thank you so much everyone.

ERPC went well and I'm at home resting now, Coventry is about a 3 hour drive from us so I think the recommended specialist is out of our reach.

There's been some talk regarding referring me to St Mary's in London which is an hour from us so more practical.

Going to book a holiday with DH and let my body recover, also for us both mentally, we need something to look forward to and don't want to conceive again until we have some answers and another plan seeing as steroids, clexane etc didn't work for us.

Thank you again xx