I think I am Miscarrying
EssJayyCee · 16/01/2020 05:30
Hi I am supposedly 6 weeks+1 (first pregnancy after trying for 17 months) however I have been having spotting for a couple of days, watery red, pink and brown discharge.
I have had no cramps or pains just a few twinges and pinches here and there.
I was trying to stay positive but I have woken up this morning and my only pregnancy symptom of sore boobs has gone.
I am in the process of booking a scan with the EPAU but I cant get hold of them easily with my working hours.
I don't know what to do.
I need any advice and comfort please.
I was in the process of getting fertility help when I fell pregnant but now I will have lost that help because of falling pregnant. I feel like my whole world is crashing down around me.
ec1993 · 16/01/2020 06:01
Hi OP. I'm so sorry you're feeling like this. I have had lots of miscarriages and understand your fright at the blood. This early on in pregnancy, your symptoms will come and go, that's quite normal. Also bleeding doesn't always indicate a miscarriage. Please take today off work and see if you can get a scan with EPU. Thinking of you and hoping for the best xx
EssJayyCee · 16/01/2020 06:21
Thank you @ec1993 for taking the time to reply to me.
Your kind words and reassurance has surprisingly given me comfort.
I am still trying to be positive I just have a deep feeling that our baby has gone.
The nurse at the hospital also tried to reassure me that some women have bleeding all through pregnancy but I just can't shift that feeling.
I just don't feel pregnant at all. All I want to do is cry.
I have booked the day off work informing my manager of my worries and I am hoping I will get through to the EPU today and get booked in as soon as possible.
I need it sooner rather than later. To put my mind at rest either way. But then on the other hand I don't want to see nothing on the scan because I think it will break me.
ec1993 · 16/01/2020 09:19
@EssJayyCee I'm glad you have taken the day off from work. Make sure you put your feet up. Bleeding can be caused by so much including a haematoma caused by implantation, hormonal, left overs from your last period etc etc.
I know it's so so hard, I am 7 weeks pregnant again and every day feels like I am fighting a battle just to keep my head above water with anxiety.
Nobody tells you the scary, worrying, shitty sides of pregnancy.
I'm really keeping everything crossed for you and sending hugs xx
Joker123 · 16/01/2020 17:18
I had vanishing symptoms at the same time. The sore boobs never returned but sickness came along instead a week or so later.
I also spotted/had bloody discharge and knew it was all over. Had a scan at 6+3 and all was fine.
Good luck xx
VenusStarr · 16/01/2020 18:30
I'm really sorry you're worried @EssJayyCee, I hope you can get a scan and all is well.
Just to say about fertility support, I concieved whilst waiting for my first appointment and sadly miscarried whilst waiting but they have still seen me and I've had further investigations. Hopefully you won't need this, but the clock doesn't reset xx
EssJayyCee · 16/01/2020 20:49
Thank you everyone.
I have managed to get an appointment with EPU tomorrow morning so I will know tomorrow what is going on.
My spotting is changing all the time one minute its pink watery blood, the next its brown discharge and tonight I have had dark red thick sort of discharge.
I have had a few twinges and pinches through put the day but still no cramps.
My fingers are crossed my baby is okay but deep down I know it's gone.
Jmommy · 17/01/2020 00:25
@EssJayyCee I have no advice, but wanted to share my positive story. I miscarried my first pregnancy after nearly 18 months ttc (plus a year not preventing not trying). I think that bfp anyway changed something in my body, as I got another bfp just two months after. And that one stuck
EssJayyCee · 17/01/2020 05:41
@Jmommy Thank you for sharing your experience.
If I may ask, what was making it so hard for you to conceive in the first place? Did you have irregular cycles or something?
In my head right now, I feel like this was my one and only chance.
I passed a small clot this morning and was dripping blood in the toilet so I just know this is the end. I just know it.
I don't think I am strong enough to deal with this.
Bluestar1 · 17/01/2020 05:57
Thinking if you today, I had a few days of light but very red bleeding in the early stages of my pregnancy with DD and all was fine. It had taken me 18 months to fall pregnant so I totally understand how you’re feeling! I had lots of twinges and stretching type feelings too which freaked me out but turns out it was a good sign! Keep strong!
WinterRose92 · 17/01/2020 06:09
Thinking of you today.
I had bleeding throughout the first few months of my pregnancy with my daughter and had to have a few scans. All was fine and it stopped after a few months. Sometimes it just happens. Very scary though. She’s 5 months old now. I never had anything like that with my son and was convinced it meant I was losing her. But it doesn’t always mean that.
We’re all here for you xx
Iconapop · 17/01/2020 06:25
I had two miscarriages and then a chemical pregnancy and bleeding in my pregnancies with my children.
It’s very hard - miscarriage steals the joy of pregnancy. You can never really relax.
My midwife said to me, and I found some comfort in it, ‘if you are having a miscarriage you are having a miscarriage and if you are not having a miscarriage you are not having a miscarriage. There is nothing you can do to change it’. So as best you can, you try and get through the day and absolve yourself of responsibility and let go of the guilt that it’s something you did or something you failed to do.
If it’s of any comfort I had heavy bleeding and cramping with both my successful pregnancies.
Upsydaisyy · 17/01/2020 08:12
I have had bleeding for the first 15 weeks of my first pregnancy and everything was absolutely fine but I’ve also had bleeding and then miscarried, I hope you get positive news this morning
Pizzaaddict · 17/01/2020 08:15
In my last pregnancy I bled so much that there was no doubt in my mind the baby was gone. I didn’t have a scan as I was so sure but about a month later I discovered I was actually still pregnant, so bleeding isn’t always a sure sign. Good luck x
angelmum6 · 17/01/2020 08:41
Thinking of you today and sending love, keep us updated. Good luck!xxx
natlove · 17/01/2020 08:50
I have had numerous miscarriages and I know how hard it is. I have had one successful pregnancy and in that pregnancy I bled at 6 weeks, 8 weeks, 14 weeks and 23 weeks and each time I said "that's it, Iv lost her" stay positive. Mine all came down to a weak spot on my cervix. Thinking of you x
Jmommy · 17/01/2020 10:40
@EssJayyCee it’s not very clear why it took me so long to conceive at first. My cycles were always regular but apparently I have somewhat pco type ovaries and maybe didn’t ovulate regularly (even if got positive opk in almost every cycle). After my mc I was put on letrozole and conceived again first cycle and have DC from that! Now I recently got a surprise bfp too, but miscarried again.
EssJayyCee · 17/01/2020 13:39
Just to update you all.
Things didn't go well, there was no baby in my womb and a pregnancy test at the hospital came back negative. I have been passing clots all day.
So I was right. Baby is gone.
Thank you for checking in on me.
Good luck with your journeys.
Pizzaaddict · 17/01/2020 13:41
So sorry OP 💐
VenusStarr · 17/01/2020 13:54
I am so sorry ❤️
Iconapop · 17/01/2020 14:17
I am so sorry.
Lozz22 · 17/01/2020 20:56
Aww darling I'm so sorry I've had 4 miscarriages so I know how much it sucks and hurts. My last one I lost in October at 9 weeks. Found out on my 7 week scan I had a Haematoma but was told it was fine no where near Baby and nothing to be concerned about if I started bleeding. Started spotting brown blood but then it gradually turned redder and redder and I was wiping clots out. My Best Friend and work colleague made me go to the hospital to get checked out because I had a lot of tummy and back pains too. Dr said I had a kidney infection and prescribed antibiotics and did a test whilst I was there. It came up straight away with a mega strong positive so I went home with some hope. However my symptoms had also started to disappear and I said to my Best Friend and also to my Partner the following day that something was wrong with the Baby and that I knew deep down our Little Bean was gone. Later that afternoon I was involved in a very minor accident when I clipped another car. Not hard enough to cause serious damage just scuffed his front bumper and took some paint off mine. It wasn't hard enough for me to think I need to go get checked out. That night though I started having really intense contractions and found out on my booked scan the next morning that our Baby had gone. I couldn't even face looking at the screen just laid there crying in my Best Friend's arms I still don't blame the bump I had in my car for it I'd sort of known at my first scan which I thought I was 7 weeks pregnant and when I measured 2-3 weeks behind. Gestational sac and yolk but no Baby that something was going to go wrong. At my next scan 2 weeks later ( the one where we finally saw Baby growing) Baby didn't have a heartbeat. Take time for yourself take time off work if you need it. To be honest I couldn't get out of bed for 2 weeks. I was in a lot of pain and so so drained from it all. It took me a further 5 weeks to fully miscarry but I chose natural. I did however need to take misoprostol in the end because my body didn't want to let go. There's a lot of groups on Facebook that I found a lot of support off which helped me a bit. But I'll also admit that even now 15 weeks down the line I still sit and cry on a daily basis and I still can't look at a pregnant woman or a Baby without breaking down x
WinterRose92 · 17/01/2020 20:58
I’m so sorry. I was so hoping for good news for you. Sending love ❤️
angelmum6 · 17/01/2020 22:58
So so sorry @EssJayyCee sending so much love xx
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