Possible 8th miscarriage, in despair, don't know where to go from here?

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Hi everyone

I am currently 7 weeks pregnant with our 8th pregnancy. I am 26, DH 27.

In the 5 years we've been married, we've lost 7 before 8 weeks. 1 ended in D&C.

I have endometriosis and a suspected autoimmune disease although that's always come back inconclusive.

This has been my best pregnancy yet, scan at 4.5 weeks showed sac and yolk. 5.5 weeks showed a heartbeat. No bleeding, no stomach pain other than a few early cramps, all looking positive, taking prednisolone, 150mg aspirin, 5mg folic acid and clexane injections daily then my 7 week scan yesterday showed baby has a slow heart rate of 100.

I am booked in for a re scan on Tuesday next week and I'm considering not even going. I don't want to hear those words again that there is no heartbeat.

Nurse took me into a side room yesterday and was lovely to me and DH, offered a cuddle, gave me her personal extension number to call at any time between now and the scan if I have any problems.

I feel like this pregnancy has now been written off and I've been crying ever since yesterday, my doctor has signed me off work for the following week.

I don't know where I go from here if this baby is lost again, how would I even put myself through pregnancy for a 9th time? I feel like I've given up all hope of ever being a Mum.

Didn't want to read and run. I'm so sorry. I had five miscarriages before my rainbow baby, so though not as many, I have some understanding of how scary, frustrating and heartbreaking it all is.

While it is easier said than done, just take it day by day in this current pregnancy and use that number the nurse gave you when you need to! Even just for a chat.
Tommys Helpline were a God send to me in the dark days, they'll definitely be more than happy to speak to you.
If the worst happens and I really, really hope it doesn't, see if you can get referred to a Tommys clinic. They have so many trials going on and are more aware of what might help than local pregnancy units.

Be kind to yourself and I'll be hoping for you. xxx

Thank you so much @SugarSW7 I'm so sorry for your losses but also so happy to hear of your rainbow baby ❤️

I'm really really hoping my baby stays with us and praying for the best outcome but I will update when I can. Thank you again xx

I have the autoimmune disease that you're talking about and sadly without a placenta or a baby to do a post-mortem on it is very hard to determine with accuracy.

However if this is indeed your 8th loss I would be asking them to consider treating you as though you do have the condition and embark on your next pregnancy under the assumption that you do have it (medication and treatment wise)

Let us know ❤️

So sorry to hear what you’re going through. I also had five losses before our DD. I was helped by Professor Brosens and Professor Quenby at Coventry Hospital Recurrent Miscarriage Unit and I can’t recommend them enough. They are trialling new treatments for women with recurrent miscarriage and the amazing thing is you can get referred to them on the NHS from anywhere in the country by your GP. Google then and send an email to their admin team to see if you can get on their next clinical trial n

Oops posted too soon. At the moment they are prescribing some women with a drug usually used for diabetes and it has had good results.
Wishing you lots of luck.

Thank you @ahenderson270 and I will definitely look that up @ferntwist although is a very long way from us 😢 thank you.

I had a scan Tuesday, Heartrate is low at 100 they're not happy with it. Baby measuring 8.9mm and sac 12.7mm (sac small for how far I am).

Rescanned today (48 hours later) heart rate bouncing between 98-104. Baby now measuring 11.1mm and sac is still the same size.

I'm being rescanned next Tuesday and wondered if anyone has any advice on this or ways I can help the sac grow? I've read lots of water. They are able to see placenta and 1ml of fluid.

I'm so scared as this is my 8th pregnancy and I have never got this far before which was giving us so much hope to be knocked down again.

Just to update, a scan confirmed babies heart stopped between 7.5-8 weeks and I'm in for a D&C tomorrow morning xx

@elc19 I'm so sorry to hear this, I didn't realise you'd updated the thread.

I hope you're recovering with support and love xx

You may have Antiphospholipid Syndrome, I have it and had recurrent miscarriages and a stillbirth at 29 weeks then almost died myself before they managed to diagnose. I now have a beautiful DS after incredible support by an amazing team. It is possible with the right management to have your baby. I'm wishing you so much luck and hope you get the right support and care.

Thank you for your kind words @ahenderson270 xx

@Ingridla I'm so sorry to hear of your losses. I am hoping they test me for this as I've heard a lot about it xx