Not coping after miscarriage

[Guest1233]

3rd time now and I think this time its hit my hard. I just feel so worthless, and sad. But putting on the happy face.

We made plans and our future changed but now I'm struggling with changing it back.

I lost my job too but I think I'm worrying about money also. I wake up with a headache and go to bed with one I'm so stressed.
Does anyone have any advice on how to make me better.

Hi @Guest1233 I'm so sorry for your loss. Im not sure I have advice on how to make it better but I've been told to be kind to yourself and remember its not your fault. I'm currently going through a miscarriage and it is a very lonely place. My head never stops with the what ifs but I'm trying to be kind to myself. It's understandable to feel sad and depressed but remember you are not worthless. Take some time for you x

Honestly, long term I have no idea what to suggest - but for now I’d say to go to your GP as soon as possible and explain your current mental state. I saw my GP the other day absolutely deviated and distraught, and they were very kind, talked to me and made me feel understood and they’ve put me on a short course of mood-stabilizing meds to help get through this next week of this miscarriage. After that, perhaps I’ll be able to start healing from a more firm foundation. We’ll see.

If you are not coping, go to you doctor as soon as possible and get help. If there are no appointments, stress to the reception that you are falling apart. This is an acute injury, just like a broken arm. It all needs medicine and it’s there to help us.

devastated not deviated, ones.

And obvs not ones - damn you spellchecker!

Thank you ladies sorry to about your loss too.

I had really bad panic attacks last time and couldnt sleep. The doctor has sent me a letter to ring but I can not bring myself to as of yet because it's about being referred for testing.
Last time I got mild sleepers which helped alot. I know I need to speak to the doctor but I feel silly. Until I watched the news today saying how many women can suffer with ptsd after miscarriage.
I'm going to ring tomorrow and get the right help.
My daughter has asked me to go to her assembly tomorrow but I cant be around so many people in a room, but I feel horrible and dont know how to explain to her.
I feel I'm only strong when my partner is with me because he knows how to deal with a panic attack it's the worst thing in front of strangers never mind my kids and other kids seeing me have one.
I feel so weak but I know opening up is actually a good thing, this is fairly new to me as iv been closed off for so long.