Scares I won’t be able to conceive again

[Oliver8people]

Hi,

I know lots of women have probably talked about this before- I’m sorry if I am repeating things. I have just had a miscarriage, I should have been nearly 11 weeks by now, but found out three weeks ago the baby’s heart stopped just after the 6 week early scan. The miscarriage took a while and I had to have two rounds of medical management, but I think it’s finally all over. It was our first pregnancy.

Anyway, I know the chances are in my favour etc, but I’m so worried I won’t be able to conceive again. Even though people keep telling me the chances and stories about their friends who did etc, I’m finding it so hard to believe. My mind just can’t seem to accept it.

Does anyone out there have any stories of successful pregnancies after miscarriage?

Thank you!

Yes I know of someone who actually had 3 and was successful on their 4th pregnancy. There was no known reason why she lost the first 3 and then managed to go full term on the next pregnancy, giving birth to a healthy child. Many people do have a successful pregnancy after just 1 loss and I really hope this is y to he case for you, you’ve got every chance. I cannot imagine how hard it has been for you. To even start again TTC after miscarriage is very brave shows strength of character. Baby will always be your first and no one can take that away from you x

Yes me! I had a miscarriage with my first and third PG. happy to say that I have 2 very healthy DC now.

My BFriend had a very similar experience to you. She discovered at the first scan that there was no heartbeat and ended up having to gave a medical termination. Again, she's now the happy DM of two.

I'd try not to think about TTC for now OP.

Plan a couple of things to look forward to with your DH and give yourself time to recover

I had a missed mc (2 failed medical managements so mc actually happened at 15 weeks) at the end of the April, took some time to let my body settle, pregnant again in the August and dd was born the following May.

I’ve just had another mc at 11+3, but we’re trying again straight away this time.

I had mc and have 2 children. But I took time to grieve which I think is really important. It was about three months before I was ready to try and it took just under a year after that. Sorry for your loss OP. Let your nosy and mind recover first. Good luck, hope you’ll get your rainbow baby too.

Yes, I had a mmc when I was 40 and thought it was all over for me. I conceived again 2 months later and our DD is 2.5.
I had a blighted ovum last year and again thought that was it, but I'm now 22 weeks pregnant aged 44.
Sorry for your loss. Be kind to yourself, give yourself time to grieve and all the very best for the future.

Also, me! Missed miscarriage for my first pregnancy at 12 weeks. We got pregnant again 3 months later, once I was ready again. We now have a beautifully healthy 1 year old DD. I'm currently pregnant again, in my first trimester, although still a little nervous about it until we get a scan to confirm.

Take each day as it comes, don't be hard on yourself. Have a moment when you need it, it's a hard thing to overcome emotionally. But don't give up hope just yet. Wishing you all the best