Scared need reassurance

[Claireabo123]

I was 8/9 months pregnant but started bleeding 3-4 days ago, a scan confirmed this morning that there was no heartbeat and the size of the foetus was 6+3. We are devastated. But I am also really scared of what is going to happen next, I haven't had any pain so far just light bleeding then moderate bleeding for the past 2+ days. I'm really worried that it's going to be really painful before everything comes away. The nurse at the hospital didn't advise anything at all just kinda said bye, come back in a week for a re-scan and that was it. I am petrified to go for a wee at the moment!

So sorry Claire :(
I hope someone else comes to comment too as I'm not the best at advice etc. but I couldn't read and run.
I was in your position about 3 months ago. The scan confirmed no heartbeat and baby measuring about 6+4 . However, baby needs to measure 7mm to confirm a miscarriage and so no management of the miscarriage could happen. Is this the case for you?
It's a terrible middle place to be in. I knew the baby had died, they knew the baby had died, but nothing could be done apart from tell me how to pay for the car park and to come back in 2 weeks.

I miscarried 6 days later at home. I had no idea what to expect because I'd been given no advice etc. and found great help here. There is a thread that I was directed to about what to expect practically. I will do my best to find it for you but hopefully someone else comes along who knows what I'm talking about here.

I guess everyone's experience will differ in some way. I did find my miscarriage painful but knowing this beforehand allowed me to deal with that better.

It angers me so much that we're not given any practical advice about what it will be like but knowledge is power and informed in best. So my advice to you would be to read around on here for real people's experiences - not to scare yourself or worry you for what could happen - but to be informed and feel more in control of what is going with your body.

I'm sorry you're in this awful place. Xxxxx

@Claireabo123 sorry you are going through this.
I am myselg going through it so will share my experience and hope it will help.
After the brown discharge there was a lot og bright red blood and period like cramps most of the time. In between i had very very strong cramps (contractions) that made me stop anything i was doing but i found breathing helped. They would come and go for about 10min and i would pass a bigger piece.
Apart from this is just plain bleeding - like a heavy period. Discomfort in the area like bloating. I also found the blood smelled stronger than period but maybe that’s just me.
I was 7 weeks so should be similar to you?

I am on day 4 since heavy bleeding and haven’t passed anything big today

Hope everything is ok for you, sending hugs

I’ve had a mmc and had tablets to try and induce the miscarriage, that was a very long process for me and I needed a bit of extra help.

I miscarried naturally yesterday at 11+3 and it wasn’t as bad pain wise as I imagined. It was like period pain, which I’ve still got a bit of today. I was at family’s and really should have gone home as the bleeding was extremely heavy. I realise this isn’t the case for everyone but the blood loss took me by surprise, so if you can, be at home.

Sorry you’re going through this, it’s hard

Hope you're doing okay Claire.
Here is the thread that helped me.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage/1344311-Tips-for-coping-with-the-practicalities-of-miscarriage