MMC at 7weeks, no support from partner

[Biomon2010]

I’m feeling confused and lost at the moment, on 12th Nov me and my partner had our first scan and was told no heartbeat was detected.

I had to have a rescan on 26th Nov if nothing happened. I hadn’t bled nor lost any pregnancy symptoms and so had to go for the rescan, but my partner didn’t want to be there with me... I had to go alone and was told that the baby had gone, pregnancy sac irregular in shape and that I needed to have it removed.

Today I’m having a D&C at the hospital and again have to do it all alone. He doesn’t even want to get me from hospital because it’s an inconvenience for him.

I feel like I have nothing helping me right now. I’m scared and suffer with complex PTSD and severe anxiety. I don’t understand why I’m having to do all of this alone and wondering if this is normal or if I’m overreacting?

It's not normal and you don't need an inconsiderate partner making things worse. I am very sorry for your loss. Do you have any family support?

I would also recommend talking to your partner about going your separate ways as he clearly doesn't care about you in the slightest.

Unfortunately no. I had to move away from my family due to personal safety because of an abusive ex who was threatening both myself and my son so have nothing. I’m currently at the hospital on my own waiting to see a consultant and think I’m having a panic attack because I’m so terrified.

I’ve had my D&C now. Anxiety has dropped thankfully and everything went well for me.

Have to stay in hospital until my partner comes by after getting my son from school so looking at getting collected at maybe 4:30-5:00 this afternoon.

I’m a little sore and feel a bit nauseous and dizzy but otherwise I think everything is ok.