three miscarriages in 7 months

[yellow18]

I just had my third miscarriage a couple of days ago. Me and my boyfriend started TTC 7 months ago and we could not belive our luck when we got pregnant in our first month. I miscarried at 6 weeks, it was one of the hardest things I have dealt with in my life. We started trying right away again. This time it took 3 months, I was over the moon when I got pregnant for the second time and I thought that I would never miscarry again, but then it happened I started bleeding I was only 4 weeks and 4 days. This time it was not as difficult as the first time. I got pregnant for the 3rd straight after my 2nd miscarriage. When I saw the positive pregnancy test, I was scared of being pregnant again and scared of losing this pregnancy as well. but I thought that there are so few people that have 3 miscarriages in a row and that will never happen to me. When I started bleeding I was devastated I thought why was this happening to me what did I do wrong to deserve this. I know I did not do anything wrong but still, these thoughts came to mind and now I just wanted to hear some positive stories, I have a hard time believing that I will ever be able to carry my own baby, but I want nothing more. I don't know if I can go through this process again. My feeling s now range from so much anger to disbelief, anxiety and depressive thoughts. If anyone out there has had a successful pregnancy after recurrent miscarriage it would be good to hear those stories. And if you did something different when it was successful, did you take any medication?

I'm sorry for your losses @yellow18 ❤️ have you been referred for tests?

I've had 2 missed miscarriages this year (April and September) but I took over 16 cycles to conceive and am 36 now so we've been referred by our fertility consultant. I've had an initial appointment and some blood tests and waiting for those results now.

I've jusr started therapy to help me with my grief. I've had counselling after my first but it wasn't that helpful.

I wish I knew that everything would be OK, plenty of people do go on to have uncomplicated pregnancies following pregnancy loss, I really hope we both have our babies soon xx

Realise this is an old post but how are you both getting on? I need some positive stories! I am in a similar situation and it’s so shit xxx

I'm sorry you're going through similar @LAURAPAX I don't have a positive update unfortunately. I've had 6 losses in total now. We know I have immune issues (I'm under Dr Shehata privately) but I lost a healthy baby on a full complex immune plan last November. We tested my 4th baby in 2020 and he was healthy too. I did ivf for my last 2 pregnancies. I can't get pregnant naturally now either.

I hope you can get some answers and any treatment works for you xx

Hi @VenusStarr im so sorry to hear this - it is really hard and what you have been through is awful. Sending hugs. It is good that you are under Dr Shehata care though - hope you don’t mind me asking how did you discover the immune issues? Are you unable to conceive naturally due to the IVF? I am due to have my ERPC in a few days. My first MC was early and natural but I am very nervous about the procedure and all that goes with it. Xxxx

Thank you @LAURAPAX I've been under Dr Shehata since my 4th loss in 2020. We tested that baby and he was healthy, so we saw Dr S privately as I'd already had standard nhs testing with Tommy's that showed nothing wrong. I'd had 3 missed miscarriages and 1 chemical. My MMCs always stop growing in week 6 but I miscarry later. I had a lot of blood taken with him, he puts your blood in a pregnancy state and that is my issue. But once I was diagnosed and started immune treatment (I've got overactive nk cells) we didn't conceive. We were able to get 1 funded nhs ivf round, so did that after 6 months ttc on an immune protocol. My first transfer was a chemical and my second was a MMC. First heartbeat we've seen but still stopped growing in week 6.

I had surgery for my 6th loss (my others were natural, one I did medical management). Are you having general anesthetic?

I've had a hysteroscopy and looked at inflammation and infections but everything is clear.

We've pretty much stopped trying now, 5 years ttc, a lot of money spent and just more losses has all taken its toll. We think we might try one more round of ivf in the summer, but I'm kind of feeling ready to stop now. Its too painful.

Sending love ❤️ It's such an awful thing to go through xxx