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Life after ectopic surgery

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ytee · 17/11/2019 11:46

I'm 3 months post op. I feel like I'm in a sort of limbo.. I'm physically recovered and mentally ok but don't know if I could or should try again or whether I want to. I'm under pressure to decide because I'm at the end of my fertility

When did it get easier?

If I don't try again I'm worried I'll regret it

If I do I'm worried I'll have another loss

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Lavendersblue42 · 23/11/2019 05:18

I started trying again too soon after mine and then massively freaked out about it happening again! So then we had a few months of just seeing how things went without me counting days/ovulation testing. Ultimately, I wanted kids (ectopic was my first pregnancy) but it was definitely mentally difficult overcoming the fear of a repeat. I am now pregnant again but struggled initially to be that 'over-the-moon' happy about it until early scan confirming it was uterine - just didn't want to get my hopes up. Now 28 weeks pg and all going well.

Don't push yourself into trying again if you feel it's too soon, take it each cycle at a time.

Wish you well

ytee · 23/11/2019 08:59

Good advice thanks

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