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Going through miscarriage no. 3 this year

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Tazema · 14/11/2019 08:31

Hi

Right now I'm going through my third miscarriage this year I'm 27
I've never had a child. My husband and I started trying in March. It seems I can get pregnant easily but keeping the baby past week 5 my body just can't do it.

It's the same symptoms again, cramps, brown spotting which slowly becomes more over a week and then a day of terrible cramps and bleeding. Each time I suddenly just feel no longer pregnant right before the spotting, I can't explain the feeling. My breasts still are really sore which is a horrid reminder of the fact I had a baby and no longer do and they take about a week to stop being painful.

I'm so worried I can't be a mum. We are looking at adoption as we always agreed we would, my husband is adopted and we want to support and love a child already living in this world. However, I would like, even just one child that grows in me and is a part of me and him. I feel like I'm not a woman if I can't carry a child and people keep saying that's a silly thing to say which makes no difference to how I feel, but I just don't feel like a woman anymore.

Right now I guess I could really do with hearing some positive stories about the difficulty of pregnancy, it's breaking my heart and making me terribly bitter to those who have kids which is completely not their fault and I hate that I'm jealous it's not who I am.

Has anyone else gone or going through this too? Xx

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Littlegoth · 14/11/2019 08:36

I have and I know exactly how you feel. It’s awful and I really feel for you. I’m under the recurrent miscarriage clinic now and my initial blood tests were positive for APS. This needs to be confirmed with a second blood test. Im hoping it is confirmed so I at least have a possible reason, and possible solution. If you are in the UK chase your referral to your local recurrent miscarriage clinic - just knowing they are there has been a big help to me mentally.

MissSparkles81 · 14/11/2019 12:49

Im so sorry that your going through this hun. Sending you the biggest hug xx

getthroughthisgrr · 14/11/2019 13:06

If it happens then you should ask for investigation. I've heard aspirin daily can be a simple fix for some. It's super hard, but it just means that baby wasn't right. Thanks

Mother Nature can be so cruel. I would give yourself a break to recover a bit more. Get your vitamin and iron levels back up. I know the advice is you can try straight away but I think a bit of self care for a few months really helps.

Talkwhilstyouwalk · 14/11/2019 14:25

I'm so sorry to read this. I've had 6 miscarriages and 2 healthy baby girls. 3 miscarriages before each baby. I'd go to the GP and ask for some investigations, they may not find anything but either way the odds are still very much in your favour even after 3 miscarriages. Wishing you all the best!

Tazema · 16/11/2019 13:51

Thanks everyone for the nice comments it's is really nice to hear some good out of the bad xx
I've got a ultrasound to investigate the problem start of December and I'm sure bloods will be taken too. The Dr said I had to get bloods taken on a certain day of my period. Has anyone heard of that before? I feel in shock right now, it's odd you never think it will be you who will have the problem.

Thanks again everyone xx

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