Angry about miscarriage

[Hey1256]

I had a miscarriage Thursday at almost 10 weeks.

Is it weird to not feel sad (well, maybe a little) but just angry. Angry that I wasted so many weeks feeling sick, sore boobs, tired, watching my diet, no spin classes, no alcohol all for NOTHING.

Anyone else feel the same or does this make me a cold person?

I just feel angry, time wasted. Cheated.

I wish I'd miscarried week 5/6.

Maybe this is a taste of what is to become the rollercoaster ride or parenthood. It's a little off putting to be honest.

Total bullshit.

Im currently having a 10 week miscarriage and i feel the same! 10 weeks wasted for nothing and no chance for me to try again. Its utter shit all of it.

Sorry you're going through this OP
It is a totally and utterly shit time to be going through. I can totally understand the waste of time feeling.

I had a MMC at 10 weeks and had a d&c. And then I was told to wait a couple of cycles blah blah when all I wanted was to start trying again and be pregnant again.

Have hope OP, your time will come xxx

@GeePipe sorry for your loss x

@pottypotamus thank you. I'm having d and c Tuesday. It's honestly utter shite. It's making me realise how much goes into parenthood and making me feel twice about the whole thing

Thanks op. Hope you are ok in yourself. I also have a uti and am sick and have a headache alongside my anger my hysterical crying and feeling like i want to die. I still have to wait until monday to go to epu to see what happens next. I feel so fucking abandoned and lonely. I saw my midwife 4 fucking days ago to book in. I didnt even have blood taken. Im just sad and angry and hopeless and alone.

@GeePipe I hope it gets better for you. Sending you hugs ((( ))). Totally shit, seriously I'm just so fed up woth my life at the moment it was the one thing bringing me hope this baby and now it's gone.

I felt the same. It's beyond frustrating isn't it?

My first attempt at TTC went on for 7 months between trying to conceive, being pregnant for 8 weeks and then a further 5 weeks after until I finally got my post MC period. It took over my whole life for that whole length of time, and like you say - all for nothing. It's devastating and so frustrating. You're entitled to feel exactly how you feel.

I hope the D&C goes ok for you, and that next time works out for you

@neverornow thank you so much. It really helps when others share their experiences as until now I felt very alone. I guess on a positive note I have to think there will hopefully be a next time I just have to be patient

@Hey1256 that's it, a bit of patience and positive vibes. But you're entitled to be as angry and upset for as long as you need. It's an absolutely horrible thing to go through.

Mine was 2+ years ago. When my anger finally subsided I just went with what my lovely doctor had said - "it just means the odds are more in your favor for next time" so I just went with that, took 2 months off from TTC to let my body reboot itself and really tried to stay positive....13 months later I had my DS.

Be kind to yourself....now is one of those times when you can blow some money on something nice for yourself (if you have it) or do what I did - drank a load of vino and had a good long cry!

It’s totally totally shit.
I had a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks and it took a further 2 weeks for the process to finish.
14 weeks for nothing.

You’re allowed to be angry

I'm the same. I've not cried or felt emotion I've just felt anger and frustration and the same question why me?! Thinking like this will just make you more angry. It's an absolute shit situation but don't let it put you off. Keep busy, plan some fun stuff to take your mind of things and don't give up. Sending you positive vibes xxxx