Am I having a miscarriage?

[allthesharks]

According to my dates I should be 7 weeks today. I had cramping from Tuesday this week. At 6+4 I was scanned and they said I was less than 6 weeks as they couldn't see an embryo or heartbeat but there was a gestational sac and a yolk sac. I found out very early, when I was 8dpo, so I know that I can't be less than 6 weeks. I have to go back 2 weeks after the scan for them to scan again. Yesterday I had a tiny bit of spotting when I wiped and I have just been to the toilet and when I wiped there was a lot of ewcm with a red/brown small blob in the middle (sorry for tmi). If I am having a miscarriage, it will of course be awful, but the not knowing is worse at the moment. At least if it is worst case scenario then I can start to process it.

Has anyone experienced similar? I just want to know.

I could have written your exact post this weekend. I went for an early scan on Friday when I should have been 7 weeks. Like you they said my dates were off and could only see a sac not embryo or heartbeat. Whilst my dates maybe slightly off they aren’t over 2 weeks off so I don’t have much hope at this point. I have to go for a rescan in 2 weeks but I think this is going to be the longest 2 weeks of my life now. I have been suffering with cramps for weeks so I knew deep down something wasn’t right. I can’t give you any advice as I’m in the same position but just wanted to say good luck and I hope everything works out for you x

Thank you for your message. I hope things with out for you too. How come you had an early scan? Was it due to the cramps? Or have you had complications previously?

I've had no further bleeding but the cramps have been quite bad. I just want to know what's going on and if I am going to miscarry, is just rather it happened now.

I had a UTI a few weeks ago but the pain had become quite localised on my right side so they just wanted to check it wasn’t ectopic. Whilst I got reassurance that it wasn’t ectopic it has thrown up a much bigger issue. I also have loss of symptoms which has been upsetting. Would give anything to feel sick again! I feel the same, I’m a very impatient person and the thought of waiting a whole 2 weeks to find out is horrible, it’s such an emotional rollercoaster.

Sorry to hear this. i did not have the excact experience but I also went for an early scan and she said it look too small for my weeks, thia was last tuesday. Thursday i saw a extremely small amount of very very light pink when i wiped, friday evening there was again a very little amount of brown discharge, then nothing, but saturday at 11 am it was darker red, and then it just got worst throughut saturday, but only when i wiped, but it got more red (watery), and the amount increased, on my way home around 7pm, just as i got out of the car, i felt like a large “something” was on its way out, i almost didnt make it to the toilet, but i did and I managed to fish it (The “clump” out, it looked as everything came out in one, lokked dark red, skin-like and grey And like sac was attached, and after that the blood started to subside again, it was never running blood except just when the “clump” came out and today sunday it has been watery red lighter and lighter, just like the end of a period. I never felt any pain, sting or anything, some very light cramping, but much much less than my normal period cramping. But since the clump came out, i assume i had a miscarriage and that it all came out at once, everything took less than 24 hours and now it is just watery red blood/discharge when i wipe, so I never even filled pad? Sorry I dont have anything that helped, and I am really sorry this is happening to you. I hope yours wasnt the same.

I even have to get abroud for work this morning, so i cant go to the doctor and chech until thursday, and i just feel heartbroken.

I'm so sorry @bbh1978. How many weeks were you?

How are you @MrsB16?

I had a little more spotting again today. Although less cramps. I'm seeing the midwife on Wednesday for my booking appointment so I will mention it all to her then and see if she thinks a private scan would be worthwhile, or if it would be best to wait for the rescan at EPU.

@allthesharks I hope yours is ok, and I had the same feeling, if I was going to miscarriage i would rather that it was now than later in the pregnancy, i really hope your scan will be ok, though, my doctor told me only bleeding was not for sure a miscarriage...

I was about 7 weeks, but I am not sure, i have cramps still, but only very very light blood now, but I am pretty sure the "blob" that came out saturday was both the sach and everything, unfortunatly, i did have hope until that came out, and after, I did not even feel pregnant anymore, it was like I felt that it "fell out", so I really hope it is not the same for you.

I am trying to tell myself that it was my body that is working right and something was wrong and thats why it stopped growing.

There is one thing i have been thinking about, I went to the doctor 3 months ago, and he said I had to take a large dose of Vitamin D every day, and i am thinking about if that could have been one reason why I suddenly am pregnant after trying for 15 years, i hope that is partly the reason, than maybe it could happen again 🤞🏻 I am hoping for that.

Takr care of your self and let us now how the scan goes.

I feel even more lost and confused today. I had some bleeding last night. Still only when I wiped, and not a huge amount, but more than it had been previously - the previous time's had been a small pink or red speck with ewcm. It seems to have eased again this morning, and I had bleeding in my previous two pregnancies (light like this in my second pregnancy, and two huge bleeds in my first - both turned out ok although both DDs were born very premature). So, on the one hand, I know that bleeding necessarily doesn't mean the worst, but with not seeing a heartbeat on the ultrasound last week I'm not hopeful. Although occasionally I convince myself there is still hope, which is then worse when I get more bleeding like last night.

I don't know if I should phone EPU. I can't remember if they said to go back via A&E if I start bleeding, or if they said to go back if I start bleeding heavily. I'm also due to see the midwife tomorrow and I don't know if there's much point. I suppose I'll still go and tell her that I think I might have miscarried and then see what she thinks.

It's horrible being in limbo.

I know the feeling, its horrible, and I really wish you the best and I hope it will be ok for you tomorrow,´..

I'm about 8w and I'm in a similar position at the moment, I went to the GP yesterday as was spotting/bleeding quite red blood, slight cramps and felt like I'd had loss of symptoms. (Havent been referred for a MW yet.)

The GP said he suspects I've likely had a miscarriage and I have an internal scan booked for tomorrow, so hoping I'll get some answers as I can't stand the worrying.

Sending all of you ladies my thoughts

I’m ok @allthesharks. In work trying to act normally when actually I feel like everything is falling apart. I go from teary to a mad rage in seconds. It’s only been 4 days but it’s feeling like a lifetime, especially knowing it’s another 10 days until I get a definitive answer. Hope everything goes well with your appointment and I wish all the ladies on this thread all the luck in the world.

The bleeding eased today but I wore a pad just in case and when I went to the toilet a couple of hours ago there was a lot of brown sticky blood/discharge. At the time I thought "that's it" and yet now I'm starting to convince myself to still have hope. I keep doing this and then something else happens to shatter it all again.

I'll see the midwife again tomorrow. I don't know if she will send me round to EPU to rescan to confirm if it's a miscarriage or keep me waiting until next Thursday when the next scan is booked for. How are you supposed to know definitively if you've had a miscarriage? The whole time I don't "know" is giving me more hope that just serves to make it worse.

@allthesharks I am sorry to hear what you are going through and it is a horrible feeling, I I also did keep my hopes up until there was no doubt - and i dont want to give you any false hope, but for me there was no doubt when "it" came out, it was a large "blob" of everything, could send a picture, but that would be a bit to much, I hope yours is ok, and that you will get a scan tomorrow...

I really felt how "empty" my stomach became after it went out. So I am crossing my fingers that yours is NOT a miscarriage. Take care.

Yesterday evening I had a big bleed. I soaked through two pads in an hour. I went to A&E and they said they wouldn't be able to scan in the evening as EPU wasn't open. The bleeding got worse, there were big clots and I was leaking through my clothes and I just wanted to go home. My obs were fine and the A&E sister was lovely and said I could go home and come back this morning. I had a bath when I got home. The water was red and full of clots. When I rinsed under the shower before getting out I noticed a clot that looked different. It was the gestational sac. I'm at A&E now. The pain and the bleeding have eased. I'm just waiting to be scanned to confirm it's all passed.

I'm so sorry OP that doesn't sound good. When I had mine I remember the pain eased instantly after I'd passed the sac. There won't be much they can do but look after yourself. It's a horrible shock.

I’m terribly sorry @allthesharks. Thinking of you at this time x

Thank you.

They confirmed that it's a complete miscarriage. There are still some clots to pass but they think that should happen naturally.

In a weird way I feel relieved to know. I cried a little last night but I'm not sure if it's really hit me yet.

EPU were absolutely lovely which helps.

So sorry to read this OP.

I had a miscarriage on Thursday ( medically managed ) and it's so scary. The amount of blood, clots and seeing the sac is something I won't ever forget. I'm not sure I've processed it yet.

Make sure to rest, take it easy and just take care of yourself. Sorry for your loss

I have woken up to bleeding this morning, its fresh blood and I can't think anything but the worst. We have wanted this for such a long time and it's taken us so long to get here. I am so so gutted.

I’m 8 weeks and 3 days. Currently in New York as my husband ran the marathon yesterday and I’ve just started my miscarriage. I’m absolutely beside myself and don’t know what to do. Not coming home until tomorrow and currently stuck in the hotel room as I’m petrified of passing the sac in a random toilet. I truly hate myself at this moment in time. This was my first pregnancy and my first and very much wanted baby. I’m not sure I will ever get over this or forgive myself from coming on this stupid trip.

I'm so sorry @MrsB16, that's awful for you 💐

I'm so sorry @MrsB16. It's a truly awful experience. I have no words that can make it better but I am thinking of you.

@MrsB16 I am so sorry to hear that 😕

After the most horrendous afternoon and experience in JFK airport where I had to sit in the toilet for the 3 hours before the flight passing huge clots with my husband waiting outside. I made it home this morning. I went to the EPU and I had the most upsetting experience. The doctor congratulated me for having a complete miscarriage and that I had done all the work myself! She also said at 28 I was far to young to be worrying myself with miscarriage and I should just go and get on with my life and come back for another baby in a few years. Came out of the appointment in tears feeling like the whole thing had be trivialised and that my baby didn’t matter at all and better luck next time.

That's awful @MrsB16. I'm so sorry that doctor was so insensitive. Miscarriage is a bereavement and it's so upsetting. How dare someone try to trivialise it.

My partner's manager said to him "it was only a chemical pregnancy", because the scan the previous week had shown no embryo. To us it was a baby. It was our baby and we don't have it anymore. It wasn't "just" anything.

I hope you're ok. Try to get some rest.

hi sorry to hear that .went thru same last night,we expected our 4th baba and we wanted it so bad. i started to bleed yesterday afternoon,had some cramps and been sent home from A&E over night i passed some clots n the big one i had looked like a sack n embryo so when i gone for scan this morning i knew what to expect.still it was a shock when doc told me the baby is gone. i am trying to act ok but it is not ok....i hope you all lovely ladies feel better soon