Miscarriage at 8 weeks, I am already 41, is there hope?

[babsyB1978]

Hi everyone, just sitting here crying and feeling empty, I lost the baby last night, and havent stopped crying.

I really feel this was my last chance. I have for 15 years thought that I couldnt get pregnant, but suddenly out of nowhere it happened at 41??? We where both scocked and of course happy...

But it ended just as sudden, and now I am sitting here with such a empty and hopeless feeli!ng, its actuallt weird, because I had already given up, but its like this pregnancy woke up everything in me, and I really really wanted a baby, we both did...

And so I am sitting here wondering if there are others out there in there 40´s who miscarried but got pregnant again soon after? Should i even dare hope for it?

Everything was natural, no help getting pregnant and I have 15 year old son, and everything went well with that pregnancy!!

But I am scared and cant shake the hopelessness feeling... i am crying, feeling numb and hoping, all at once.

An at the same time the baby i lost is in the frigde??? I know its weird but i couldt n´get myself to just flush it down the drain, thought about just laying it in my garden next my favorite tree 😢

hi, I'm so sorry for your lost.
I lost my first pregnancy in August. I'm 33 but I just wanted to let you know that if you want your local Early Pregnancy Unit can handle the baby for you. My friend had a cremation and signed a remembrance book.

Thanks for letting me now, but this morning I put in a box and buryed it in the garden with a new tree, and put a rock with a heart and a date next to it, so even if iy was only for two months it still was alive and a part of me or us, so I am glad i did it that way, it helped a littl bit, actually, felt more like a closure.

And i have almost no pain and only bleed for max 1,5 days, so I hope this is it, and that there will not be any complications when my doctor checks me later in the week.

That sounds lovely.
I was 10 weeks when I lost mine, so I understand what you mean.

I am sorry for your loss too. And I am really thankful for this page, and being able to talk to others i in the same situation, so thank you so much for the replies.

I just had surgery to remove an ectopic and I'm 42. I know how you feel when you think it's your last chance. Sorry for your loss. Do you think you will try again? I'm not sure 🤔

@hmmm123 yes i will definetly try again, but not like IVF or anything, just at home and if it happens it happens, if not, we will enjoy beeing a family of 3... but yes I really truly hope it will work again soon.