Feeling so low

[Bailey93]

I had a miscarriage about 10 weeks ago, and have had 2 periods since which have both been horrendous. I have been feeling so low, I would say I feel ok about the loss now, but I just get these waves of sadness and depression just out of the blue. I was told by the midwife what to expect with the loss, but not afterwards. Are your hormones normally all over the place this long after a miscarriage?
I hope that makes sense. And I'm not sure what I want to gain from this post apart from if anyone has felt the same?

Hey @Bailey93!

I think how you feel is absolutely normal and validated - it's a sad and long process, after an emotional and hopeful time thinking of a future that's now not happening, but hopefully just delayed!

I've had one miscarriage, number two is about to happen these coming days. I feel like shit but I can accept that and I know I'll feel sad for weeks and months to come!

Just allow sad moments and then try to shift focus on little positives and moments of happiness.

It's tough and I'm glad we've all got each other on here x

@LASandOtto thank you so much. It's so nice to speak to someone who can relate.

I am so sorry, sending you a virtual hug xx

Big virtual hug to you too

Hopefully you and I will be on a thread talking about happier things in the near future! Xxx

Hi @Bailey93

I also had a miscarriage 6 weeks ago, had my first period last week but I just wanted to let you know I feel exactly the same, I have good and bad days but hopefully we will get our babies soon🌈

I just wanted to let you no that I can totally relate to how you feel ❤️

I had my first miscarriage March and my second miscarriage July.

I have my good weeks and I have my bad weeks. This week is a very bad week again. Might not help that AF is due. I'm struggling to heal after my second miscarriage. And I find people who haven't experienced it don't understand.

It's a very long process and everyone is different. Take your time to heal. 💐

I'm right here with you all. I miscarried my first pregnancy just under 6 weeks ago. I'm yet to have a period, its terrifying my something more is going to be wrong and this isn't over. It will never be over anyway.

Back in work this week and a close colleague has announced her pregnancy. Our manager told me privately as the colleague was worried about me. I'm so pleased for her but I couldn't help but cry. Cry that my pregnancy is over, that she felt worried for me and that was probably ruining her announcement, that I've not got to watch for the next 5 months as she (hopefully) gets bigger. So many emotions I can't even begin to express.

I work in psychology and my other friend said to me today that I'm looking for order in what is chaos, and it can't be anything but chaos, I have to just ride this out. As a mental health professional, i feel like karma has massively come to bite me on the ass, as riding this out is awful. And horribly, i'm usually better when I've had a little bit of wine. Thats not me; don't get me wrong, I like a drink but I don't rely on it for a pick me up. I'm not drinking daily btw, but my point is, i'm never truly feeling ok as thats just fake and under the influence.

I long to here a happy story. Someone optimistically still childfree, someone contently stopped trying, someone who tried and all was well. Instead i'm hearing a lot of multiple miscarriage and despair.

This is heartbreaking and I'm so sorry for us all xxx

I had a missed miscarriage and D&C six weeks ago. I've honestly coped fine with the emotional side of things and view it as just one of those things, and the physical side was mercifully very easy.

But I've still had a few days where I've felt like I had PMS to the max, that familiar irrational rage, burn it all down feeling. I've also been more tired than normal at times. I've put it all down to hormones, I don't know if that's right, but I've definitely felt at times that there was more going on than just my own feelings.

If that makes any sense.

@MindyStClaire - it makes perfect sense. It is like a deep rage that just comes up. It reminds me of PMS but I'm yet to show any signs of my period. I hope its coming now I need some relief. My rage has tended to hit me during driving which is obviously not ideal!!

I have somehow only seen all these posts. I got logged out of mn so wasn't getting notifications. It's so reassuring to hear you are all going through the same thing.
As soon as you miscarry everyone is suddenly having babies and they are everywhere!
I found out a few days ago that my sister is pregnant with her third child. She told me at 20 weeks as she was so terrified to tell me with what I have been going through. It's bittersweet as I am so happy for her but so gutted for my loss and I'm heartbroken we couldn't go through our pregnancies together!

I really hope we all get happy news soon
🌈

It really is so hard as you feel so lonely, but I'm so glad we are able to support each other xx