What did you choose for the remains?

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Hi
I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks this week, baby stopped growing a week or so before. I’d bled an awful lot but they removed the sac/foetus. I chose for the hospital to sensitively dispose of the remains. But am now questioning whether that was the right choice?
I’ve no idea what I’d do with them. Burying in the garden would mean never being able to move house. I guess I feel I’ve just let my baby go. What did others do? How did you feel about the decision after? I hope some people don’t mind me asking such a sensitive question x

I miscarried at home and burying the sac in a pot and planted tulip bulbs. I feel a bit...very...weird about it. It seems a really weird thing to do. Part of me think I should have just flushed. There's no right or wrong. I think whatever you do with it isn't really going to feel right because it's not something that was meant to happen in the first place. Sending lots of love. xxxxx

I wrapped mine up (8weeks) and laid it on the open fire in the lounge at a friend's house...
Said a few words.
No regrets.

Thank you both for responding. @Zoey36 I think I’m probably similar in that any of the options just feels wrong. I’m not even sure they have it at the hospital. I lost so much blood/clots/‘stuff’ that I may have passed it before I got to the hospital. So I probably just need to make my peace with not knowing.
@Windydaysuponus that sounds beautiful. I’m glad you feel you made the right choice. x

I had two live ectopic babies which had to be removed surgically - we opted for the hospital to arrange a funeral/memorial each time and it was lovely - every few weeks all the babies lost at The hospital during that time are cremated together and ashes spread on their baby loss garden - it was a full on service though - with hearse and coffin and priest but the hospital sent bereavement midwives down and it was nice to feel like they were important not just to us x

I lost a baby in my 2nd trimester at about 25 weeks along & our wee boy would be turning 30 yrs old this Christmas. He was cremated & we placed his ashes under a tree in our garden.
But we have moved house several times since then. No options for us to stay.

However for me he is in my heart & always will be - & that particular tree is always (baby) J's tree when we talk about that garden, but hes with me still.

But your baby & your loss to cope with, so do whatever is right for you & your family. Hugs.