2nd missed miscarrage

[Bbgncn]

Hi everyone, I’m normally to shy to post things but am currently going through my second missed miscarriage and was wondering if anyone has gone through the same experience?! I don’t know anyone that this has happened to so have no one to talk to about it. My partner and family has been amazing but I feel that I can not continue to put them down by talking about the way I’m feeling,

I'm so sorry for your losses.

I didn't want to read and run - I very recently experienced a mmc which was devastating for me, I can't imagine going through that again

I really hope you reach out to the support around you xxx

Hi I’m currently going through my second consecutive mmc. My first was in May.

I ended up requiring medical management on Thursday that ended up with being in hospital overnight as I lost a lot of blood. I think I’m hoping I’m in the worst dip emotionally right now. My sister and husband are wonderful but I do feel incredibly alone. I’ve been told I’ve been incredibly calm but seem to have just lost myself since yesterday. It’s not been helped when well meaning parents and in-laws who didn’t know I was pregnant / miscarriages going on and on about how desperate they want me to be pregnant. My best friend also gave birth last week to a beautiful baby boy.

Sorry I just vented a lot there. I’m taking each hour right now as it comes.

I also didn't want to read and run. Just wanted to say I know how isolating and sad it feels, and it's good to allow for the sadness and grief to have space. We can support each other on here as we can relate to the experience. I'm going to see my GP this afternoon about my mental health and think it's a positive step. Feel glad I'm going! Sending love to all of your strong ladies!

I'm sorry for your losses @Bbgncn ❤️ I had my second mmc in September, my first was in April. Its just completely devastating. How are you today?

I feel let down by friends and family this time, almost like they're bored of me being down and not getting over losing my babies. I'm actually quite angry but trying to acknowledge that this is part of my grief.

We are unable to ttc until the new year, due to my health (waiting for an operation in December) so I'm using this time to try and look after myself, so exercise and eating well. Socialising is very much on the back burner for me.

Well done for seeing the GP, how did you get on? @LASandOtto, sorry you've also experienced loss

I'm sorry you've had such a difficult time @Bathwater ❤️ it sounds very scary. Taking each hour as it comes sounds like the best thing.

Sending love to all xx

Thanks @VenusStarr!! Well, in typical me fashion I hastily dashed out of work to make this GP appointment, got all stressed as the tube wasn't moving (live in London) and my lovely fiancé was nice to ring ahead to say I'm running late... only for them to say, yes her appointment is not until tomorrow! Facepalm right there! Hahaha! So, I'll update you tomorrow on that front!

Im really sorry about your loss too. I find the only people who understand the whole spectrum of emotion is others who've sadly been in the same boat. My MC this year was two weeks before my dad passed away from cancer. I felt like I didn't even get to come to terms with it all and then my dad passed away suddenly and it was just indescribably hard. But instead of really allowing myself to get to grips with all of that I felt compelled to have to 'be back to normal self' for the sake of others and I know that's not right. The TTC journey is not an easy one and each story is unique, and personal, and deserves to be listened to.

Sending you all a big hug! Seeing as I've now got loads of extra time this evening, gonna throw the comfies on x

Oh bless you @LASandOtto but at least you weren't late / missed your appointment. Second time lucky tomorrow 😊

I am so sorry to hear about your dad too, you've had a difficult time. Hope you have a nice evening x

I had 3 mmc over a few years, struggling to conceive in between each one. I don't think people can understand unless they have been through it, and even more so when it's multiple times.
Don't give up hope x

Thankyou so much for sharing your stories, it has really helped me to know I shouldn’t give up! I’m so sorry to hear of how u have suffered too! What a bunch of strong women we are.. hopefully we will get through this!!! Xxx

@Bbgncn sending love 💕 my MMC was confirmed on Monday, had D&C on Tuesday. This week has been so hard, you are not alone! Our time will come xx

@Bbgncn I'm with you. I've had my 1st missed miscarriage in March and my second was identified yesterday during a private scan. There was heartbeat at 6 weeks and now there is none at 10 weeks. Heading to the hospital on Monday and hope they will be able to deal with it quickly. Going through 2 miscarriages in a row (and I've never had any successful pregnancies) have been really hard. And all this waiting just makes things worse

Hi Ladies,

Joining you on here sadly as second MC confirmed for me today!

Long story for me on this one, spotting since week 7, today I'd be 10.5. Had scan at 7 and 9 weeks with good HB seen and no explanation for spotting and bleeding. Got worse last few days so went in today and sadly no HB seen. Managed to keep it together until I got home and then had a meltdown, my fiancé as well....

Have to go Monday to confirm choice of management, opting to go for the Medical route this time despite all the awful stories I've read. Just don't want another ERPC as I know there's risk associated with having a number of these.

Is any of you ladies considering any private tests before TTC again? I was wondering about this as don't think I could hack another third MC experience before getting referred for NHS tests.

Anyway, I best focus on what's ahead first now!

Wishing you all continued strength and hope we all have happier outcomes to come! X

@LASandOtto @annabanana2019 so sorry to read both of your stories. Sending love and prayers x

@LASandOtto, really sorry to hear your story. I'm definitely considering doing the tests already now. I'm in London. Do you know any good clinics there? Is there maybe a thread on mumsnet (sorry, I'm new) that discusses what tests should be done?x

I am so sorry that you are going through this. I had three consecutive MMCs. Until I had my first one, I didn't know much about MCs - and had never heard of MMCs. As I had three, My partner and I were tested to see if there were any genetic causes - and I was tested for other medical conditions. All of the tests came back negative.

Fortunately, my family and friends were very supportive - but it is difficult to convey the enormous grief that you experience if it has or happened to them. By the time I had my second MMC, I was aware of the symptoms and well remember trying to tell the midwife at the hospital where I went for the booking-in visit that it had happened again. She wouldn't believe me and insisted on trying to give me a Bounty Book and told me to be positive!

Two things really helped me. I bought a book by Professor Lesley Reagan entitled 'Miscarriage'. This is full of helpful information and I read it countless times. Secondly, I joined the Miscarriage Association and always looked for the positive stories in their newsletter - and indeed any other publications.

Just to add that although once I had been tested, the hospital told me that there was no reason why I wouldn't go on to have a normal pregnancy. I found this hard to believe - but just to give you and anyone going through this hope - I did give birth to a healthy baby girl about two years later.

Thinking of you and everyone else going through this.

Thank you, @Reasontobelieve. I've started reading the book - hopefully will find some answers there. Just had my MVA yesterday and was almost surprised at the feeling of relief I've had afterwards.

Hi, I'm currently going through my 2nd MC, I had a MMC in feb, had a scan at 9+4 but baby only measured 5+6, had to have an operation. Found out at end of Sept that I was pregnant again, had all the symptoms but wanted the reassurance of the early scan so I went privately on Thursday evening, at 7 weeks. The sac was visable but no baby inside. They said it was known as a Pregnancy Unknown Location (PUL), I went to the EPU yesterday, my HCG and progesterone are still high and I need to go back next week for a rescan and sort out next steps (there's definitely not a baby in there). I'm 41 next Saturday, these were my first two pregnancies and I'm scared it's never going to happen for me. I'm also very upset with my midwife, I text her on thurs evening after my scan to explain what had happened, I followed up with a call yesterday morning to ask for advice and explain how worried I was, she never acknowledged it and never replied. Sorry to go on I just wanted to share with other people who will understand. My heart goes out to everyone else out there going through this difficult time :-(

Just going through my second mmc now

First was in May at 9 weeks
I got pregnant again in August and got all the way to the 12 week scan to be told no heartbeat , pregnancy not made it past 6 weeks / I had lots of symptoms so now I feel like I can’t trust my body at all

One mc was bad enough but two ? Can lightning strike twice or is there something wrong with me? Is all I can think about at the moment

I had my son with no issues but that was 6 years ago with a different partner

Sorry for your loss x

Really sorry to hear about your losses, @AB321 and @Finleysmom84. I've done the tests and now am waiting for the results - I'm not sure how to go into the third pregnancy to be honest...