Currently at hospital to confirm miscarriage and heartbroken

[loveyourself87]

Hi ladies,

I'm sat in hospital waiting for blood tests to confirm miscarriage. I am/was 7 weeks pregnant and woke up at 5am this morning with pink blood just like a period and lower back pain. Got to hospital and as I was doing a urine test, I wiped and there lots of brown blood with clots. Urine test is positive still due to hormones still being there but sore boobs have almost disappeared in the few hours I have been here and I'm noticing my nausea has gone! I feel like I've let myself down and my boyfriend down! He was so looking forward to this baby and just last night he was telling me he wanted to get a new job etc and discussing where baby will sleep etc! I've been worried throughout and thinking how we will raise this baby etc. Maybe this was meant to happen to open up my eyes to some changes that I need to make career wise but can't shake the feeling that I've done something wrong, was it me carrying a heavy backpack the other day? Sleeping in a wrong position? The cigarettes I smoked? God knows but I'm sad and I feel I have let people down.

Have you had your results back yet?

I'm sorry you're going through this but honestly it's nothing you've done to cause this (if it is a miscarriage) . These things unfortunately just happen and its hard to go through. Your emotions will be really raw right now so try your best to be gentle on yourself.

I'm heartbroken for you to read your story. It is nothing you have done, don't blame yourself. I went through the same last year and the hospital session was very raw emotionally. Hang on in there, you will be ok. I am very very very sorry for you and sending you love x

So sorry to hear about your situation OP. Miscarriages are a very difficult experience and everyone reacts differently so give yourself lots of time to recover.

I work in a medical environment and it is actually very rare to have a patient who did something "wrong" that caused the miscarriage. Unfortunately most are just unexplained-maybe that particular egg and sperm weren't the most compatible, maybe it was a different problem altogether.

What I can say for a fact is that you not being 100% sure about the idea of a baby right now (which is entirely normal even during a much planned pregnancy) did not cause this.

Please give yourself lots of love and care and don't feel guilty for anything.

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@Buffy101 @Grainedesesame @TheVeryHungryTortoise thank you all for responding. The doctor at the hospital said that it does not sound serious enough to be seen on the same day by EPU so I am scheduled for a scan tomorrow at 11am. Blood tests cane back normal and nothing to worry about! What's strange is when I got home a few hours ago there was brown blood when I wipe but not a lot and now it's just smudges of brown blood when I wipe with no clots, I'm unsure what this is because there is no red blood, just cramps. My boyfriend was heartbroken and I felt so bad , I understand now that there is nothing I could have done but I soo wish my lil baby could have stuck a bit longer. I am going to hold on to that little speck of hope that maybe this was just a random bleed (because it has now stopped and very brownish in colour) until the scan tomorrow. Xxx

@Buffy101 @Grainedesesame @TheVeryHungryTortoise thought I would update you ladies and this thread in case it helps anyone else. I had my scan today, the nurse saw a heartbeat and we saw the baby on the scan. I spoke with the doctor afterwards and she said she has no idea as to what caused the bleeding and that it can be normal for some women to bleed. I was scared shitless as it was exactly like a period bleed. Fingers crossed xx

I'm so pleased to read this news! What a relief. Take care you both xxx

It may be a subchorionic haematoma. I had one with my second daughter. I bled continuously from 6-12 weeks. Was pretty scary time.

@Grainedesesame thank you :-)
@Bigbopboo I think you may be right, I've read loads about this being a possible cause especially that the doctor said she doesn't know what could be causing the bleeding x

Lovely news @loveyourself87

This has brightened up an otherwise crap evening for me, Many thanks and good luck for the rest of your pregnancy.

Are you still smoking now or do you mean before you knew you were pregnant? Because that really can up your mc / bleeding risk. I was born premature because my mum smoked and the placenta became damaged.

@Sizeofalentil I am smoking during the pregnancy but have spoken to the dr today and told her I want to quit, she asked me to see my gp this week to get some patches as it may be hard for me to quit cold turkey! However, it is a priority for me.. thank you for sharing x

Lovely to hear about the hb.
Please do get all the help you can though to quit smoking. This is very important.

Amazing news! I'm so happy for you. Wishing you a lovely straight forward and happy pregnancy

Amazing news! I'm so happy for you. Wishing you a lovely straight forward and happy pregnancy

@loveyourself87 Thank you for taking my message the way I intended it and not getting upset that I said it. A lot of people don't realise that smoking can damage a placenta, and I feel like I'd kick myself later if I didn't tell someone who smoked if something was to happen later.

I hope that this was just a blip and everything is going to go amazing from now on

I’m delighted for your news! Thanks for updating.

I smoked for 30 years 😱 and the only thing that hit me to quit was the Nicolette QuickMist mouthspray. It’s amazing. It delivers a blast of nicotine that gives you the same immediate “hit” as a cigarette. They’re expensive in Boots, much cheaper on Amazon, and FREE from your local NHS Stop Smoking service.

Patches, etc, don’t replace that “hit”.

Anyway, good luck. So happy for this news.

OP, it may be difficult for you to stop smoking, but it will be even more difficult for your unborn baby if you continue. You need to stop now, for the sake of the baby.
I apologise if that sounds harsh, but it's something I feel really passionate about.

@Soontobe60 sorry for the salt in responding, completely agree with you and have now purchased the Nicolette spray to use! I want the best for this little baby and will look after my health! I am cramping at the moment and in a lot of pain but fingers crossed this is normal xx

OP, can I just say, my mum smoked when pg with me 30+years ago (please don't judge, she was a smoker before her pregnancies - then quit, got pregnant, lost 4 children in a row before me and then the doctors feared any extra pressure on her female parts would be a bigger threat to her pg with me than if she has one cigarette per day and goes to the toilet - might have been an odd and wrong advice, but it was a long time ago).

Anyway, to the point. I suffered for years and years as a child from regular nose bleeds, allergies (particularly to cigarette smoke), I was nearly asthmatic and gone through years and years of upper chest infections. That was not what doctors predicted 30 odd years ago.

But we know this now, and you cannot ignore this. This isn't only a potential thread to you and your pregnancy. In doing so, you are likely sentencing your child to years of suffering, and this is not right. Please, please, please, stop now. Best of luck.